"First" as written by Dann Gallucci, Joe Plummer, Matthew Maust, Nathan Willett and Matthew Schwartz....
Cheated and lied, broken so bad
You made a vow, never get mad
You played the game, though it’s unfair
They’re all the same, who can compare?
First you lose trust, then you get worried
Night after night, bar after club
Dropping like flies, who woke you up?
On the front lawn, sprinklers turn on
It’s not your house, where’d you go wrong?
First you get hurt, then you feel sorry

Flying like a cannonball, falling to the earth
Heavy as a feather when you hit the dirt
How am I the lucky one
I do not deserve to wait around forever when you were there first

First you get hurt, then you feel sorry
There comes a time in a short life
Turn it around, get a rewrite
Call it a dark night of the soul
Ticking of clocks, gravity’s pull
First you get close, then you get worried

Flying like a cannonball, falling to the earth
Heavy as a feather when you hit the dirt
How am I the lucky one, I do not deserve
To wait around forever when you were there first
First you get hurt, then you feel sorry

You’re growing silent, the silent treatment
It’s not inviting now, but don’t deny what you meant
You get excited, you get excited
You got a feeling, oh, at least you can pretend
You wanna light it, you wanna light it
You wanna light it now, the candle from both ends
You get excited, you get excited

Flying like a cannonball, falling to the earth
Heavy as a feather when you hit the dirt
How am I the lucky one?
I do not deserve to wait around forever when you were there first
Flying like a cannonball, falling to the earth
Heavy as a feather when, you hit the dirt
How am I the lucky one?
I do not deserve to wait around forever when you were there first

First you get close, then you get worried
First you get close, then you get worried
First you get close, then you get worried
First you get close, then you get worried

You wanna light it, you wanna light it
You wanna light it now, the candle from both ends
You wanna light it, you wanna light it
You wanna light it now, the candle from both ends


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"First" as written by Matthew Maust Dann Gallucci

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    My InterpretationThe song itself is pretty self-explanatory I think - some kind of dysfunctional relationship with underlying trust issues. But the way it is written is truly eloquent and evocative; it's hard to listen to it and not feel some kind of personal connection. The narrator describes the impact that one bad experience can have on us, how it can then taint our perspectives and cause us to live in a state of anxiety and paranoia, believing that we are doomed to the same misfortunes over and over again. It also describes the general progression of any relationship, and the repetition of certain verses only reinforces the idea that we are in some sense going around in circles every time we get into a new relationship. A relationship always begins with a "first" and perhaps the title itself is a play on the old saying, "First comes love, then comes marriage..." Only the narrator is conveying a much darker, more cynical version of that, explaining how things are rarely picture perfect although they might seem that way at the beginning.

    "You'll play the game, though it's unfair
    They're all the same, who can compare?"

    This line suggests that everyone plays games, even if they do not realize it. Dating itself is a game - trying to find someone who you are compatible with, working up the courage to talk to them, hanging out for the first time and being on your best behavior... It's just this weird practice that is endemic only to the human species. Thus, he is chastising a girl for "playing games" but then realizes, well, everyone does to some extent, so how can I really compare? Humans rarely know what they want with absolute certainty.

    "First you lose trust, then you get worried"

    Unless you are exceptionally lucky, the person you are with is probably going to break or compromise your trust at some point. Sometimes it's as small as a white lie, other times it's as big as cheating. (The first line of the song suggests this.) But whenever and however trust is broken, it hurts. This makes me think of being young and in your first relationship. We tend to look at life with a very naive and hopeful mentality. That's why the first time something bad happens, it shatters us. It darkens our perspective, not enough to give up on love forever, but certainly enough where we never fully return to that type of innocent, child-like optimism. When you lose trust in someone or something, it leads to great anxiety and expecting the worst, and it follows you from there on, even in your future endeavors.

    "Night after night, bar after club..."

    A few different ways to interpret that. Could be that the pain drives you to engage in these sort of meaningless activities as a means of distraction. The video shows a guy drinking a lot, waking up on a stranger's lawn, etc. But I think it could also apply to the other person - maybe they are going out and having fun, and it makes you feel insecure and paranoid because you don't know exactly what they are doing.

