"Damned If I Do Ya (Damned If I Don't)" as written by Butch Walker and Alex Gaskarth....
I've fought it for a long time now
While drowning in a river of denial
I washed up, fixed up, picked up
All my broken things

'Cause you left me, police tape, chalk line
Tequila shots in the dark scene of the crime
Suburban living with a feeling that I'm giving up
Everything for you

Oh, oh, oh, how was I supposed to know
That you were o-o-over me? I think that I should go (go!)
And something's telling me to leave, but I won't
'Cause I'm damned if I do ya, damned if I don't

It took a lot to take you home
One stupid call and I end up alone
Your made up, dressed up, messed up
Plans I set in stone

But you made me do it
And I don't like dancing in the alley
With a street rat night life
Can't keep living with a feeling that I'm giving up
Everything for you

Oh, oh, oh, how was I supposed to know
That you were o-o-over me? I think that I should go (go!)
And something's telling me to leave, but I won't
'Cause I'm damned if I do ya, damned if I don't

Make a fool of myself when you hang around
When you're gone, I'm a match that's burning out
Could've been, should've done what I said I was going to (said that I would do)
But I never promised you (but I never promised you)
(Promised you, promised you, promised you, promised you)

Oh, oh, oh, how was I supposed to know
That you were o-o-over me? I think that I should go (go!)
It never took a fool to see the things that I won't
'Cause I'm damned if I do ya, damned if I do ya

Oh, oh, oh, how was I supposed to know ('cause you left me police scenes, chalk line)
That you were o-o-over me? I think that I should go (Tequila shots in the dark scene of the crime)
And something's telling me to leave but I won't
'Cause I'm damned if I do ya, damned if I d-d-d
Damned if I do ya, damned if I don't


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"Damned If I Do Ya (Damned If I Don't)" as written by Robert Ryan Dawson Jack Bassam Barakat

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  • +4
    General Commenteveryone on here has a right to their own fucking opinion, people. and yes, a person can still consider themselves a fan of a band despite disliking one song, or even an entire album for that matter. alright, yes, im one of those "pretentious pricks" who loved them back in the put up or shut up days, was pretty disappointed by so wrong, and is now becoming revolted by this garbage. yes, i understand that a band changing their sound the slightest bit is not equivalent to selling out, but when a band used to actually make music that had some substance and feeling to it, and now has been reduced to making this cookie-cutter, ridiculous bullshit, obviously there are going to be old fans who are not happy. if there are people who like this, then that's great. and if the band's happy, then that's even greater. but with all that said, i think this song sucks, and im allowed to think that. same way youre allowed to think that it doesnt.

    and because this is songmeanings - it's pretty obvious what this song is about; flaky relationship where neither of them are ever really happy ("damned if do ya, damned if i dont"); he puts everything in towards the relationship, and shes still disappointed. he makes plans, she blows them off, etc. but he still doesnt wanna quit and so they continue this insatiable cycle.

    my interpretation may be off but i could only take one or two listens /looks at the lyrics.
    nightmarryyouon June 18, 2009   Link
  • +2
    General Commenti think it's...
    and you may be due but i dont like
    dancing in the alley

    this was a great publicity stunt on there half =]
    releasing the song even though they prolly didn't want to
    but it definitely helped from my perspective.

    [I fought it for a long time now
    While drowning in a river of denial]
    i think the song is about him really liking a girl
    even though he prolly shouldn't.
    [damned if i do ya]

    And when he finally gets the chance she bails
    ['Cause you left me]
    [How was I supposed to know
    That you were oh, oh, over me?]
    [It took a lot to take you home
    One stupid call]
    So he knows that she doesn't truly care about him
    as much as he does with her.

