I'm only pretty sure that I can't take anymore
Before you take a swing
I wonder
What are we fighting for?
When I say out loud
"I want to get out of this"
I wonder
Is there anything I'm going to miss?

I wonder
How it's going to be when you don't know me
How's it going to be when you're sure I'm not there
How's it going to be when there's no one there to talk to
Between you and me
'Cause I don't care
How's it going to be
How's it going to be

Where we used to laugh there's a shouting match
Sharp as a thumbnail scratch
I silence I can't ignore
Like the hammock by the doorway we spent time in
Swings empty
I don't see lightning like last fall
When it was always
About to hit me

I wonder
How's it going to be when it goes down
How's it going to be when you're not around
How's it going to be when you found out there was nothing
Between you and me
'Cause I don't care
How's it going to be

How's it going to be when you don't know me anymore
How's it going to be

I want to get myself back in again
The soft dive of oblivion
I want to taste the salt of your skin
The soft dive of oblivion, oblivion

How's it going to be when you don't know me anymore
How's it going to be
How's it going to be
How's it going to be



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  • +3
    General Comment:I think everyone can agree that this song brings back memories, it just has that type of an atmosphere..
    and its so relateable, everyone's been through something like that or similar.
    But the general feeling i get from the song is....fear. The fear we all have. The fear that we will never be able to go back to the good times that we are missing right now. The fear of change. That, even though you know the situation you are in needs to end (whatever the situation is), not wanting it to end. Not wanting to take that step that will change everything, even if that change is needed. The fear of making the wrong decision, and then realizing your mistake only after its too late. The whole 'This needs to happen, but....what's it gonna be like? When i can't talk to you anymore?' The lines "How's it gonna be..when you don't know me? How's it gonna be..when you're sure i'm not there? How's it gonna be..when there's noone there to talk to..between you and me" capture that feeling perfectly. The hesitation. The unsure-ness. The fear.
    They won't know your life, your problems, your joys anymore. They won't know YOU anymore.
    The thought that someone who is so much a part of your life right now....will eventually be nothing. It's terrifying.
    meeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeon March 22, 2012   Link
  • +3
    General Comment:This song is definitely about someone who knows he has to get out of the relationship but he's not quite ready yet. He's sitting down wondering how it'll be when they're finally over; they won't associate with eachother anymore so it'll be like the don't know eachother. He wishes he could go back to the way things used to be when he was cluelessly in love and that's why he's hesitant to end the relationship.
    FavSongon July 04, 2012   Link
  • +2
    General Comment:Three words: Stupid highschool romance...Not to say I don't miss those days, this song captures that for me.
    thisboyon January 28, 2002   Link
  • +1
    General Comment:Okay my opinion is that this song is about a highschool love that is basically just sex it was great at one time but kinda burned off and the only thing that makes him not want to leave is the sex, i want to get my self back "in" as inside her and the "soft dive into oblivion" well you understand into oblivion . its either that or all the yelling and fighting is forgotten when they are making love
    PatricktheHumanJukeboxon January 15, 2010   Link
  • +1
    General Comment:When a girl dumps a nice guy..it sucks! The boy starts singing, how's it gonna be...
    MisterMeaningon June 25, 2010   Link
  • +1
    General Comment:There's an entire aspect to breaking up that deals with something other than the initial sadness and hurt you feel when the break-up happens. This part deals with the feelings that happen afterward. Its the feeling you get when you realize you aren't going to be able to see, hear from, talk to that someone you have spend so much time getting close with. It is a powerful longing feeling, and I think this song really does an excellent job tapping into that level. This song is very powerful, and sometimes I have a hard time listening to it. It's heartbreaking.
    amc83on August 11, 2010   Link
  • +1
    General Comment:This song reminds me of my my EX so bad i just think maybe if she could have changed and stop what she was doing i wouldnt have broken up with her.. Shitty Days
    MacBlueson December 12, 2011   Link
  • +1
    General Comment:1st verse: He is saying he is in a bad relationship, need to break it off and wonder if he will miss her.
    2nd verse: Angry, wondering what it will be like for her without him.
    3rd Verse: He talks about how fast things went from great to fighting and reminisces about the time they spent together and how empty time will be without her but also realizes there will be no more fighting (lightning hitting him)
    4th verse: More pondering how the break up will go and thing will be past that.

    Lastly he admits he or a part of him want to just for get all the problems and water under the bridge and just make love to her, oblivious to the past, present and future pain:
    I want to get myself back in again (Want to be back with her)
    The soft dive of oblivion (Sex with no thought of current reality...like it used to be.)
    I want to taste the salt of your skin (Sex)
    The soft dive of oblivion, oblivion

    Nicely written breakup song with sadness, anger, reminiscent of good and bad and finally the same urge that makes people get back together again and again...wanting to forget the bad...hoping to be oblivious to the hurt they have caused each other that triggers the fighting. The hurt that will never allow them to be a happy couple again.
    WBlakeon October 19, 2013   Link
  • 0
    General Comment:I love this song because it reminds me of me and my boyfriend, we break up like all the time...and I wonder how it's gonna be when we don't get back together. You gotta love the sad depressing songs that you can relate to.
    twisteron January 06, 2002   Link
  • 0
    General Comment:This is the most amazing song in the world! The 4th and 5th lines hit me every time! There aren't even words for this one.....
    riskbreaker419on April 18, 2002   Link

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