    "First you get hurt, then you feel sorry"

    Again, a couple ways to interpret this. The first time I heard it, I took it to mean that even when we have done nothing wrong and people hurt us, we still absorb a strange sense of guilt i.e. "Maybe I deserve this." Or perhaps you become so desperate to make things right again that you are willing to apologize first, even though it's not really your fault. Another way to interpret it is just simply feeling sorry for yourself, your life, etc. You get hurt and then it seems like the whole world is falling down around you.

    "Flying like a cannonball, falling to the earth
    Heavy as a feather when you hit the dirt"

    Interesting, paradoxical imagery here. Cannonballs don't really fly, and feathers certainly aren't heavy. I suppose this just describes the conflicted feelings that can manifest in relationships. You can easily get caught up in the light, airy feeling of being in love and thinking everything is great, only to then plummet face first into the ground with no warning.

    "How am I the lucky one?
    I do not deserve to wait around forever when you were there first"

    This is my favorite line in the whole song. As always, we initially think we've lucked out by meeting someone and starting a seemingly great relationship with them. But as time goes on, we may start to question that. From watching the video, it seems like the girl has some commitment issues - she's going out different places, talking to different guys, etc. while her lover / ex-lover jealousy watches in the distance. Maybe she feels the need to explore he options or get more out of life. But the narrator doesn't think it's fair that he should have to wait around for her. "You were there first" seems to suggest that the other person was the one who initially showed interest, wanted the relationship, etc. And now they are being confusing, untrustworthy, and not showing any signs of true commitment. Also just my own personal spin on it: that person could be older, and thus there "first," so he/she should know what they want and not be playing games.

    "There comes a time in a short life
    Turn it around, get a rewrite"

    Not too sure about this whole section, but my guess is that it's a sort of existential assertion about how life is short and temporary, and we don't have an infinite amount of time to waste. So we need to "turn it around" and "get a rewrite" before it's too late.

    "First you get close, then you get worried"

    Again, showing us how getting close to someone makes us vulnerable. When you truly open yourself up to someone and give them your trust, it can be an uneasy feeling, especially if they have done things to jeopardize it. It can also describe how even when people do nothing to jeopardize it, we can still be irrationally worried that something bad is going to happen based on our past experiences.

    "You’re going silent, the silent treatment
    It’s not inviting now, don’t deny what you meant"

    Seems to be about mixed signals. Someone has become cold and avoidant. The other person finds it confusing, seeing as how they had previously been so "inviting." Maybe they also said they wanted something, and now they appear to want something different, hence, "don't deny what you meant."

    "You get excited, you get excited
    You got a feeling, oh, at least you can pretend"

    One of the most interesting aspects of this song is that it's hard to tell if / when the narrator is talking about himself / a general "you" in second person or if he's addressing another person. This line occurs at the part in the video where the girl is dancing at a party and having a good time. The narrator could be telling her, "You are excited because you're experiencing something new, it's a good feeling but you're just lying to yourself because you really want to be with me" or something like that. He could also be referring to himself, saying that he thinks things are going to start looking up for him, that he has some kind of "feeling" that he wants to believe, but that it probably isn't real and things aren't going to get any better. There's always that point in relationships where you feel like that, and just want things to work so badly.

    "You wanna light it now, the candle from both ends"

    This really sums up the song perfectly. One or both people don't really know what they want. This would definitely appear to be the girl in the video, who is seen dancing with other guys, then being driven home by her boyfriend / ex / whatever. She wants to have both options available to her. I also think it could be a metaphor for an unstable relationship in general. You're burning it from both ends - good and bad. You have the depressive lows when your trust is broken and things can't get worse, and you have the manic highs where everything seems right no matter how wrong it is.
    Priestesson August 03, 2015   Link
  • +3
    My InterpretationI think this song is explaining the confusing struggle between moving on to someone new versus staying true to your first love. It tells a tale that personally, I am very familiar with. The person in this song is torn between moving on from their first love and finding someone new or waiting for their first love to choose them and stay true. They are in this game of back and forth between who loves who. It seems that when the person is devoted to their first love, they want nothing to do with them. However, once the person moves on from their first love, the first love becomes interested and sparks the hope (the candle) that every thing can work again. So the person becomes paranoid with this constant debate of whether or not to move on - in this game they are playing they never know when they will be wanted, or essentially good enough, again. It's a game of trust issues and back and forth with bad timing. Both in the lyrics and the music video, it shows the struggle of bad timing, trying to move on, coming back to one another, and the constant fear of vulnerability that love creates. Love is truly a game and in order to be successful you must play it right - this shows the paranoia that occurs while playing the game from one persons point of view.

