Did the seesaw nights put their hands on you?
I can't really say, I can't really say

Are you swinging from the eaves in a tasteful noose?
I can't really say, I can't really say

You're following a flashlight down utility halls
And then you mumble to yourself that this has all been your fault
And oh you're not laughing, you're not laughing are you?

And now some local loser with a tape and badge
Wants you to answer from the list of pointless questions to ask
And no he's not sincere, you're not sincere are you?

Then the howls and moans pour from the black and it's a sea of blank faces straight to the back
Aggressively mediocre in every single way
Yet you're the only reason that they came

So if you had to keep singing then singing should be fine
And if it ain't what you had pictured
Yeah that sounds about right

Does it matter much to me to mean a thing to you?
I can't really say, I can't really say

They blather incessantly, every drossy last one
And then they clamor for attention vomiting opinions
But oh you weren't asking, you're not asking are you?

Ain't it hard when you discover that the only thing you've ever loved is passing your hat
And anything that's got a pulse is doing just the same
And you're the only reason that you came

So if you have to keep singing, then singing should be fine
And if it ain't what you had pictured then yeah that's about right
Said if you have to keep singing, then singing should be fine
And if it ain't what you had pictured then yeah that sounds about right.


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    General CommentYeah, the lyrics posted match up 100% with the ones in the booklet.

    This song is about becoming disillusioned with being on tour in a band.

    "Did the seesaw nights put their hands on you?
    I can't really say, I can't really say

    Are you swinging from the eaves in a tasteful noose?
    I can't really say, I can't really say"
    I'm guessing this is about the ups and downs of touring - "seesaw nights" probably means that some nights bring really good shows, while other nights are horrible. The swinging of the noose is another reference to the back and forth motion, and the "tasteful noose" is an oxymoron, another metaphor for the good and bad sides of touring.

    "You're following a flashlight down utility halls
    And then you mumble to yourself that this has all been your fault
    And oh you're not laughing, you're not laughing are you?"
    The subject of the song (most likely the vocalist of a band) is following someone in the backstage area on the way to the stage, and blaming himself for starting his band and going on tour. He's not laughing like he thought he would be, because he's no longer enjoying being on tour.

    "And now some local loser with a tape and badge
    Wants you to answer from the list of pointless questions to ask
    And no he's not sincere, you're not sincere are you?"
    A reporter is interviewing the vocalist, asking him a bunch of "pointless questions". The vocalist feels like the reporter doesn't really care about his band ("he's not sincere"), nor does he really care about answering the reporters questions ("you're not sincere").

    "Then the howls and moans pour from the black and it's a sea of blank faces straight to the back
    Aggressively mediocre in every single way
    Yet you're the only reason that they came"
    The vocalist takes the stage. It sounds like the audience might either be angry at him ("howls and moans") or completely apathetic ("sea of blank faces"). He feels as though his music is nothing special ("aggressively mediocre"), but he's "the only reason that they (the audience) came".

    "So if you had to keep singing then singing should be fine
    And if it ain't what you had pictured
    Yeah that sounds about right"
    The only thing the vocalist could do is continue to perform, even though being in a touring band isn't anything like he thought it would be.

    "Does it matter much to me to mean a thing to you?
    I can't really say, I can't really say"
    The vocalist doesn't know if he really cares about affecting anyone with his music, which was presumably why he formed a band.

    "They blather incessantly, every drossy last one
    And then they clamor for attention vomiting opinions
    But oh you weren't asking, you're not asking are you?"
    His fans continually tell him what their songs mean to him, but he feels as though their interpretations are completely incorrect - and he doesn't really care anyway.

    "Ain't it hard when you discover that the only thing you've ever loved is passing your hat
    And anything that's got a pulse is doing just the same
    And you're the only reason that you came"
    The vocalist is depressed because he feels like he's only playing music to make money anymore, instead of being in it to move people emotionally ("the only thing you've ever loved is passing your hat"), and is also disillusioned when he finds out everyone else is doing the same thing ("anything that's got a pulse is doing just the same") - most likely this is a reference to record labels, promoters, venue owners, etc. The third line only solidifies the first - the only reason he's playing music anymore is to make money for himself.



    I wondered when I bought this album if this was autobiographical, but after seeing Dear and the Headlights live last month, I highly doubt it. They seemed like some of the coolest, most genuine people in the world. They also appeared very happy and appreciative to be playing a show, even though the turnout was small (less than 80 people showed up).
    SnareRushJunkieon April 14, 2009   Link
  • +1
    My OpinionShouldnt it be seesaw knight? or sea salt knights
    beenjammin89on February 05, 2009   Link
  • +1
    General CommentLove this songgg!
    It's so unique in the way it's sung and the lyrics.
    dancegabbydanceon July 23, 2009   Link
  • 0
    General CommentI think the first line is "Did the sea salt nights put their hands on you?"

    And the beginning of the third verse is "You're following a flashlight down utility holes."
    Stupendous_Manon October 01, 2008   Link
  • 0
    General CommentI bought this CD yesterday and I copied the lyrics right out of the book, so these are deffinately right
    leoisawsum552on October 01, 2008   Link
  • 0
    General CommentCould you please post the rest of the record...preferably before I go buy the CD tomorrow haha
    lilblig7on October 02, 2008   Link
  • 0
    General CommentI saw them play last night. Most amazing
    live set ever.
    nylon1979on November 18, 2008   Link
  • 0
    General Commentmost ppl think this song is about performing, sea of blank faces straight to the back...
    and it doesnt sound like the show is going too well
    there are many clues
    anywhooo
    i happen to think that all the lines about the show are referring to thoughts running through his head about a girl, a relationship he know he screwed up and wants back.

    "Ain't it hard when you discover that the only thing you've ever loved is passing your hat
    And anything that's got a pulse is doing just the same
    And you're the only reason that you came"

    ^
    that line draws me to this theory, and it helps me relate/ respect more.


    thats just my opinionn. great song [:

    peaceee
    thatsbeachy44on September 26, 2009   Link
  • 0
    Memorythis kind represented my feelings in high school on being generally fed up with everything and being completely apathetic to the majority of people i knew and just having to just keep trudging through. and in the end there was only one person i ever bothered to keep in regular contact with, despite the constant headaches he provides.

    obviously not the real meaning, but it made sense to me at the time.
    mylastnameishorrificallyaccurateon September 19, 2013   Link

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