"Needing/Getting" as written by and Timothy Nordwind Damian Kulash....
I've been waiting for months, waiting for years, waiting for you to change.
Aw, but there ain't much that's dumber, there ain't much that's dumber
than pinning your hopes on a change in another.
And I, yeah I still need you, but what good's that gonna do?
Needing is one thing, and getting, getting's another.

So I been sitting around, wasting my time, wondering what you been doing.
Aw, and it ain't real forgiving, it ain't real forgiving sitting here picturing someone else living.
And I, yeah I still need you, but what good's that gonna do?
Needing is one thing, and getting, getting's another.

I've been hoping for months, hoping for years, hoping I might forget.
Aw but it don't get much dumber, it don't get much dumber
than trying to forget a girl when you love her.
And I, yeah I still need you, but what good's that gonna do?
Needing is one thing, and getting, getting's another.

When? When? Why not now? Why not me? Why not me?


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"Needing/Getting" as written by Timothy Nordwind Damian Kulash

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    General CommentI love this song. My favorite parts are when it's all of them singing a capella "Aw but it don't get much dumber, it don't get much dumber than trying to forget a girl when you love her" and then at the end, the long instrumental part. When I listen to it, I feel like it's raining on a really calm day. So beautiful.

    I feel like Damian had some sort of revelation with this record. His lyrics in the past have been pretty blunt and cynical. This album's lyrics are a little bit sweeter. Sounds like he or someone else in the band (Damian doesn't just write from his own experiences as far as I know) is really in love. I know they're all in relationships... But the songs. Sometimes they're really hopeful, sometimes they're really sad, sometimes just plain sexy. Like, we hear songs like "Last Leaf" and it's so cute and sweet but just a little bit sad. A longing feeling. But then we hear "WTF?" and IWYSBICB and they're downright sexy. This song I feel like is more straight up until the very end.

    Okay I'm done :)
    Christa426on January 27, 2010   Link
  • +1
    General CommentIf you listen really closely to the song right around 4:15 and for the next thirty seconds or so, you can hear the chorus from "It's a Disaster" in the background. I just figured this out like a minute before this post, so I haven't really thought about the connection between the two songs, so I think I'll leave it to you guys. Your thoughts?
    sgilmore454on December 02, 2010   Link
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    General CommentThe new video music video from OK Go, made in partnership with Chevrolet, that was introduced in a super bowl commercial for the Chevy Sonic...is AWESOME! So much effort went into it and the music turned out excellent. This is a great song too...the lyrics being about the futility of trying to forget a girl you love. Not only useless but "there ain't much that's dumber". Well done, Ok Go!!
    RoseTeaCup1216on February 06, 2012   Link
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    General CommentDamian is (or was) going through a divorce at the time. The track "Lyrics" on the OTBCOTS Extra Nice Edition is really quite helpful.
    xxpieisawesomxxon April 09, 2012   Link
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    General Commenti loved all the comments. i see how this song can be interpreted as a friend zone thing, it may even make more sense than how i see it but considering Damian was going through a divorce at the time i think its not what he meant.
    i think this song is about giving up on a relationship. the fact that ur with someone doesnt mean u dont expect them to change. anyone will tell u thats no way to start a relationship and a terrible place to be but it doesnt mean u dont love the other person and want to be with them. its just maybe not whats best for u. so u try to do whats right but....thats not always easy to do.
    every verse is in a different time frame- the first is realization and break up, the second is doubt and reasoning and the third takes place a long while from then, when he realizes he just cant get past it.

    "I've been waiting for months, waiting for years, waiting for you to change.
    Aw, but there ain't much that's dumber, there ain't much that's dumber
    than pinning your hopes on a change in another."

    hes been in this relationship forever. and maybe he always expected some change from the other person. he hopes their relationship will be better and he'll b happier when that happens but realizes thats prob a dumb way to go about it. he realizes hell never get that. so he finely gives up on waiting ends it.

    "So I been sitting around, wasting my time, wondering what you been doing.
    Aw, and it ain't real forgiving, it ain't real forgiving sitting here picturing someone else living."

    he after the breakup, trying to get over that person but cant help but wonder what shes doing, a natural thing when u stop seeing someone uve been so close to for so long. and u start forgetting why u ended it, why u cant be with them instead of imagining where they are and what theyre doing right now.