    "Cheated and lied, broken so bad
    You made a vow, never get mad
    You play the game, though it's unfair
    First you lose trust, they you get worried"

    This is talking about how the relationship between the person and their first love ended. Relationship and trust issues from maybe the first love being unfaithful yet the the person vowed to not get mad and hang on to the relationship or at least the person. The relationship then becomes a game of deciding how you feel. Do you pursue the person because of how you feel, or do you move on from the pain of the relationship and try to be happy with someone else?

    "Night after night, bar after club
    Dropping like flies, who woke you up
    On the front lawn, sprinklers turned on"

    This is saying that the person decided to try someone new. The new people are "dropping like flies" because they can't compare to the first love. They went out to the bars to get over the pain of losing their first love. "Who woke you up" is trying to figure out which person is the right one for the person. The sprinklers are the tormenting thoughts that keep on drenching the persons mind.

    "It's not your house, where'd you go wrong?
    First you get hurt, then you feel sorry"

    This is saying that the house is their first love; they're trying to figure out where they went wrong. How they could undo the past pain and get back to the happy trusting moments in the relationship. The person feels hurt so they moved on to someone else but then they feel sorry because they beat yourself up trying to figure out if it was right for you move on or if it was too soon. They're in a game of which scenario will bring them the most joy. It is a back and forth of who has their heart.

    "There comes a time, in a short life
    Turn it around, get a rewrite
    Call it a dark, night of the soul
    Ticking of clocks, gravity’s pull
    First you get close, then you get worried"

    This is talking about choosing to go back to the first love. Trying to make it right by having a "rewrite" and getting the timing right in the relationship with the mentioning of the clock and the underlying pull of gravity between them and their first love. Yet, they can't shake the feeling that you'll get hurt again and become trapped in the worrying game of what to do.

    "Flying like a cannonball, falling to the earth
    Heavy as a feather when, you hit the dirt
    How am I the lucky one?, I do not deserve
    To wait around forever when, you were there first
    First you get hurt, then you feel sorry"

    This is depicting the mental and emotional struggle that is created when trying to find out what to do. Do they wait around for forever for the first love even though there is a chance they will get hurt again? This ordeal causes a great pain but they can't deny the sense of hurt that they feel for trying to figure out what to do.

    "You're going silent, the silent treatment
    It's not inviting now, don't deny what you meant"

    The person shuts their first love out in retaliation. This could mean two things. This could mean they might go against advice of others such as friends that advise them to move on from their first love. This could also mean that they have chosen to move on from the first love, they shut them out, yet they can't deny that there is a love between the two of them.

    "You get excited, you get excited
    You got a feel it, oh, at least you can pretend
    You wanna light it, you wanna light it
    You wanna light it now, the candle from both ends
    You get excited, you get excited"

    This is saying that they meet someone new. They are excited at this new change. It's different and it's healthy. Hope has been re-kindled and they are happy with this new person.

    "Flying like a cannonball, falling to the earth
    Heavy as a feather when, you hit the dirt
    How am I the lucky one?, I do not deserve
    To wait around forever when, you were there first
    Flying like a cannonball, falling to the earth
    Heavy as a feather when, you hit the dirt
    How am I the lucky one?, I do not deserve
    To wait around forever when, you were there first

    First you get close, then you get worried
    First you get close, then you get worried
    First you get close, then you get worried
    First you get close, then you get worried"

    This is showing the questioning that takes place during the new relationship. The first love being manipulative in the game that both of them are playing. The person is happy with someone new yet they can't shake the worrying feeling that maybe they should have waited and stayed true to their first love. Maybe moving on was wrong, and they're afraid that they will lose their first love forever now. They are spiraling out of control like a cannon ball.

