"This Time Around" as written by Lo Tove, Kyle Shearer and Nate Campany....
I used to take your breath away
I used to make your laugh about anything
I used to be your getaway
Your getaway, your dream
I was every thing you needed
You used to lean your eyes on me
You used to open up and share your world
You used to lose yourself in me
Let the hours pass, oh, running by so fast

But now, what I'm doing
Don't know, what I'm doing

'Cause I don't even feel it
Bodies growing colder with the distance now
And I don't even mean it
Got my hands all over you, but not a sound
I'm always so in love, all in
Till you lost your goal, and I'm thinking
Thought you'd make me feel it
Thought that I'd be different this time around
This time around

We started out as lonely hearts
We started with a promise built on highs
You said I was the missing part
Looked into my eyes said
"You're my fix for life"

But now, what I'm doing
I don't know, what I'm doing

Cause I don't even feel it
Bodies growing colder with the distance now
And I don't even mean it
Got my hands all over you, but not a sound
I'm always so in love, all in
Till you lost your goal, and I'm thinking
Thought you'd make me feel it
Thought that I'd be different this time around
This time around

Don't know what I'm doing
This time around
This time around
Don't know what I'm doing
This time around
This time around
Ooh

'Cause I don't even feel it
Bodies growing colder with the distance now
And I don't even mean it
Got my hands all over you, but not a sound
Oh, I'm always so in love, all in
Till you lost your goal, and I'm thinking
Thought you'd make me feel it
Thought that I'd be different this time around
This time around

Don't know what I'm doing
This time around
This time around
Don't know what I'm doing
This time around
This time around


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"This Time Around" as written by Nate Company Kyle Michael Shearer

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    My InterpretationSad that no one else has commented on this one. Like many of Tove Lo's songs, it is a sincere and heartfelt exposing of some very personal and dark truths of her romantic relationships and from this we can learn a lot about her as an individual. It's a beautifully written song about falling out of love, but it's about way more than that.

    Forgive me for looking at it from what may seem like a narrow and biased angle, but what I say doesn't detract from the many truths in this song that many people can relate to who have ever been in an intense relationship or who maybe have a tendency to lose the themselves in relationships and/or go from one to the next. This isn't that uncommon.

    But I can't help but notice the many Borderline traits that Tove Lo exhibits in her self admittedly honest songwriting and in her interviews etc. I think it's quite possible that she could have Borderline Personality Disorder, but I in no way claim to diagnose her with it, but do find the similarities uncanny. And I feel that looking at her songs with this lense can often give a deeper understanding, with so many more connections and a more cohesive whole.

    So this song has always seemed to me to be about HER falling out of love - and that is what the chorus repeats "Cause I don't even feel it". She's the one who doesn't seem to be feeling it anymore. She seems to be talking about herself when she says that she "thought that I'd be different this time around". Clearly she's the one who keeps falling out of love.

    So why then does the first verse consist of her talking about her partner like he's the one falling out of love with her? It seems she's noticing these things - like she doesn't take his breath away anymore and he doesnt laugh with her anymore and he no longer feels like she's his getaway or dream, he no longer opens up and shares his world etc.

    People with BPD are known for self-sabotaging a relationship whenever they feel the first signs of abandonment or rejection. It's far easier to convince yourself that you're the one falling out of love with them, than to feel like you're being abandoned. But on some level she knows that it's her problem.

    If he's the one falling out of love with her, how is that her problem, you might ask?

    Well firstly, she would see that as reflection of her own self-worth, which she (as someone who likely has BPD) would derive from the relationship. "Thought you'd make me feel it (ie self worth)".. This is why it's incredibly revealing how she words the first verse in terms of herself. Notice how all of his feelings are in relation to herself and how it's framed in a way that makes it seem like she's not enough.
    She keeps looking for relationships, wanting to have that sense of self worth and thinking that she's found "the one" -because of BPD idealization, they tend to go "all in" and so this lends to thinking it will be different "this time around".

    So why does it keep not working out? Is he falling out of love with her or is she falling out of love with him?

    On some level, often unconsciously, people with BPD like to seek out relationships that affirm their preconceptions about their self-worth (i.e. 'people will always leave in the end because I'm not lovable') and so it keeps not working out because on some level Tove Lo self-sabotages the relationship, by maybe choosing someone who isn't good for her or a long-term relationship, or by getting defensive the minute there's the slightest sign of rejection.

    Notice this revealing sentence (they have it wrong in the lyrics above): "I'm always so in love, all in 'til I start going numb thinking".
    At the start it's a rush of chemicals and hopes and idealization like I touched on. It's the THINKING that's making her go "numb". This thinking is causing her to be unable to "feel it". The thinking is the reality she's thought all her life - that she isn't good enough, that people will always leave etc. Clearly the going numb is a PROTECTIVE defense mechanism against these things, triggered by the fear that he doesn't love her as much as she loves him etc.

    I could go on, but I think I'll stop here, having made my main point.
    rainbow777on March 19, 2017   Link

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