This is a hauntingly beautiful song about introspection, specifically about looking back at a relationship that started bad and ended so poorly, that the narrator wants to go back to the very beginning and tell himself to not even travel down that road. I believe that the relationship started poorly because of the lines:
"Take me back to the night we met:When the night was full of terrors: And your eyes were filled with tears: When you had not touched me yet"
So, the first night was not a great start, but the narrator pursued the relationship and eventually both overcame the rough start to fall in love with each other:
"I had all and then most of you"
Like many relationships that turn sour, it was not a quick decline, but a gradual one where the narrator and their partner fall out of love and gradually grow apart
"Some and now none of you"
Losing someone who was once everything in your world, who you could confide in, tell your secrets to, share all the most intimate parts of your life, to being strangers with that person is probably one of the most painful experiences a person can go through. So Painful, the narrator wants to go back in time and tell himself to not even pursue the relationship.
This was the perfect song for "13 Reasons Why"
You can have him, I don't want him
He's not worth fighting for
Besides there's plenty more where he came from
I don't want him, you can have him
I'm givin' him the sack
So he can go right back, where he came from
I'm afraid I never loved him
He'd be better off with you
I could never make him happy
All I ever wanted to do was
Run my fingers through his curly locks
Mend his clothing, darn his socks
(Live at The Pigalle: Mend his underware and darn his socks)
Fetch his slippers and remove his shoes
Wipe his glasses when he read the news
Rub his forehead with a gentle touch
Mornings after when he had a little to much
Kiss him gently when he cuddled near
And give him babies one for every year
So you see
That you can have him, I don't want him
I don't want him, you can have him
Because he's not the man for me
Then I close the windows while he soundly slept
Then I brayed the icebox where the food is kept
I'd fix him breakfast that would please him most
(Live at Talk Of The Town: I'd fix him breakfast he prefers the most)
Eggs and coffee and some buttered toast
... (crying)
Then I go out and buy the papers
And when they've been read
Spend the balance of the day in bed
So you see
That you can have him, I don't want him
I don't want him, you can have him
Because he's not my man
I don't want him, you can have him
You can have him, I don't want him
I don't want him, you can have him
Because he's not the man for me
He's not worth fighting for
Besides there's plenty more where he came from
I don't want him, you can have him
I'm givin' him the sack
So he can go right back, where he came from
I'm afraid I never loved him
He'd be better off with you
I could never make him happy
All I ever wanted to do was
Run my fingers through his curly locks
Mend his clothing, darn his socks
(Live at The Pigalle: Mend his underware and darn his socks)
Fetch his slippers and remove his shoes
Wipe his glasses when he read the news
Rub his forehead with a gentle touch
Mornings after when he had a little to much
Kiss him gently when he cuddled near
And give him babies one for every year
So you see
That you can have him, I don't want him
I don't want him, you can have him
Because he's not the man for me
Then I close the windows while he soundly slept
Then I brayed the icebox where the food is kept
I'd fix him breakfast that would please him most
(Live at Talk Of The Town: I'd fix him breakfast he prefers the most)
Eggs and coffee and some buttered toast
... (crying)
Then I go out and buy the papers
And when they've been read
Spend the balance of the day in bed
So you see
That you can have him, I don't want him
I don't want him, you can have him
Because he's not my man
I don't want him, you can have him
You can have him, I don't want him
I don't want him, you can have him
Because he's not the man for me
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You Can Have Him Lyrics as written by Irving Berlin
Lyrics © Universal Music Publishing Group
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