"Smother" as written by Elena Veronica Tonra and Igor Alexandre Haefeli....
I'm wasted, losing time
I'm a foolish, fragile spine
I want all that is not mine
I want him but we're not right

In the darkness I will meet my creators
And they will all agree, that I'm a suffocator

I should go now quietly
For my bones have found a place
To lie down and sleep
Where all my layers can become reeds
All my limbs can become trees
All my children can become me
What a' mess I leave
To follow

In the darkness I will meet my creators
They will all agree, I'm a suffocator

Suffocator
Oh no
I'm sorry if I smothered you
I sometimes wish I'd stayed inside
My mother
Never' to come out


Lyrics submitted by overmatt, edited by jabada

"Smother" as written by Elena Veronica Tonra, Igor Alexandre Haefeli

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  • +16
    My InterpretationI can't relate to this song SO much.

    Although I agree with blue_bathtub that it can be read in an end-of-a-relationship context, I also think that the song is really more general.

    Sometimes, you think you are worth nothing. That you cannot be loved, that you don't really deserve life. You want "all that is not [yours]," that is, a standard and a happy life, with a good job and a family and someone who truly and tenderly loves you. You don't think you are good enough to have it - and when it comes to love, when you sincerely fall in love with someone, you are quite sure that he does not want you, that "[you're] not right."

    In a way, you perceive yourself as a "suffocator," mainly for the ones surrounding you. But the one you are really smothering actually is you. That second verse really makes me think of suicide: it's like she does not want to live anymore, because she thinks she useless. Therefore, by committing suicide, she thinks she will not only help the ones she knows (she won't be a burden for them anymore). In a more down-to-earth interpretation, it's also like her body, by disintegrating itself, will help vegetation to grow (and so turn her into a useful "thing"). Following the same idea, but more poetically, it reminds me of a description of death found in Philip Pullman's trilogy "His Dark Materials," where it is said that dead bodies liberate, in a way, their molecules, which will expand into nature and form rivers and trees and the sky...

    The last verse eventually describes more accurately that feeling that she does not do anything except wasting her friends and acquaintances' time. The emphasis laid on the fact she would rather stay "inside her mother" is overwhelming, in my sense.

    I love Daughter and the way they embody all sorts of feelings in their songs. They are indeed all linked to sadness and even sometimes despair, but they are so true...
    twoplanetson November 18, 2012   Link
  • +4
    My Interpretation"I am wasted, losing time "

    This could mean wasting away or even wasted drinking alcohol to forget the pain, and in essence, losing time by being drunk through hours of time

    "I’m a foolish, fragile spine
    I want all that is not mine
    I want him but we’re not right"

    These three lines really signify some sort of regret to me, but also a sense of "how could I be so sensitive and stupid". And now I want him so bad, even though I know I regret having been with him. He made me feel so vulnerable and now I want him still. I can't stop being vulnerable.

    "In the darkness I will meet my creators
    And they will all agree, that I’m a suffocator"

    This part is really upsetting because she is imposing a lot of self blame. I know I was smothering, I know that even my creators would say so. They are disappointed in me too. Really feeling alone and at fault. That point in the break up where you start to miss them and feel like "please, let us just forget everything and just be lying beside each other. I miss your touch so much"

    "I should go now quietly
    For my bones have found a place to lie down and sleep
    Where all my layers can become reeds
    All my limbs can become trees
    All my children can become me
    What a mess I leave
    To follow"

    She is really expressing a deep sadness and hopelessness. I am such a mess, and I am leaving such a mess of me behind. A mess of someone who only smothers and suffocates others. She is really regretful, as if she feels like she is the worst person in the world.


    "Oh no
    I’m sorry if I smothered you
    I sometimes wish I’d stayed inside
    My mother
    Never to come out"

    Again, it is that coming to terms with oh my god, I am so sorry. I am sorry if I smothered you and drove you away. I feel so worthless and I just wish I didn't exist.

    Overall this song is so sad, Elena must have been in a really dark place writing this one. There is such desperation of not wanting to be alone, this really hit home.
    ch3rryxon March 31, 2013   Link
  • +2
    My Interpretation"I'm wasted, losing time
    I'm a foolish, fragile spine
    I want all that is not mine
    I want him but we're not right"
    -To me this is talking about "inner demons". In my case-Depression, anxiety, bipolar, anorexia. Also feelings of guilt, shame, regret, jealousy, lust, etc.

    "In the darkness I will meet my creators
    And they will all agree, that I'm a suffocator"
    -To me this describes laying in bed at night wishing to die. You're depressed and are contemplating what happens after death, how you die, etc. You feel like a burden on everyone; you're suffocating yourself, and those around you.

