you know he's not the one for you
but that's no fault of mine
he knows that i'm a friend of yours
but doesn't know i've crossed the line
i know you've got a man in the picture
but it hasn't stopped me yet
we've all been in one situation or another
we regret

now i'm the other man, no one's rooting for me
if i'm the other man, nature will abhor me

you know i wanna keep my distance
'cause it's happenin' anyway
he knows you're gonna drift apart
and there's nothing he can say
i know that he's a stand up guy
but that's none of my concern
we've all been in one situation or another
and it's my turn

to be the other man, no one sympathises
when you're the other man, everyone despises

he's gonna find out the the rumours are true
though they are still unbeknownst to you
he'll find out so i'll tell you because
you gotta find out before he does


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    General CommentSpecifically this song is about Chris Murphy's relationship with Leslie Fiest of Broken Social Scene, Fiest, By Divine Right fame. She was going out with one of the guys from Broken Social Scene, Kevin perhaps? Anyway, obviously exploring the point of view of Chris as the "Other Man".

    A very good song, especially exploring the other side of things, being the cheater. It really shows that things are more complex than black and white. Society always paints the "Other Man" as a bad guy, which is pretty unfair.
    billboneson August 01, 2005   Link
  • 0
    General CommentThis song remindes me of the situation I am in with a girl I realy like, the exact situation in the song is realy happeing to us.
    ussbananaon April 20, 2002   Link
  • 0
    General CommentHeh... this song needed to be written. No one ever talks about being "the other man". It's good to know that someone else doesn't really feel that bad for going after someone else's girl.
    geekon April 18, 2003   Link
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    General CommentYay it's good to be the "bad" guy, even though 9 times out of ten you get your lights punched out and your car scratched end-to-end.

    I am still a tad confused by the last part, about rumours being unbeknownst to "her". Does this mean the "other guy" never told "her" how he feels, even though everyone else knows/sees it (which would be very bad for our hero) ?
    Billcoon November 15, 2004   Link
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    General CommentI'm in this exact situation right now, and it is the hardest thing I have ever had to be a part of in my entire life. I don't want to be an also, or be the bad guy, or the other man, it's just happening. It just gets to the point of no return and well decisions have to be made right?

    I think the last part talks about the rumors of you and this girl having an affair or cheating or whatever and the other man has to figure it out before her husband/b/f does so you can bail or leave or do the right thing whatever the case may be.
    clumsy_childon December 19, 2004   Link
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    General Commenter... also = asshole ffs
    clumsy_childon December 19, 2004   Link
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    General CommentThis song is my personal favourite of sloan. This is due to its great tune but also lyrics. I've been seeing a girl for about a year, and I'm not the other man but i fear him coming along. Like the song says "he knows you're gonna drift apart
    and there's nothing he can say
    i know that he's a stand up guy
    but that's none of my concern" Possible the most agonising lyric i've heard as i fear this will happen.
    andybudon June 24, 2005   Link
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    General CommentTo answer Billco about the last paragraph, I think the 'other man' hasn't expressed his intentions yet to the girl he's getting along so well with.

    I think he's hitting it off so well with the girl, that he's driving a wedge between her and her bf, because he has a connection with her that she doesn't have with her bf. Even though the bf may be a stand-up a guy and all, that doesn't matter because they are falling apart because of him.

    At this point, even if the 'other man' were to keep his distance, the damage he caused is already done, and the girl and her bf's relationship falling apart would be 'happenin' anyway'.

    The girl may not be totally aware that she's fallen for the 'other man', but he knows that he better confess his intentions to her soon because her bf is going to put two and two together soon enough.
    soldtheworldon July 02, 2006   Link
  • 0
    General Commentwho woulda thought to sing a song about the other man? usually its a song about 1 on 1 relationships but this song is more realistic...sloan is awsum
    soadnoton September 29, 2006   Link
  • 0
    General Commentyeah, I been there.
    man, that was one EFFED UP situation.
    but I didn't even want the girl...it was the booze!
    seriously though...bad times.
    deadeyeduckon January 31, 2007   Link

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