This place is a hole, but I don't want to go.
I wish we could stay here forever alone.
This time that we waste, but i still love your taste.
Don't let him take my place, don't just sit there.
Sometimes I wish you would leave me.
I'm not sick of you yet, is that as good as it gets,
I'll just hide it, or i could slip into you.
Its so easy to come back into you.

I stared for awhile, and waited for words,
Seen but not heard and struggled to try.
My tongue's turning black, but I'll take you back.
You're still the best more or less, I guess.
I guess.
Don't you leave me

I'm not sick of you yet, is that as good as it gets,
I'll just hide it, or I could slip into you
Its so easy to come back into you.
It hurts me to say that it hurts me to stay.
And it might be alright if you go.
It hurts me to say that I want you to stay, but it might be alright if you go.
So leave me

I'm not sick of you yet, is that as good as it gets.
I'll just hide it, or I could slip into you
It's so easy to come back into you.
Sometimes I think that
The bitter in you, and the quitter in me, is the bitter in you and the quitter in me.
The bitter in you, and the quitter in me, is the better in you and the quitter in me.
The bitter in you, and the quitter in me, is better than the both of us.


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Lover Dearest song meanings
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  • +3
    Song MeaningWhen I saw the guys in concert a few nights ago, Josh gave a clear explanation of the meaning of this song.

    It goes something like, "This song means a lot to me. When I was seventeen years old, I was battling a heroin addiction and was put in a rehab centre. One of the things they tell us to do is to write a love letter to our drug, and it makes you realize how much you need the drug, or you think you need it, and how fucked up it is. I took that letter and made it into a song called Lover Dearest."

    Amazing performance.
    Fallen Leaveson April 10, 2009   Link
  • +1
    General CommentI'm speechless. This song is beautiful.
    mlwallaceon August 14, 2009   Link
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    General CommentWhen I saw the guys in concert last week, Josh josh told everyone what this song was about
    "3 years ago I was a heroin addict and was put in a rehab center. One of the things they told us to do is write a love letter to our drug of choice, and it makes you realize how much you need the drug, or you think you need it. I took that letter and made it into a song i was going to put it onto the first cd , the words were there we just didn't have the music for it yet, so now i made it into a full song and called it Lover Dearest."
    sweetgurl14on January 13, 2010   Link
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    General CommentThis song just kinda makes me feel better.. knowing people who struggle in life can go from that to fortune and fame..
    and not be afraid to share their past with fans is amaizng..
    I like stars that don't feel thee need ot hide everything

    It's just beautiful
    stunnasalwaysrunon July 22, 2010   Link
  • 0
    General Commentthis song is so beautiful. watching it live with josh at the keyboards is indeed amazing.
    aerithgydaon June 19, 2009   Link
  • 0
    General Commentinnit it's bigger than the both of us not better
    wouldntuliiketoknowon July 12, 2009   Link
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    General CommentI think this song is deffinetly there best.
    the meaning behind it is beautiful,the lyrics are great, and everything about it is just amazing. i cant stress enough how perfect it is.
    When ever i listen to this song i cry because i suffer from anorexia and this song to me can be related to that.
    The lyrics to me are as if im talking to "Ana".
    im sure you all know what i mean haha.i relate to it in a different way.
    but this songs beautiful.
    Josh has talent. ive never heard a band/singer with lyrics so powerful.
    Sosic420on December 07, 2009   Link
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    General Comment"this place is a hole, but I don't wanna go"
    He knows that he will get nowhere in his addiction, but he can't just give it up.

    "I wish we could stay here forever alone"
    He wants to be with the numbness that comes with the use of heroin without his concipus telling him it's bad.

    "this time that we waste but I still love your taste"
    He knows that he isn't going to get anywhere, but he loves of too much to stop of let to of his drug.

    "Don't let him take my place don't just sit there"
    He wants someone to helpl him to get over his drug addiction an eating disorder
    "sometimes I wish you would leave me, woaa, I'm not sick of you yet"
    Sometimes he wants his addiction or eating disorder to just go away, but then
    doubts and realizes he still wants it.

    "I stared for a while and waited for words seen but not heard and struggle to try"
    -he was waiting for something to help him get through it, but nothing ever came. He was struggling to get through it.

    "and my tounges turning black but I'll tale you back"
    -his addiction is killing him but he's still not willing to give it up yet.

    "you're still the best more of less I guess"
    -the drug will still always make him feel better, no matter what the amount is.

    "it hurts me to say that it hurts me to stay and it might be alright if you go"
    It bothers him that he can't live without it, but he knows it would be better without it,

    "it hurts me to say that I want you to stay but it might be alright if you go"
    It bothers him that he needs the drug or he can't get over his eating disorder but it would be ok if it didn't go away.

    "Sometimes I think that the bitter in you and the quitter in me is the bitter in you and the quitter in me.... Is bigger than the both of us"
    -the after feeling of vein high is the bitter, and that feeling makes him wanna quit smoking/shooting (whichever he was doing) and that it is bigger than his addiction and bigger than himself.



    "I'll just hide it"
    He'll hide his addiction or eating disorder from everyone

    "I stared for a while and waited for words, seen but not heard"
    He waited for the words to come to ask for help,
    Hermthewormon May 15, 2010   Link
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    General Comment
    Beautiful, beautiful song. The lyrics mixed with Josh's voice make this song incredibly powerful. The meaning has already been said here more than once, so I won't repeat it.
    But, I have a few (small) corrections for some lyrics (taken fromt the CD booklet) :

    This place is a hole, and I don't want to go.
    *This place is a hole, but I don't want to go.*

    Well I'm not sick of you yet, is this as good as it gets,
    *I'm not sick of you yet, is that as good as it gets, *

    I'll just say it, or i could slip into you,
    *I'll just hide it, or i could slip into you,*

    I stand for awhile, and waited for words,
    *I stared for awhile, and waited for words,*

    Seemed to not hurt and struggled to try.
    *Seen but not heard, and struggle to try.*

    (chorus, same deal--say=hide)

    The bitter in you, and the quitter in me, is the bitter in you and the quitter in me,
    is better than the both of us.
    *is bigger than the both of us.*

    Okay, that's it. Haha sorry, I'm a perfectionist sometimes :P
    & I don't know how to change them or if I even have that ability, so could someone do it for me?

    Thanks :)
    WhatTheyCallALoveAddicton June 30, 2010   Link
  • 0
    General CommentI sang this song every morning, and listened to it at night.
    Cried to it each time.
    So beautiful, and bittersweet.
    youfishjelly89on February 15, 2011   Link

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