    "I should go now quietly
    For my bones have found a place
    To lie down and sleep
    Where all my layers can become reeds
    All my limbs can become trees
    All my children can become me
    What a mess I leave
    To follow"
    -I also feel this describes contemplating suicide. It seems almost peaceful, with mention of trees/children, and I would agree with the person wanting to be "useful". They don't want to hurt anyone around them anymore, but their feelings are such a mess.


    "Suffocator
    Oh no
    I'm sorry if I smothered you
    I sometimes wish I'd stayed inside
    My mother
    Never' to come out"
    -They feel so sorry for all the trouble/harm/hurt they've caused. They sometimes wish they never existed, because then they wouldn't have been a burden.
    Technocolourson December 27, 2013   Link
  • +2
    My InterpretationI feel she's talking about someone she loves but the feelings are not reciprocated. Her "creators" are her parents. In the darkness of depression and rejection, she meets with them and her parents are telling her she is giving too much of herself to someone who doesn't even appreciate her--that she needs to give this guy some space.

    I love this song so much and the most powerful part of it is in the end: She yearns to go back into her mother's womb where she was safe from the sting rejection and sorrows in life. Hence the name "Daughter."
    19john82on January 21, 2014   Link
  • +1
    My InterpretationI agree with what everyone else has already posted, but i have a few things i'd like to interject.

    "I am wasted losing time.
    I'm a foolish fragile spine.
    I want all that is not mine.
    I want him, but we're not right."
    -The singer is expressing her discontent with how she has handled her relationship that has failed. she is saying she is a waste of being if she is not with him, and that she is running out of time to get him back. She was foolish not to take better care of their relationship, and to give him some space. and now she wants him but he doesn't want her.

    "In the darkness I will meet my creators.
    They will all agree that I'm a suffocator"
    -ch3rryx did a really good job at explaining this, so you should go look at his/hers. She is expressing how guilty and alone she feels about how this has all turned out, and that she accepts full blame for being a 'smotherer'.

    "I should go now quietly.
    For my bones have found a place to lie down and sleep."
    - At this part, she is saying that she should just go away without anybody noticing her parting, so as not to hurt any more people. She says she just wants to go away and rest, recover.

    "So all my layers can become reeds.
    All my limbs can become trees."
    -She wants to leave so that she can eventually become a better, more beautiful person.

    "All my children can become me.
    What a mess I leave. To follow."
    -She is saying that her whole life has been a torturous mess, and her children will likely follow in this destructive path.

    The chorus repeats again.

    "Oh love.
    I'm sorry if I smothered you.
    I'm sorry if I smothered you.
    I sometimes wish I stayed inside my mother.
    Never to come out."
    This I believe is the focus of the song (Obviously because it has the title in it). This verse is full of regret and sorrow at coming to the understanding that she drove him away, by relying too much on him and smothering him. She then comes to some borderline suicidal thoughts saying she wishes she had never been born.
    RemyCielon July 18, 2013   Link
  • 0
    My InterpretationMy first interpretive thoughts on this was that she was in a relationship, obviously, and was selfish throughout. Only thinking about herself, what she wanted out of the relationship, what could benefit her, but ignoring what mattered to her lover. Perhaps she was using him. She wanted him regardless of whether it was right for him to be with her because of her selfish nature. She suffocated the relationship because of her own desires. Not only did she ignore what negative consequences this could evoke upon her lover, but she also failed to see that this would bring negative consequences upon herself, ultimately: extreme guilt.
    Just my thoughts! Daughter is a great band. I love the lyrics.
    leah94roseon March 27, 2013   Link
  • 0
    My OpinionI honestly didn't think this song had anything to do with personal relationships but relationships in general. Like with those of family and friends. Or maybe even someone she did like.
    Personally to me, the song just made me think about how people who are depressed and dealing with a lot of self hate or guilt tend to push people out or "suffocate" them and just want to die. That this person is just one big burden to everyone and the creators are her parents who she thinks are disappointed in her life. She's apologising for smothering people, meaning she's sorry for shoving all her problems or causing problems for people cause of her issues whether it be loneliness, depression, anxiety or whatever.
    RyskerSeinon July 10, 2014   Link
  • -1
    My InterpretationIt sounds like someone who has just come out of a relationship. Most likely the other person ended it. Yet they are the ones apologising. They care about this person so much they were probably a bit too overbearing in the relationship. So now they feel ashamed. She feels like she should just go quietly and she wishes she’d never been born.
    blue_bathtubon October 14, 2012   Link

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