"Only When I Lose Myself" as written by and Martin Gore....
It's only when I lose myself in someone else
That I find myself
I find myself
It's only when I lose myself in someone else
That I find myself
I find myself
Something beautiful is happening inside for me
Something sensual, it's full of fire and mystery
I feel hypnotized, I feel paralyzed
I have found heaven
There's a thousand reasons
Why I shouldn't spend my time with you
For every reason not to be here I can think of two
Keep me hanging on
Feeling nothing's wrong
Inside your heaven
It's only when I lose myself in someone else
That I find myself
I find myself
It's only when I lose myself in someone else
That I find myself
I find myself
I can feel the emptiness inside me fade and disappear
There's a feeling of contentment now that you are here
I feel satisfied
I belong inside
Your velvet heaven
Did I need to sell my soul
For pleasure like this
Did I have to lose control
To treasure your kiss
Did I need to place my heart
In the palm of your hand
Before I could even start
To understand
It's only when I lose myself in someone else
That I find myself
I find myself
It's only when I lose myself in someone else
That I find myself
I find myself


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"Only When I Lose Myself" as written by Martin Gore

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    General CommentGreat song and a great video as well...if anyone ever saw it, it was based on a series of paintings where people who died in car crashes come back to life. Freaky, to say the least, but fits their gloominess.

    This should have been placed on "Ultra", but somehow ended up as a separate single...

    As for a meaing - it seems to be about love, but might have a double meaning:

    I can feel the emptiness inside me fade & disappear
    There's a feeling of content that now you are here

    Maybe its about love akin to drug - you know, the chemistry and all that stuff. When its gone, you start to feel withdrawal symptoms, so Dave is obviously painting good parallels to drug use.
    Alastison April 16, 2006   Link
  • +1
    My InterpretationHas anyone else considered this to be a song about infedelity?

    "It’s only when I lose myself in someone else
    Then I find myself
    I find myself"

    When we meet someone new, we feel that they really understand us. Loosing yourself in somone to discover how they see you allows you to see "find" yourself.

    "Something beautiful is happening inside for me
    Something sensual, it's full of fire and mystery
    I feel hypnotized, I feel paralized
    I have found heaven"

    This is the butterflies, the excitment of someone new. It's sensual, new, etc. It's addicting, paralizing.

    "There’s a thousand reasons
    Why I shouldn't spent my time with you
    For every reason not to be here I can think of two
    Keep me hanging on
    Feeling nothing’s wrong
    Inside your heaven"

    You shouldn't be there, your cheating, but you can't draw yourself away from that perfect place.

    "I can feel the emptiness inside me fade & disappear
    There's a feeling of content that now you are here
    I feel satisfied
    I belong inside
    Your velvet heaven"

    The feeling you had with your partner perhaps what led you to cheat. There is a sense of belonging with this new person.

    "Did I need to sell my soul
    For pleasure like this
    Did I have to lose control
    To treasure your kiss
    Did I need to place my heart
    In the palm of your hand
    Before I could even start
    To understand"

    Selling your soul is the risk of being unfaithful. Loosing control, giving your heart to feel loved again.

    Concert Junkieon December 12, 2008   Link
  • 0
    General CommentIt's a song about longing for someone, even when you know that loving them might not be right. To me it's one of the most sensual songs I've heard.
    joeprogon May 24, 2002   Link
  • 0
    General CommentIt's a song about longing for someone, even when you know that loving them might not be right. To me it's one of the most sensual songs I've heard.
    joeprogon May 24, 2002   Link
  • 0
    General CommentI cry everytime I listen to it! It reminds me a guy that I MUST forget!!
    Mrs_Gahanon August 30, 2002   Link
  • 0
    General Commenti feel like crying when i listen to this song
    Maerajon December 24, 2004   Link
  • 0
    General CommentYeah this has a lot of meaning for me too....loving someone who is out of bounds is a nightmare...been there and done that.

    'There’s a thousand reasons
    Why I shouldn't spent my time with you
    For every reason not to be here I can think of two
    Keep me hanging on
    Feeling nothing’s wrong
    Inside your heaven'
    diamondblue1974on July 15, 2005   Link
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    General CommentBut he says

    It’s only when I lose myself in someone else
    Then I find myself
    I find myself

    Something beautiful is happening inside for me
    Something sensual, it's full of fire and mystery
    I feel hypnotized, I feel paralized
    I have found heaven

    I feel this song describes what being in love, madly in love, is. It might seem wrong, but it isn't. There might be thousand reasons why it seems you should not be together, but they are not important, because in your heart you feel it's the right thing.

    It’s only when I lose myself in someone else
    Then I find myself

    Love is about taking risks, about losing control and giving yourself to another person.You can't always try to be in control of everything. There's a happiness in feeling this hypnotizing, overwhelming feeling of love. :)
    nightanddayon December 29, 2005   Link
  • 0
    General Commentwell said, nightandday! :)

    oh, and Dave belongs in my velvet heaven. ;)

    sorry, I couldn't help it!
    Mode_Chickon January 21, 2006   Link
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    General CommentSounds like Velvet heaven is being high on something! addiction to drugs.
    DMBLISSon March 02, 2006   Link

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