He sat down, picked up the phone and said, "Boy, I'm your old man"
He touched the glass between the two
As if to shake his hand

The boy, he didn't budge
Not even so much as a blink
The man said, "Oh, come on, better late than never, don't you think?"

He said, "I read it in the paper, can't believe you're twenty one
Can't believe some son of mine
Could do the things I hear you've done"

He went on like some big hero who flew in to save the day
And the boy said, "If you're here to steer me right, man, it's too late"

You had to be there and I'm talkin' from day one
That's the only time a man should talk through glass to his new son
And you'd have to go back and teach me how when I was nine
'Cause my mama couldn't throw a ball even if she had the time
And I should have been learnin' how to fish
Instead of learnin' how to smoke
I bet if you'd have whooped my tail, I'd never thought it was a joke

He said, "Sometimes the will for doin' wrong is way too strong
For any Mama's prayers
You had to be there"

The man said, "Boy, I'm sorry you hate me like you do"
The boy said, "Dry it up, man, we ain't makin' this about you
It's about a teenage girl against the world who was left there high and dry
About a kid who might have stood a whole lot better shot at life"

But you had to be there and I'm talkin' from day one
That's the only time a man should talk through glass to his new son
And you'd have to go back and teach me how when I was nine
'Cause my mama couldn't throw a ball even if she had the time
I should have been learnin' how to fish
Instead of learnin' how to smoke
I bet if you'd have whooped my tail, I'd never thought it was a joke

He said, "Sometimes the will for doing wrong is way too strong
For any Mama's prayer
You had to be there"

Before the boy hung up the phone
He said, "They say I'm out of time"
And it hit the man right there and then
"My God, son, so am I"


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You Had To Be There Lyrics as written by Kenneth Wright Casey Beathard

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    This song is about a 21 year old boy who grew up with only his mother and is now in jail and his father for the first time comes to see him. His father tells him that he's sorry that he hates him the way he does and the boy tells him this isn't about you this is about my mother who had to deal with raising a child by herself as a teenager and a "kid who might have stood a whole lot better shot at life" if only he had been there for him and taught him how to fish and throw a ball but instead he was out learning how to smoke because his mother prayers weren't enough to keep him from doing wrong. His mom had to work all the time in order to support the two of them so she wasn't there to stop him and he tells him that if he had been there to whoop him once or twice he would have understood the difference between right and wrong. The boy pretty much tells him its too late to come in and save the day because he has already done something really bad and he is in jail for it.

    faithtim4fanaticon April 27, 2010   Link

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