"So Unsexy" as written by and Alanis Morissette....
Oh these little rejections how they add up quickly
One small sideways look and I feel so ungood
Somewhere along the way I think I gave you the power to make
Me feel the way I thought only my father could

Oh these little rejections how they seem so real to me
One forgotten birthday I'm all but cooked
How these little abandonment's seem to sting so easily
I'm 13 again am I 13 for good?

I can feel so unsexy for someone so beautiful
So unloved for someone so fine
I can feel so boring for someone so interesting
So ignorant for someone of sound mind

Oh these little protections how they fail to serve me
One forgotten phone call and I'm deflated
Oh these little defenses how they fail to comfort me
Your hand pulling away and I'm devastated

When will you stop leaving baby?
When will I stop deserting baby?
When will I start staying with myself?

Oh these little projections how they keep springing from me
I jump my ship as I take it personally
Oh these little rejections how they disappear quickly
The moment I decide not to abandon me


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"So Unsexy" as written by Alanis Morissette

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    General CommentI think a primary point of this song is the fact that when you're an insecure person (like I am), it really is the little things that people don't do that cab really make you feel shit. How, because you have all these hang ups, one thing, like someone's hand pulling away, or someone forgetting to call can make all the difference between a good day and a bad one.
    CakeAndSodomy69on August 19, 2005   Link
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    General Commentshe's giving this guy the power to make her feel like crap about heself because she is insanely insecure. the whole chorus sounds to me like she is trying to convince herself that she's wonderful, but my only clue to that is the rest of the under rug swept ablum. she sounds like sh'es trying to make other people believe that she likes herself a whole lot more than she really does...

    at any rate, she's giving this guy way too much power over her feelings and she knows it, but the insecurities fade when she starts living for herself
    dunnomuchon January 07, 2006   Link
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    General Commentthis is what my boyfriend always makes me feel...
    i don't know maybe it's a woman thing, when the man stopped being 'nice' and start being 'men' and we stopped feeling too special.. :)
    i love this song!!!
    tazieon June 10, 2008   Link
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    General CommentI'm pretty sure this song is about living with Borderline Personality Disorder. High functioning, beautiful and successful can have it and still be extremely insecure. They have the emotional maturity of a child because it has never developed properly. Thus being 13 forever. Similar to her song eight easy steps.
    Kicknsandon April 16, 2015   Link
  • 0
    General CommentI can really relate to this song. Everyone tries to compliment me by saying all of these things which are really just exaggerations, and I don't see what they are seeing.
    fadedon April 27, 2002   Link
  • 0
    General Commenti like this song
    cantankerouson May 27, 2002   Link
  • 0
    General CommentI love this song, especially the chorus. Sometimes I know that I'm "beautiful" & "interesting;" other times I'm "unloved" and "boring."
    musicchick44on June 03, 2002   Link
  • 0
    General CommentThis song is really good. I can understand how she feels. Being with or wanting someone who makes you feel insignificant. Who is so wonderful you feel like nothing.
    SpydersKysson June 17, 2002   Link
  • 0
    General CommentThis is a great song, and I bet everyone can totally relate to it, I know I do. Who hasn't felt that way? You think someone is looking at you, and you start to worry about what they're looking at. Great song, great lyrics, great sound to it.
    maybabyon September 26, 2002   Link
  • 0
    General CommentThis is such a relatable song. When you find someone who is amazing, its hard to think that they believe the same about you. You feel like they are too "beutiful, fine, smart.. etc" for you to ever be with them
    Just a Girlon April 06, 2003   Link

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