"The Lonely" as written by David Hodges and Christina Perri....
Two am, where do I begin
Crying off my face again
The silent sound of loneliness
Wants to follow me to bed

I'm a ghost of a girl
That I want to be most
I'm the shell of a girl
That I used to know well

Dancing slowly in an empty room
Can the lonely take the place of you
I sing myself a quiet lullaby
Let you go and let the lonely in
To take my heart again

Too afraid, to go inside
For the pain of one more loveless night
For the loneliness will stay with me
And hold me till I fall asleep

I'm a ghost of a girl
That I want to be most
I'm the shell of a girl
That I used to know well

Dancing slowly in an empty room
Can the lonely take the place of you
I sing myself a quiet lullaby
Let you go and let the lonely in
To take my heart again

Broken pieces of
A barely breathing story
Where there once was love
Now there's only me
And the lonely

Dancing slowly in an empty room
Can the lonely take the place of you
I sing myself a quiet lullaby
Let you go and let the lonely in
To take my heart again


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"The Lonely" as written by David Hodges Christina Perri

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  • +4
    MemoryI also believe that this song is about a loved one that has passed; someone that was very close to your heart. The first time I heard this song, I immediately started crying and can feel her pain, as if it was my own. I can relate to this song on so many different levels. Brings to mind so many memories of my past and explains exactly how I've felt for a long time now. Let me explain...My fiance, and also the father of my child, committed suicide when I was 6 months pregnant. My son is now almost 5 months old and a spitting image of his father. My constant reminder, kind of a bittersweet feeling if you'd ask me. I've been lonely ever since he took his life and cannot let go, it's been almost 8 months since he's passed but hasn't gotten any easier. It hurts just as much as it did the day I found out. He didn't even give his family a chance. I miss him so much and time cannot heal this hurt. This particular song gives me so much respect towards Christina Perri. I feel like she really knows the kind of severe pain I am going though as well. There is so much emotion in this song. Rest In Peace .PFC. Alexander M. Lenz of Fort Wayne, IN. Austin, your baby boy, and I miss you so dearly. One day we will meet again. I'll never forget you and as I've always told you, I'll love you forever and a day; My heart will never stop beating for you. You are the roots beneath my feet.
    TiffanyAnne724on December 15, 2013   Link
  • +2
    Song MeaningYet another great song by Christina (:

    I think the song pretty much speaks for itself

    A break-up, maybe a repeat. Hence the line: "To take my heart again"

    "Too afraid to go inside
    for the pain of one more loveless night
    But the loneliness will stay with me
    And hold me til I fall asleep"

    - It sounds like she was left alone and she tries to comfort herself or distract herself from the pain.
    RandiMarieon April 02, 2011   Link
  • +1
    Song MeaningThis song isn't about anything shallow and obvious like crying over some guy. It's an internal battle during a life transition when one is most at their most vulnerable state. That purgatory like stage in your life where you don't really know your place in life at the moment and still trying to figure out who you are. "The Lonely" being the unexplored person one craves to be.
    She's crying because she doesn't know where or who to be. She is familiar with her life but wants to grow and transition onto her next stage of life. It's scary to leave something you are accustom to, but once you become unsatisfied with yourself, you have to change.
    "To afraid, to go inside For the pain of one more loveless night". She's already cried her mask off and now has to face herself, whom she does not love at the moment. To avoid herself, she goes to sleep. No one is there to tell her how to figure out who she is or how to re-create herself and that's why it's silent, almost like a state of shock.
    "I'm a ghost of a girl that I want to be most" is describing how she has an idea of who she wants to be, but lacks the strength and conviction to be that solid person. Just like an actual ghost, who is still just wondering the earthly plane trying to figure out what mission they have to complete before they can transcend.
    "I'm the shell of the girl that I used to know well". She's just going through the motions of her younger self that is already established, until she figures out how to break free.
    "Dancing slowly in an empty room" reaffirms that she is just going through the motions of steps of life. To help calm herself on her journey of growth, she soothes herself just as a parent sings Lullabies to their children when they are stressed.
    This song is about the eye of the storm of being reborn. The only person that is going to be there forever is you and you have to know when to re-invent yourself to make yourself better. It's a constant cycle, of journeying into the unknown. Leaving the "broken pieces of a barely breathing story" behind as you break out of your too small and stagnant mold to create a new appreciation for who you are, where you'll find your heart again meaning love yourself again.
    In conclusion, you can't depend on anyone else to tell you who you are or validate your existence. You have to constantly figure it out on your own. Just as a Phoenix is reborn, it dies and is reborn again from the ashes of its former self.
    AuDaisyon March 07, 2014   Link
  • +1
    General CommentI don't think that this is another break up song or something, I feel how the song can relate to my life right now : it's about a girl that's something happened to her and she start staying away from anyone she became more and more lonely and that was a huge change she changed a lot, this girl doesn't recognize herself anymore, she looks in the mirror and sees a shell just the face of a girl that that she used to be.. but now everything is so different her life is just broke once she was happy she had love and real true happiness but now everything is gone and instead there is only loneliest that seems a good solution to everything.
    lonelygirl11on June 29, 2015   Link
  • 0
    Song Meaningher boyfriend has died or disappeared and she is saying about how she cant go on without him for much longer. she is scared of the loneliness and the pain it brings but she knows she has to let him go and give in to the lonely
    singsongs1on November 15, 2012   Link
  • 0
    My InterpretationTo me, this song is about being rejected a lot (not just by guys, but by people in general) and how the lonely (depression) can sink in. The pre chorus is about how she'll never be the same and how she wishes she could be the girl she used to be. The chorus is about how the one person who might truly love her left and she's not sure how to cope with it. It's also saying that she's letting depression sink in again. The bridge is about how she's had a tough life (a barely breathing story) and how she's left alone now.
    BlueRos3on January 05, 2014   Link
  • 0
    My InterpretationKinda struck me like it was about depression or something, actually. “2 a.m. where do I begin/crying off my face again”. Not shallow at all, don’t think it’s about a boy. I think it has something to do with mental illness.

    “I’m the ghost of a girl that I want to be most” a thing with depression or anxiety is comparing yourself to ridiculous standards, and knowing you’ll never make it there but trying anyway.

    “I’m a shell of a girl that I used to know well” mental illness can change people, like suddenly going from upbeat and happy in childhood to never wanting to leave your bed.

    “Dancing slowly in an empty room/can the lonely take the place of you” depression can be triggered by losing a loved one, too. Idk these are just my thoughts
    nihilillieon June 19, 2018   Link

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