    "You wanna light it, you wanna light it
    You wanna light it now, the candle from both ends
    You wanna light it, you wanna light it
    You wanna light it now, the candle from both ends"

    The song ends with the everlasting hope of the person and their first love. They want to rekindle the flame that they know is there. The person wants to light one end of the candle and they want their first love to be willing to light the other end. A form of mutual agreement that the person and their first love are both dedicated. That trust has been resolved. That there are no more games to be played.
    Musicbolt22on December 11, 2015   Link
  • +2
    General CommentI think it's about a guy's relationship between alcohol and a new love. the alcohol was first, and she's trying to compete with it. It's an underlining theme in all the different scenes. In the end, alcohol, since it was first, wins.
    carlierae26on January 03, 2016   Link
  • +1
    Song Meaning"Cheated and lied, broken so bad
    You made a vow, never get mad"
    Broken marriage or long term relationship.

    "They’re all the same, who can compare?"
    Men are all the same, or so are Women?

    "First you lose trust, then you get worried"
    This is about love/hate and desire/fear of loss

    "Night after night, bar after club
    Dropping like flies, who woke you up?
    On the front lawn, sprinklers turn on
    It’s not your house, where’d you go wrong?
    First you get hurt, then you feel sorry"
    Self-loathing and pity

    "Flying like a cannonball, falling to the earth
    Heavy as a feather when you hit the dirt"
    This is a play on a physics conundrum: What hits the ground first a bullet fired(or cannon ball) or feather dropped from the same height. The answer is they both hit at the same time. So we could interpret this as it does not matter how fast we try to hit bottom, we will end up there in the end or at the same time.

    "How am I the lucky one
    I do not deserve to wait around forever when you were there first"
    The marriage/relationship seems over, but no one is leaving

    "First you get hurt, then you feel sorry
    There comes a time in a short life
    Turn it around, get a rewrite
    Call it a dark night of the soul
    Ticking of clocks, gravity’s pull
    First you get close, then you get worried"
    Each person in the relationship thinks they are ready to leave, but don’t

    "You’re growing silent, the silent treatment
    It’s not inviting now, but don’t deny what you meant
    You get excited, you get excited
    You got a feeling, oh, at least you can pretend"
    Sullen, yet excited to take action, but will it be to push someone away this time or pull them closer.

    "You wanna light it, you wanna light it
    You wanna light it now, the candle from both ends
    You get excited, you get excited"
    This is about taking on life, either burning passion or burning the relationship down and moving on. (which is the general them of the whole song)
    tom1051708on January 25, 2016   Link
  • +1
    General CommentThis song reminds me of that feeling when you get so close or intimate with someone, maybe it's a relationship or something that happened in the moment...but then it's all over the next day. The person stops communicating and you are left confused how something so wonderful just ends. To me, the song really outlines confusion and trust. When I heard it, I could definitely feel a connection.
    vscalettaon March 19, 2016   Link
  • +1
    My Interpretation"Cheated and lied, broken so bad"
    You’re hurt. You feel wronged. The lyrics have a universal theme to them, but the writers and vocalist are male, so for convenience I will refer to the narrator as a he.

    "You made a vow, never get mad
    You played the game, though it’s unfair"

    Narrator is not directing this to his lover. It is directed at everyone, including himself. Angry people don’t succeed in relationships, and one can avoid getting angry in a relationship by never assuming, never demanding. In other words, don’t get too close too fast. But it’s a dangerous game. We’ve all been rejected, and most of us have rejected at least one person in our lives. We are all victims, nobody’s completely innocent. We know there’s no use getting mad about it, we know it’s so often unfair, we vow to rise above it, but we are broken anyway.

    "They’re all the same, who can compare?"

