"Change" as written by Tim Anderson and Jillian Banks....
Always cold
While you'd self-incriminate
By avoiding all my questions
And calling me an instigator
Cut me down
Always calling me unstable
You so easily can make me cry
Just cause you are in a mood
And you'd say

Call me out
You would say I need attention
Just because I put on makeup
To ironically look good for you
Cut me to pieces
While you watched me disintegrate
Because you like to tell me how you hate
All the ways I'm not enough for you
Then you'd say

Baby don't go
I didn't know
I'll change I swear
I'll change I swear
Baby don't go
I'll make you wait
I promise I'll be better
All of these things they will change

Baby don't go
I didn't know
I'll change I swear
I'll change I swear
Baby don't go
I'll make you wait
I promise I'll be better
All of these things they will change

Never guilty
Say it ain't your fault
Because you had an emotionally abusive daddy
And cause of this you don't know how to act

Poor poor baby
Say you can't help the fact that you're so crazy
And you're so good at making me feel guilty
For trying to walk away
Because I'm tired of being mad
Then you'd say

Baby don't go
I didn't know
I'll change I swear
I'll change I swear
Baby don't go
I'll make you wait
I promise I'll be better
All of these things they will change

Baby don't go
I didn't know
I'll change I swear
I'll change I swear
Baby don't go
I'll make you wait
I promise I'll be better
All of these things they will change


Lyrics submitted by LilyBear, edited by Erodox, Danamatt

"Change" as written by Tim Anderson Jillian Rose Banks

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    General CommentWhat is entered above is not the correct words to this song:

    Always cold
    While you'd self-incriminate
    By avoiding all my questions
    And calling me an instigator
    Cut me down
    Always calling me unstable
    You so easily can make me cry
    Just cause you are in a mood
    And you'd say

    Call me out
    You would say I need attention
    Just because I put on makeup
    To ironically look good for you
    Cut me to pieces
    While you watched me disintegrate
    Because you like to tell me how you hate
    All the ways I'm not enough for you
    Then you'd say

    [Chorus]
    Baby don't go
    I didn't know
    I'll change I swear
    I'll change I swear
    Baby don't go
    I'll make you wait
    I promise I'll be better
    All of these things they will change

    Baby don't go
    I didn't know
    I'll change I swear
    I'll change I swear
    Baby don't go
    I'll make you wait
    I promise I'll be better
    All of these things they will change

    Never guilty
    Say it ain't your fault
    Because you had an emotionally abusive daddy
    And cause of this you don't know how to act

    Poor poor baby
    Say you can't help the fact that you're so crazy
    And you're so good at making me feel guilty
    For trying to walk away
    Because I'm tired of being mad
    Then you'd say

    [Chorus]
    Erodoxon December 26, 2013   Link
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    Song MeaningThis song, like some of Banks's other tacks, is about emotional abuse in a relationship. It's being sung to an abusive ex and clearly lays out the Cycle of Abuse (also called the Cycle of Violence, which includes emotional violence).

    She lists examples of the ways the abuser mistreats her/ his tactics to damage her self-esteem:
    "Cut me down" (put downs and insults)
    "Always calling me unstable" (training her not to show emotions that inconvenience him by shaming her for them)
    "You so easily can make me cry just cause you are in a mood" (when he is in a bad mood and needs to feel better, he pushes her buttons to bring her down so she feels even worse than he does).

    "You would say I need attention / Just because I put on makeup / To ironically look good for you" (um yeah- trying to get HIS attention, but he suggests that she is trying to get other guys' attention because he is jealous like most abusers).

    She also includes some of the abuser's excuses for his behavior:
    "Never guilty/ Say it ain't your fault / Because you had an emotionally abusive daddy/ And cause of this you don't know how to act."
    ....he is clearly blaming his abuse on the fact that he had a crappy role model (his dad) from whom he learned how to treat women. This is extremely common with abusers: blaming someone else so he doesn't have to take responsibility for the abuse; otherwise he would have to do something about it.

    We hear more of his appeals to make her feel sorry for him so he can avoid taking responsibility:
    "Poor poor baby/ Say you can't help the fact that you're so crazy."

    Then she demonstrates the Cycle of Abuse, where after he is abusive and she is fed up and wants to leave him, he keeps her roped in with what he says during the "Honeymoon Phase," which are empty promises that he will change:
    "Baby don't go" <---begging her to stay with him
    "I didn't know" <---lying that he didn't realize what he said/did would hurt her
    "I'll change I swear" <-- such BS...a false promise that he makes every time

    "I'll make you wait" is her way of saying that he always takes so long to show signs of changing that- surprise!- it never happens at all.

    Over time, this cycle just wears her down and she stays. The guy basically uses tactics to guilt trip her at this point every time she gets fed up and tries to assert her right to leave him:
    "And you're so good at making me feel guilty/ For trying to walk away /
    Because I'm tired of being mad." <---(she is getting worn down; anger takes too much energy).
    This is another form of abuse, actually: not respecting a person's right to end the relationship and manipulating them into staying, like he does.

    Because the song is sung in the present, it suggests to me that the singer is aware of what is going on in the relationship, but is so drained and so stuck, that she just can't get out, and every time she tries he just pulls her back in.
    kalonkakonon July 14, 2016   Link

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