"Losing Lisa" as written by and Folds/hynes....
The lights are off again
She took me by surprise
She's so sensitive
This shit just happens sometimes
She's my everything
She's my best friend and more
We don't do anything
We didn't do the day
Before you go
You ought to know
That I didn't mean to hurt you, I just wanted you to know

Black tears are falling down her face
And I am wrong
Black tears are falling and she won't say what I've done
She's sitting here beside me, then she is gone
Black tears are falling, falling

Remember long ago
Together laughing, loving
Oh so long ago
When we were buying something
Life was simple then
But she's not happy now, and I
Don't feel anything
Her lips are moving
I am mesmerized
By tiny lies
I'm watching as the shapes are drawing slowly from her eyes

Black tears are falling down her face
And I am wrong
Black tears are falling and she won't say what I've done
She's sitting here beside me, then she is gone
Black tears are falling, falling
Black tears are falling, falling

Losing Lisa
Losing Lisa
Losing Lisa
And there's nothing I can do

Black tears are falling, falling (ooh ooh) [Repeats]

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"Losing Lisa" as written by Frally Hynes Ben Folds

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    My OpinionThis song is about two people becoming disillusioned by a long term relationship. It's written from the perspective of a "typical" male (read: oblivious) observing the response of a "typical" female (read: over sensitive) during this time.

    She is getting to the end of her tether with all the things he does that make her
    angry eg. things that may appear to be inconsiderate or selfish and her "black tears" are tears of anger and frustration that nothing's changing.

    She has got beyond explaining why she's pissed off (She won't say what I've done) However, a lot of the conclusions she has come to are a result of how she interprets his actions as opposed to how he means them. so while she assumes he's well aware, he genuinely doesn't understand what he's done wrong, he just knows that is her default attitude (black tears are falling down her face and I am wrong) and despite them still bothering to spend monotonous time around each other (we don't do anything we didn't do the day before) she seems to have checked out of the relationship (She's sitting here beside me and she is gone) thus, he can see he's losing her but doesn't have a clue how to prevent it or, indeed, whether he even wants to any more.

    They had a great relationship in the start, built on friendship and mutual understanding (remember long ago, together laughing loving) but also characterised by youth and naivety, forged before they grew up together and became jaded by all of life's necessary sacrifices. Back when they both believed in hope and promises (oh so long ago, when we were buying something). He still remembers all that and does, on some level, still consider her to be the same person she was (she's my everything, she's my best friend and more), which refers to his memory of them at their best and what there relationship was intended to be but he's heard the same things from her so many times that they've become meaningless, he's zoned out and, in this particular case, has entertained himself by watching the movements of her angry complaints causing lines to appear on her face. Lines from ageing that never used to be there (her lips are moving, I am mesmerized by tiny lines) This is about a couple who are RIGHT on the brink of their relationship breaking down through lack of communication. Neither of them knows how to fix it because they're not listening to each other. They never evolved from the initial spark in to learning to understand each other but the memory of what they used to be has driven them to drag it out regardless, sticking with their respective bad habits to the point of no return. It's an extremely common scenario that a lot of people can identify with. Neither party is at fault, but it just doesn't work.
    CatKeechon August 01, 2013   Link
  • 0
    General CommentI like.
    Edit the sad partson January 10, 2002   Link
  • 0
    General CommentThe line, "She's sitting here beside me, then she is gone," that's powerful stuff.
    bigmeanie2002on May 11, 2002   Link
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    General Commentwhen I first heard this song,coincidentally I just lost someone I really loved so it was just the perfect time to sing along.
    cuteLSDon May 11, 2002   Link
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    General Commentthis reminds me of my exboyfriend who left me cause i cheated on him which was my fault in all aspects and i dont blame anyone that hates me cause that was really wrong but im not here to apologize to strangers. anywho, yeha this reminds me of him because although i didnt like him like that anymore, i still loved him as my best friend and now hes gone just like that, figuritively and literally. he moved away last week. yeah that majorly sucks and blows. ah well..lifes a bitch.
    your_name_hereon June 05, 2002   Link
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    General CommentAwesome song. I feel like this album is so much more serious than his work from Ben Folds Five.

    Wow. For some reason, I always thought that this song was about the speaker losing his loved one (Lisa), because he worked so much. Because of his job or whatever, his relationship with Lisa is failing.

    Didnt know it was more general.
    anna118kon June 10, 2002   Link
  • 0
    General CommentThis song is supposedly about suicide.
    dance_is_lifeon June 14, 2002   Link
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    General Comment..mm this one amazes me.
    blue skyon July 25, 2002   Link
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    General Commentit would be ironic if it was about suicide...the beat is so uppity and happy-like and the meaning is so deep and uuh..meaningful. do you suppose it was supposed to be that way? sometimes people cover their emotions up no matter how dark they are with an optimistic facade, do you think this is just a song of pure happiness shielding angsty feelings?
    your_name_hereon August 14, 2002   Link
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    General Commentanna118k- no, it's not because of his "job or whatever", it's about his girlfriend or wife killing herself. and it is not general, it is specifically about one thing. second, darren sings in underground, not ben, durrr.... and third, have you not heard The Unauthorized Biography...? how can you say that ben folds cd is more serious than that??

    and to your name here i do believe that the meaning *was* supposed to be meaningful... i think its also an angsty song showing angsty feelings...
    socorentheadon August 16, 2002   Link

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