"Sympathy" as written by and John Rzeznik....
Stranger than your sympathy
And this is my apology
I've been killing myself from the inside out
And all my fears have pushed you out

I wish for things that I don't need
All I wanted
And what I chase won't set me free
It's all I wanted
And I get scared but I'm not crawling on my knees

Oh yeah everything's all wrong yeah
Everything's all wrong yeah

Stranger than your sympathy
I take these things so I don't feel
And all these thoughts from the inside out
Now my head's been filled with doubt

It's hard to lead the life you choose
All I wanted
When all your luck's run out on you
All I wanted
And you can't see when all your dreams are coming true

Oh yeah it's easy to forget yeah
And you choke on the regrets yeah

Stranger than your sympathy
All these thoughts you stole from me
I'm not sure where I belong
Nowhere's home and I'm all wrong

And I wasn't all the things
I tried to make believe I was
And I wouldn't be the one to kneel
Before the dreams I wanted
And all the talk and all the lies
Were all the empty things disguised as me
Yeah
Stranger than your sympathy
Stranger than your sympathy


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"Sympathy" as written by John T Rzeznik

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  • +5
    General CommentI think "stranger than your sympathy" means that he's surprised that the person feels sympathy for his situation despite all the things he's done wrong.

    The second & third verses I think have many references to being famous and the life that comes along with it...

    "It's hard to lead the life you choose" would be him saying that the perfect life isn't always the easiest one.

    "You can't see when all your dreams are coming true" would be him neglecting important things (i.e. family, WIFE!!!) because he was blind to them when the rockstar dream came true.

    "It's easy to forget" is everything on the road, maybe groupies, drugs, ect. really doesn't mean anything after the tour is over and it's easily forgettable. "and you choke on the regrets" meaning that he's done so many crazy things on the road that seemed like good ideas at the time, but now he regrets it all.

    I think the whole third verse is where he comes home from the tour and thinks, "where is home? i'm a rock star, i'm famous, people love me" but he can't find a place to belong... and maybe he's realizing that everything he'd come to believe about himself on the road was really a big balloon filled with false pride.

    Yeeah that's about as deep as i get.
    punkynoisethingon June 01, 2002   Link
  • +3
    General CommentIt's odd how someone can take the emotions and feelings that pump through you everyday and put them into words when you've been trying to for months
    Dustaon May 27, 2002   Link
  • +2
    General CommentI love this song, but anyway, when i listen to it, it seems more about spirituality then anything. Like finding God.

    "Stranger than your sympathy" would be God's sympathy and forgiveness that he's saying he doesn't deserve it and "my apology" is him asking for forgiveness.

    "killing myself from the inside out" would be him doing things that arnt right (drinking, w/e) and the sins are killing him spiritually before they're effecting him physically. "all my fears have pushed you out" thats pretty self-explanatory

    "I wished for things that i don't need" Thats saying he's wished for or wanted material things or things that are selfish "And what i chase won't set me free" I like that line alot, i think its about going after things that are morally wrong, and when you chase after them you are a slave to that sin, be it alcohol, drugs or sex etc.

    I don't know, theres alot of emotion in this song, the singer just sounds really confused, like he just got a reality check or something and he's seeing everything in a new light. Thats my take on the song neway, its a great song.
    Rachel7688on July 02, 2004   Link
  • +1
    My OpinionWhen someone understands the real you.
    Taking drugs daily to escape.
    Apologizing for not being able to live up to the dreams they shared.
    Fear of recovery, pushing her away instead of living sober.
    Wishing for love, although at the moment they do not need anything but drugs/alcohol/pills
    Wanting to love and being loved but so numb, unable
    Chasing a high, being chained down unable to live and love
    Fear but unable to go to her and make things right
    He is living in denial, he wants to stay there
    He thought she would be believe and stay, fooled himself in believing the lies he told her
    Continuing his addictions, destroying his body...she loves him more then he has
    ever loved himself
    She understands him, sees him and loves him still
    She lives her life sober, "hard to live the life you choose", he takes the
    easy way out, unable to face life sober and hard to deal with
    everything he has been hiding from
    Their love was superficial, no depth because he is an addict
    "All your luck runs out on you" He feels alone, all his luck can't
    keep her, he is unable to love her and she realizes this
    Everything he ever wanted is right before him, the dreams he has wished for.
    He has always dreamed of someone like her, but he is unable to appreciate her.

    musicismyboyfriend74on January 19, 2010   Link
  • +1
    General Commenthey hey,
    My take, as I'm sure it's been done before but haven't read through all the comments, is that Johnny is in somewhat of an argument - with himself. I get to that because the "All I wanted" (which is throughout the whole song), to me anyway, is like a response to the previous line, an excuse almost. He wanted things he didn't need and chase things that would set him free, the life he chose IS hard, but he chose it and at some point in time, it got so hard and "luck ran out" (maybe the consequences of being simply who he is) It's an "internal" song, mixed with what he is thinking of saying to someone. A point form journey as HE looking for sympathy from someone but finds it very very "strange" considering his life and how successful he has been (who can relate to Johnny?) The rest of the song would follow with that form. Probably way way off from what he intended, but hence the beauty of music and what it can do to someone.
    KrzewskiKrewon September 09, 2010   Link
  • 0
    General CommentSuch a pretty song..
    runaway05on May 30, 2002   Link
  • 0
    General CommentSweet sad melody...
    bee_happyon June 01, 2002   Link
  • 0
    General Commentaahh i can soo relate to this song, sad but good mellow lyrics
    rockin EMO grrlon June 01, 2002   Link
  • 0
    General CommentI love this song so much... its beautiful! wow!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!;):)
    AmericanBeauty84on June 03, 2002   Link
  • 0
    General Commenti can listen to this song 24/7 and not get sick of it...
    eilason June 09, 2002   Link

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