    So therefor this relationship
    which probably shouldn't be happening
    [damned if i do you]

    but he's still attracted to her
    [damned if i don't]

    In the end he regrets not trying harder
    [Could've been, should've done
    What I said I was going to
    (Said that I was going to)
    But I never promised you]

    but throughout the entire thing he regrets even more
    giving into her and giving up what he has
    for love he already felt wouldnt happen
    [Can't keep living with a feeling
    That I'm giving up
    Everything for you]


    yup. =]




    lilbirdyfoofooon June 15, 2009   Link
  • +2
    General CommentFor all the people whining about their new sound there's a lyric in one of Jay-Z's songs that's goes "if you want my old music buy my old album" or something like that. Anyway I think that rings true for All Time Low too. If u don't like their new stuff then listen to their old stuff. Complaining will get you nowhere :-)
    AllyNCon February 22, 2010   Link
  • +1
    General Commentthey did change their sound, but i still love them. they can do what the want.. who are we to say whether or not they've sold out.
    i did an article for my journalism class about selling out, and i hate the term. don't say that if people offered you a lot of money to live your dream you wouldn't do it. because anyone would.
    colorthecoaston June 16, 2009   Link
  • +1
    My OpinionAlright, I usually don't post comments on these things, but after reading all the bashing that some of the people on here are doing, I'm a bit pissed. Yes, they have changed their sound. They change their clothes everyday, you wannma get mad at them for that too? Are you going to decide to like them when they wear one outfit, but not the other? Just because they have a few songs you don't like, you shouldn't dislike them for it. They should try different sounds. It's called variety. I've liked them since "The Paty Scene" too, and I've watched them change their sound dramatically, and I'm okay with it. I love all the different sounds they've tried. That's what a real fan does. And no matter what, their sounds have always been catchy to me, and they've always been lyrical genius. Including this one. Just ebcause they've gone a bit more "poppy" and they ahve catchier songs, doesn't mean they've "sold out". I hate it. Why do people always decide to say that, once the band gets a little taste of fame? They want to make it big, isn't that what every band wants? And if all your going to do is wish them back to the nobodies that they used to be, you shouldn't call yourself a fan. Fans want the best for their bands.
    xxRACHELRENEExxon June 16, 2009   Link
  • +1
    General Commentoh and in response to rachelrenee or whatever, a "real fan" is allowed to criticize and dislike stuff, too. you dont have to mindlessly follow and adore every single thing a band puts out in order to be considered a "real fan." im not saying that youre not sincere in your claim that youve loved all of it, im just saying that disliking a song or two doesnt change considering someone to be a fan.
    nightmarryyouon June 18, 2009   Link
  • +1
    General CommentOkay idk why all of you guys are being so mean about this song. Sure it's different that Put Up or Shut Up and So Wrong, It's Right but bands change their sounds as they mature that's all that Alex, Jack, Rian and Zack did! I personally like this song and Weightless. Sure it's different but I like it. Now since this is a song meaning site and not just a forum I'm actually going use this site for it's intended perpous.

    I think this song is about a relationship gone wrong. He's damned if he makes her happy and damned if he doesn't. He makes plans for them to go on dates and she just messes them up. That's what I personally think this is about. Nothing personal (: if you don't agree.
    NikolexGaskarthon June 19, 2009   Link
  • +1
    General CommentI honestly can't stand this band at all, and there are so many other bands more deserving of the success they're receiving right now. Their music is so bland and generic and boring, their singer sounds exactly like every other singer in this genre, and their lyrics are always douchey songs about getting in girls pants or partying... with that said, this song is very catchy, but I can't take it seriously because of the shitty lyrics.
    RockOutMahnon June 28, 2009   Link
  • +1
    General CommentI can really relate to this song. My girlfriend recently broke up with me. :/ I think this song is about his girlfriend obviously stops loving him but all he wants is to have her back. He knows if he doesn't get her back he is going to hurt and be sad, and he knows if he does go back out with her there is still a chance that she will stop loving him again. Basically either way he is going to hurt like hell but he doesn't care. He just wants to be with her as long as he can. Thats my opinion anyways.
    InfiniteHighon July 12, 2009   Link
  • +1
    General CommentI think this song is about a secret relationship. (as the MV suggests) But also in the line "You made me do, when I dont like dancing in the alley with the street rat nightlife" Obviously the girl doesn't want anyone to know whats going on, but he likes her so everything they do is in private. Prehaps in this relationship he put more into it and made her a priority when he was just an option "Suburban feeling that I'm giving up, everything for you"

    Maybe now, the girl has just given up on their relationship but since it was nothing serious [to her] she didn't really care about him "How was I supposed to know that you were over me" and now he has to move on with his life after coming to this realisation. "I think I should go" and "I've fought it for a long time now While drowning in a river of denial I washed up, fixed up, picked up All my broken things"



    This song is amazing. It's like they hit the nail right on the head with this one.

    xSusannahon May 04, 2010   Link

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