    These are the extremes, the two ends of the spectrum. “They’re all the same” means they’re all fish in the sea, and the person in front of you is disposable. “Who can compare” means the person in front of you is a special person beyond compare, to be pursued forever. Most of us have pursued. Most of us have been pursued. We all play the unfair game, and we have experienced both ends of the spectrum.

    "First you lose trust, then you get worried"

    Is the other person less interested than you are? Is the other person more inclined to wander? Are you going to lose the game?

    "Night after night, bar after club
    Dropping like flies, who woke you up?"

    Drinking with others. Everybody’s hooking up, passing out, or both. You don’t want to be the only one left without a partner. But then you may wake up later with someone whose name you don’t know.

    "On the front lawn, sprinklers turn on
    It’s not your house, where’d you go wrong?"

    Some nights you’re the one left without a partner despite your best efforts. So you drink more. And then you wake up with a sprinkler whose name you don’t know.

    "First you get hurt, then you feel sorry"

    When hurt, we get angry. Angry/hurt people wind up alone. We may also drink a little extra. And we may end up feeling regretful regarding all of the above.

    "Flying like a cannonball, falling to the earth
    Heavy as a feather when you hit the dirt
    How am I the lucky one
    I do not deserve to wait around forever when you were there first"

    Highs and lows of romance. Flying high with great momentum, only to fall with similar momentum. Is that the final crash? Grounded forever? Or might you be swept up to fly once again? We're in love now. I’m the lucky one, I put you on a pedestal, I will wait around for you, even as I resent being made to do so. I thought I was the cool one, I thought you were pursuing me, I thought *you* were the lucky one, I thought you were pursuing me, waiting on me. Highs and lows. Also/alternately: Why am I so “lucky” that now is when I had to meet the one for whom I am doomed to wait around? I would prefer to have enjoyed playing the game with other partners first, then finally meet you at a time when you’re ready to match my interest, to live happily ever after with me.

    "First you get hurt, then you feel sorry"

    Somebody’s probably going to lose. Maybe both of us.

    "There comes a time in a short life
    Turn it around, get a rewrite
    Call it a dark night of the soul
    Ticking of clocks, gravity’s pull
    First you get close, then you get worried"

    Can we love again after being broken? Can a dead love be revived? We must try. But the closer we get, the greater the risk, and the worry.

    ". . .
    You’re growing silent, the silent treatment
    It’s not inviting now, but don’t deny what you meant"

    You once engaged. Now you pull away. If it’s because you’re disinterested, don’t deny it, and if it’s because you’re hurt, don’t say you’re disinterested. Both these lies are often told when playing the game.

    "You get excited, you get excited
    You got a feeling, oh, at least you can pretend
    You wanna light it, you wanna light it
    You wanna light it now, the candle from both ends
    You get excited, you get excited"

    You want love. You want love now, even though you’re worried, even though you may end up sorry, even though you’ve given/gotten the silent treatment, even though you’ve been hurt, even though you’ve been broken, even though you resent being the lucky one, or even if you think it's the other person who's lucky to have you, you want to light the candle up, you get excited, you want to light it at both ends.
    TheAmateuron June 28, 2016   Link
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    My InterpretationAfter watching the video and listening to the lyrics, this is what I thought the song meant. After doing this, I realized there were two videos. The video I saw was from a woman's perspective. I like that the lyrics don't give a pronoun in order to not suggest a particular side, so that both genders could feel a connection to it.

    “Cheated and lied, broken so bad
    You made a vow, never get mad
    You'll play the game, though it’s unfair
    They’re all the same, who can compare?
    First you lose trust, then you get worried
    Night after night, bar after club
    Dropping like flies, who woke you up?
    On the front lawn, sprinklers turn on
    It’s not your house, where’d you go wrong?
    First you get hurt, then you feel sorry”

    The girl finds out that the man cheated and lied in some way (not necessarily being unfaithful) and she started to see how he is broken. The girl makes a vow that she isn’t going to get mad about it. She continues with the relationship even though it’s not fair. She thinks the fights are all the same but no one compares to him, so she stays with him. She becomes worried and begins to not trust him. The man wakes up and realizes what happened and goes to apologize and everything “seems” to be back to normal (from the video).

