"Stigmatized" as written by Alex Band, Aaron Kamm Kamin and Eric M. Bazilian....
If I give up on you, I give up on me
If we fight what's true, will we ever be?
Even God himself and the faith I knew
It shouldn't hold me back, shouldn't keep me from you

Tease me by holding out your hand
Then leave me or take me as I am
And live our lives stigmatized, yeah

I can feel the blood rushing though my veins
When I hear your voice, driving me insane
Hour after hour, day after day
Every lonely night that I sit and pray

Tease me by holding out your hand
Then leave me or take me as I am
And live our lives stigmatized, oh, yeah

We live our lives on different sides
But we keep together, you and I
Just live our lives stigmatized

We'll live our lives, we'll take the punches everyday, oh
We'll live our lives, I know we're gonna find our way, yeah

I believe in you even if no one understands
Yeah, I believe in you and I don't really give a damn
Oh, we're stigmatized, yeah

We live our lives on different sides
But we keep together, you and I
We live our lives on different sides

We're gonna live our lives
We gotta live our lives
We're gonna live our lives, yeah, yeah
We're gonna live our lives
We're gonna live our lives, yeah, stigmatized

Lyrics submitted by punkmebabygal

"Stigmatized" as written by Alex Band Aaron Kamin

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  • +3
    General CommentActually, the song is about a gay couple. Alex supposedly asked Aaron about gay marriages being hard and he said that they would have to live "stigmatized", hence the song. There is an extra verse, however, that they perform in concert. This is it:

    well i'd write you all a letter
    to say my last goodbye
    i just think its time for me to go away
    well the sun it seems to sink now
    like my love into a grave
    this life is not yet over
    but does it need to be saved?
    the chambers of my heart
    echo all the same
    this solitary man drives himself insane
    well i'll come back
    i'll smile once again
    try and try 'till i die
    to make you understand
    my love will make you understand
    'cuz we're stigmatized
    manprettys_pantieson May 02, 2002   Link
  • +1
    General CommentAfter reading the prior comments, I can definitely see the side of this towards a gay couple. I for one knows how it feels, because I'm not sure what I am..though I definitely love guys. Still we must all have felt a connection, that is just a bit beyond one's friendship, etc., I'm not sure if any of the guys are gay, but I'm pretty sure Alex and Aaron aren't..On their band journal, Alex has mentioned going out with their girlfriends. Regardless of which, we should love them either way..They are extremely talented and so much more. Also, even if they look faggish, that means nothing, because looks can never take the place over facts..So you guys should stop classifying that way.
    PunkNerd915on July 01, 2002   Link
  • +1
    General CommentEven though Alex says this song is about being an outcast, I personally think this song is talking about a gay couple. If anyone else has seen them in concert and heard the additional verse it is much more apparent.
    JustThatGoodon July 23, 2002   Link
  • +1
    General CommentThis song makes me cry....Its just too good to be true...
    YouLiedon September 02, 2002   Link
  • +1
    General Commenti think its about a person who wants to hold on to their relationship regardless what others think...

    is it really a gay song? :)
    dopeydopeon September 15, 2002   Link
  • +1
    General Commentfor me it means one or both of them are already married, thus making their love "illegal".
    mezmeryzeon April 21, 2003   Link
  • +1
    General CommentIt probably is about a gay couple, and these two lines sort of gave me that notion:

    "Even God himself and the faith I knew
    Shouldn't hold me back, shouldn't keep me from you"

    A lot of Christian faiths do not believe gay relationships are right, and shun people who are, in fact, gay or lesbian [as well as bi-sexuals.] The lyrics above are stating that this man who used to be a part of a congregation or parish would rather be with the other man he loves, than continue with his religious journey. And he doesn't want the religion he used to be a part of to hold him back from being with the other man, just because it's wrong in their eyes.

    Make sense? No? I figured. XD

    Nonetheless, I usually don't think about the song relating to a gay couple when I listen to it. It's a beautiful song though, I love the lines:

    "I believe in you
    Even if no one understands"

    The energy, and the emotion displayed in this song is truly amazing. The Calling is a wonderful band.

    :: Kat
    enigmatic_gyrationon June 30, 2003   Link
  • +1
    General CommentCould very possibly be about a gay couple. But it could also about different races dating. Just a thought.
    shouted silenceon May 27, 2004   Link
  • +1
    General CommentI have always thought of this as a song about a gay couple. The title says it all 'Stigmatised' which means to have stigmata put apon, and gay people have alot of that. THis song is the sound track to my life (exept the religion thing lol)
    techno_dykeon June 28, 2005   Link
  • +1
    General Commenti dont think it is partcularly about a gay couple but about all couples that have a stigma put on them such as gay couples, interracial couples, or even like a spouce is having an affair and the other spouce takes him/her back people put a stigma on them because their still together.
    rikaeon July 31, 2005   Link

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