    "I've been hoping for months, hoping for years, hoping I might forget.
    Aw but it don't get much dumber, it don't get much dumber
    than trying to forget a girl when you love her."

    its been a while but nothing has changed. hes still in love with her. he cant forget. if at first he thought it was dumb to stay with her and wait for her to change, now hes finding it dumb to try and forget her.

    and hes right. ending a relationship before u fall out of love, even if its the right thing to do, is practically impossible to get over. our culture teaches us love is everything, love is enough and nothing else matters. its not true, but how do u forget about someone u love so much?
    streycaton June 05, 2012   Link
  • 0
    General Commentdefinitely an amazing song
    notcreativeon September 28, 2010   Link
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    General CommentThis song really speaks for itself. Seems to be a simple story of a man's pilgrimage to love, only to take the wrong turn and end up in the friend zone.

    "I've been waiting for months, waiting for years, waiting for you to change.
    Aw, but there ain't much that's dumber, there ain't much that's dumber
    than pinning your hopes on a change in another. "

    Guy loves this girl, wants to be more than friends, and hopes every day that she'll look at him the same way he does, but she never will.

    And I, yeah I still need you, but what good's that gonna do?
    Needing is one thing, and getting- getting's another.

    He's torn apart by not being with her; he needs to be with her or he feels like he's missing a piece of his life, but he's never going to get her.

    So I been sitting around, wasting my time, wondering what you been doing.
    Aw, and it ain't real forgiving, it ain't real forgiving sitting here picturing someone else living.
    And I, yeah I still need you, but what good's that gonna do?
    Needing is one thing, and getting- getting's another.

    Guy's sitting at home, thinking of how happy she is doing something without him, and imagining how happy he know she'd be if they were together. Again, he needs it, but he just won't get it.

    I've been hoping for months, hoping for years, hoping I might forget.
    Aw but it don't get much dumber, it don't get much dumber
    than trying to forget a girl when you love her.
    And I, yeah I still need you, but what good's that gonna do?
    Needing is one thing, and getting- getting's another.

    My favorite part, a lot of people can relate to this. Now, he's trying to just forget her and move on with his life; but he knows it's not that simple, and that it's going to be one of the hardest things he's ever done, because he will keep thinking about how much he loves her.

    When? When? Why not now? Why not me? Why not me?

    Stereotypical final thoughts that constantly go through his head that he really knows the answer to; she doesn't love him.


    I may be wrong, sometimes I relate songs to what I'm going through at the moment, bu I'm pretty sure I'm right. Great song, my favorite track off Of the Blue Colour of the Sky
    HandsomePeteon November 25, 2010   Link
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    My OpinionThis song is about Damian's marriage.. he talked about it in an interview on the extra nice edition of Of the Blue Colour Of the Sky. I don't know if he's divorced or separated or what.. but he doesn't wear his wedding ring anymore. All I know is this is a beautiful song with a really deep meaning. It's absolute crack for the ears... I love this record. I hope everything works out for him. He's seems like a fantastic guy.
    dunkgreeneron December 11, 2010   Link
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    My OpinionI know I already commented but I love this song.. Maybe it's because the I can relate to these lyrics the most right now out of all OK Go's songs (my favourite song by them always seems to be the one I'm relating to at the present time). It's just.. insanely deep. Why is OK Go so good at writing music? Why?

    Anyways, I would love to discuss this song with Damian... "So I been sitting around, wasting my time, wondering what you been doing. Aw, and it ain't real forgiving, it ain't real forgiving sitting here picturing someone else living." A lyrical genius that man is. Thank you Damian for composing this masterpiece.
    dunkgreeneron December 14, 2010   Link
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    General CommentReally brilliant in every way. The Lyrics have so much meaning and the way the song flows is amazing.

    What really blew my mind a few days ago whilst driving home on CR 209 (a beautiful dark quiet country highway) was that this song is actually in 6/8ths time for the most part, but after the drum roll during the squelching guitar the song changes into 7/8th's time for the pretty part.

    You can tell the difference if you count the beats and simply by the fact that one kick note is added per measure compared to the rest of the song's signature. It's incredibly smooth and absolutely blew me away when I realized it.

    This song means so much to me, as does this album. I'd definitely have to dub this my favorite song if I had to choose on the spot.
    ubertalldudeon March 21, 2011   Link

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