You always talk so loud and you never notice,
I don’t mind the sound
But you have rearranged the pieces of your life
So many times you burned out the light

I don’t want to believe but I want to believe you,
I don’t mean what I say but I say what I need to

Now your last name is mine
And it feels no different,
I made matchless shrines to prove
I’m trying to find a way I can explain
There was nothing else to possibly say

I don’t want to believe but I want to believe you
I don’t mean what I say but I say what I need to

You waste so much time
You waste so much time

Desperate friends trying to reconcile the bends
There is a name for men like you inside the dark
And I know your faults,
I know the way you write them off
I don’t want anything to do with it no more

I bet most the time you’re too insecure to admit it,
You’re the last in line to move

I’m running out of things that I could say,
Nothing that I've said is really helping anyway

I don’t want to believe but I want to believe you
I don’t mean what I say but I say what I need to

You waste so much time
You waste so much time



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    General CommentI'm pretty sure it is "I don't want to believe HER, I want to believe you"
    dandaman19620on July 17, 2014   Link
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    My InterpretationSurface level interpretation:

    It seems like a song about all of the quirks his spouse ("your last name is mine") has that bug him. The verses are basically him picking out the flaws, some major, some trivial ("you always talk so loud," "you've rearranged the pieces of your life so many times..."

    The chorus is how he deals with it. He has trouble trusting his wife. He says what he needs to (points out the faults).

    As the song goes on, he expresses frustrations as the relationship progresses. He thought that marriage would make him forget her faults, but he "feel[s] no different." He knows her faults, and she writes them off, or does nothing to fix them. I think the wasting time is his way of describing procrastinating dealing with her faults. He thinks that part of her hesitation is insecurity. {The first step to solving a problem is admitting you have one} kind of thing. He keeps lamenting her inactivity through the rest of the song.

    To get a little deeper:
    The song could just as well be about himself, writing from her perspective. In this case, he would essentially be praising her for saying what she needs to say, and lamenting his own inability to deal with his own shortcomings. E

    Either way, the song as a whole seems like a coping mechanism for him dealing with his frustrations in a relationship.
    jacksongf8on November 20, 2015   Link
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    General CommentThis song is about two people in a marriage that are there for the wrong reasons.

    The speaker begins with a criticism of his wife; "cause you always talk so loud and you never notice" and claims that he doesn't "mind the sound" but one wonders why he made the observation in the first place if that is really true. He then proceeds to a much more serious criticism about the way she has lived her life and "rearranged the pieces" in it. This first stanza shows some deep seeded resentments the speaker feels while trying to ignore that they aren't there.

    The chorus line " I don't want to believe but I wanna believe you" hints that the speaker doesn't want acknowledge the reality of his feelings or their incompatibility, but his marriage is borne from sympathy and perhaps pity; "but I wanna believe you" or he wishes that they were compatible.

    When he says "I don't mean what I say, but I say why I mean to" the speaker tells us that his words of love towards his wife are not genuine, but he says them because he must in order to continue the relationship.

    The next stanza "so your last name is mine" tells us that the marriage was initiated as a "matchless shrine to prove" that their love could continue ( and the word matchless reiterates his resentment). Despite being married it hasn't changed the speaker's feelings-- it has not made them a right fit.

    I believe the second chorus "you waste so much time" is both a reproach to his wife and a reproach to himself for continuing to be in an unfit marriage-- wasting time that is.

    At this point in the song we see a turn in which the speaker's words can equally apply to him; he and his wife are merely "desperate friends" rather than true lovers. Their marriage consists of trying to "reconcile the bends" (bends as in the way they have had to bend for one another-- the potentially unnecessary and unhealthy sacrifices they've made for their marriage). The speaker also "writes off" his own faults and would rather not acknowledge them.

    Both he and his wife are "too insecure to admit" that they should end the marriage and try to find a better fit for both of them, but they're always "the last in line to move" that is they hesitate.

    The title of the song is "Girl Harbor" because a harbor is a place where ships idyll and watch other ships pass by. This is the position of the speaker-- unable to move on from his marriage or unable to take a risk by departing from it, and watches other girls pass by.
    SWANZon March 30, 2017   Link
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    My InterpretationI always applied this to my situation at home with my religious mother. She would always put her beliefs before her relationship with us. We love each other very much but growing up it might as well been a wall between us. It was a tough thing to have your parents whom you trust very much tell you one thing, but you just know its not true. I ended up spending most of my childhood just following along to make them happy.

    "I don’t want to believe but I want to believe you,
    I don’t mean what I say but I say what I need to
    You waste so much time"

    The first time I heard this line I got shivers from my spine. My feelings perfectly explained. Isn't it great when you find an artist that can do this for you? Makes you feel not-so alone.

    "Desperate friends trying to reconcile the bends
    There is a name for men like you inside the dark
    And I know your faults,
    I know the way you write them off
    I don’t want anything to do with it no more"

    I relate this to how so many very perverted, malicious, and generally evil people use their christianity to justify hatred. On the outside looking in, the "who's more holy" pissing competition that goes on between the people in the church looks so silly, but they just don't see it that way.

    The whole "your last name is mine" thing is just a convenient irony I guess lol.

    NOTE: You can listen to this entire album in this theme and it all fits, Im not sure that its what he intended but in my opinion, the best poetry/music can fit anyone's life and be just what they need.
    Shanemarvin1990on August 04, 2017   Link

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