    “First you get hurt, then you feel sorry
    There comes a time in a short life
    Turn it around, get a rewrite
    Call it a dark night of the soul
    Ticking of clocks, gravity’s pull
    First you get close, then you get worried”
    The girl is telling the man that his first reaction is to feel hurt himself, but after realizing it was him, he begins feeling sorry. She is telling him that he needs to turn his life around because life is short. She is trying to convince him that if he changes things around he could have a rewrite to his life – a second chance. She is also telling him that the clock is ticking on their relationship. She feels the strong pull of love and gets close to him, but then gets worried when she sees his true colors and begins to second guess staying in the relationship.

    “Flying like a cannonball, falling to the earth
    Heavy as a feather when, you hit the dirt
    How am I the lucky one?, I do not deserve
    To wait around forever when, you were there first
    First you get hurt, then you feel sorry”
    She says that it seemed, in the beginning, that the relationship was flying (going well), but once things hit the fan, she falls hard. There is some word play switching around that a cannon falls hard and a feather can seem like it is flying to show how confusing the feels can be. She thought in the beginning she was the lucky one, but then realizes she doesn’t deserve to wait around forever. She fell for him because he showed interested and was invested in the relationship first.

    “You’re going silent, the silent treatment
    It’s not inviting now, don’t deny what you meant
    You get excited, you get excited
    You got a feeling, oh, at least you can pretend
    You wanna light it, you wanna light it
    You wanna light it now, the candle from both ends
    You get excited, you get excited”
    He is no longer showing her the same love, attention, and commitment as he had in the beginning. She continues to say he went silent and is giving her the silent treatment. What he said and by him giving her the silent treatment can’t be denied because he means it. It is confusing, so she goes out and begins to party- trying to be excited about other new possibilities. She tries to get excited, but can’t, so she at least pretends. She wants to light the feeling of being excited to move on to something new, but also wants to light (keep) the feeling of the good she remembers from the beginning of the relationship so she wants to stay.

    He ends up regretting his actions after seeing how she is moving on (part of the video) and begins feeling sorry again. She slams the door shut (frustrated to be “pulled by gravity” towards him when she can’t feel excited about moving on). He then is happy (he smirks when she gets out of the car) because she ends up going back home with him because he has that control over her or because he is happy to have a second chance with her that he is happy not to have lost her.
    LoveMusic2343on September 28, 2015   Link
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    My InterpretationAlong with the lead singer looking so defeated in the music video (and he's not even the main character) the lyrics suggest to me someone who got burned in relationships and feels like just giving up.

    Cheated and lied, broken so bad
    You made a vow, never get mad
    You play the game, though it's unfair
    They're all the same, who can compare?
    First you lose trust, then you get worried

    Making a vow to never get mad at your partner is unrealistic and unfair. Maybe the partner cheated on him and is coming back saying to him "you said you'd never get mad." They're all the same - people, males, females - so who's to say you're better off with someone else or not? Obviously once you start to lose trust in someone, then those worrying feeling come up.

    Night after night, bar after club
    Dropping like flies, who woke you up?
    On the front lawn, sprinklers turn on
    It’s not your house, where’d you go wrong?
    First you get hurt, then you feel sorry

    Going out again after the breakup trying to find someone new, but the video and the lyrics suggest that the person is drinking excessively to kill his pain rather than actually meet someone new. Dropping like flies, passing out from drinking. After you get hurt, then you feel sorry for yourself or sorry for the choices you made (i.e. dating that person.)

    Flying like a cannonball, falling to the earth
    Heavy as a feather when, you hit the dirt
    How am I the lucky one?, I do not deserve
    To wait around forever when, you were there first
    First you get hurt, then you feel sorry

    Flying like a cannonball is a sarcastic and self-effacing statement. Heavy as a feather could mean that once you crash, you are dead or unconscious, and so don't feel any weight (or anything) - light as a feather. How am I the lucky one? sounds like a retort to the other person saying to him "You're lucky that..." "You were there first" could mean a number of things. It could even be talking to God, saying how is it fair that I have to wait forever for a partner, when you're the eternal being in this conversation, not me?

    There comes a time in a short life
    Turn it around, get a rewrite
    Call it a dark night of the soul
    Ticking of clocks, gravity’s pull
    First you get close, then you get worried

    The protagonist is reflecting on his "dark night of the soul" after the break up and realizing that this is his time to turn it around, and also that he is mortal (ticking of clocks, gravity's pull) and closer to death. First you get close, then you get worried seems to mean that once you get close to achieving a goal (or being in a relationship with that person you found) the more you worry about it going right or whether it is the right choice.

    You’re going silent, the silent treatment
    It’s not inviting now, don’t deny what you meant
    You get excited, you get excited
    You got a feeling, oh, at least you can pretend
    You wanna light it, you wanna light it
    You wanna light it now, the candle from both ends

    The silent treatment of someone going away when a relationship ends. The cry of "don't deny what you meant" towards someone who once said "I love you" but now is walking away. "You get excited" at the prospect of something new, but once you've been burned a few times that excitement isn't as genuine, so "at least you can pretend." Lighting the candle at both ends means trying to do too much, literally burning candles to stay up late and wake up early. It could mean staying up late to go out to the bars/clubs to find a new partner, or it could mean that once you find a new partner, you're so excited that you want to spend too much time with them. In either case, the result is eventually a burnout.
    superman9kon November 22, 2015   Link
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    Song MeaningSeems pretty self explanatory. The trials and tribulations of dating and breaking up and how the process repeats itself until you find the one... maybe.
    peter10074on January 08, 2016   Link
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    Song MeaningThe meaning of this song is often mistaken, in that, many assume that the song refers to the narrator.
    In actuality, the song is referring to another - the narrators love interest. This is clear in the use of "You" and "I".
    In short, this song describes a person who is being strung along by someone who is still caught up in their last relationship!

    The narrator describes a person who has been hurt in the past, and since, has compensated for that hurt.

    "Cheated and lied, broken so bad. You made a vow, never get mad."

    The narrator is in a relationship with this person, and feels as though he is being treated unfairly by him/her due to their past.

    "You play the game, though, its unfair. They're all the same, who could compare?"

    He then goes on to describe what it was like to be with this person,

    "First you lose trust, then you get worried."
    This describes how he feels he is unable to get close to him/her because of their lack of trust in others.

    He goes on to describe how his partner (or ex partner) goes out to clubs and bars, gets drunk and compensates for their past hurt.

    "Night after night, bar after club
    Dropping like flies, who woke you up?
    On the front lawn, sprinklers turn on
    It's not your house, where'd you go wrong?"

    He then continues to describe his current relationship with this person, in that this person feels guilt for how they treat him. They feel sorry for how they are behaving.

    "First you get hurt, then you feel sorry"

    He then describes a metaphor for how this person is behaving - goes on to say that he is the unlucky one in the relationship. He feels as though he has to wait for him/her to come to realize that he is a good person. He/she was his first choice, but the narrator was clearly not their first choice.

    "Flying like a cannonball, falling to the earth
    Heavy as a feather when you hit the dirt
    How am I the lucky one
    I do not deserve to wait around forever when you were there first"

    There is a point in the song where the narrator describes what his partner has said to him, or what he wishes to believe - that his partner is merely going through a stage, and eventually they will come out of it.

    "There comes a time in a short life
    Turn it around, get a rewrite
    Call it a dark night of the soul
    Ticking of clocks, gravity's pull"

    Finally, the narrator tells us that he does not believe that this person is genuine in their feelings - they still long for their ex, but they also want a relationship with the narrator (burning the candle from both ends). At this point, the narrator seems to be sarcastic (Oh, at least you can pretend)

    "You're growing silent, the silent treatment
    It's not inviting now, but don't deny what you meant
    You get excited, you get excited
    You got a feeling, oh, at least you can pretend
    You wanna light it, you wanna light it
    You wanna light it now, the candle from both ends
    You get excited, you get excited"

    The repetitive lyrics show how the two go in circles with this issue in their relationship, and how the narrator feels as though he is stuck.
    AntiKristenon April 18, 2016   Link

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