There's a moment in time
And it's stuck in my mind
Way back when we were just kids
'Cuz your eyes told a tale
Of an act of betrayal
I knew that somebody did

Oh, waves of time
Seem to wash away the scenes of our crimes
For you this never ends

Can you stay strong
Can you go on
Kristy are you doing ok
A rose that won't bloom
Winter's kept you
Don't waste your whole life trying
To get back what was taken away

Though the marks on your dress
Have been neatly repressed
I knew that something was wrong
And I should have spoke out
And I'm so sorry now
I didn't know
'Cuz we were so young

Oh, clouds of time
Seem to rain on innocence left behind
It never goes away

Can you stay strong
Can you go on
Kristy are you doing ok
A rose that won't bloom
Winter's kept you
Don't waste your whole life trying
To get back what was taken away


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  • +10
    General Commentthis song means so much to me.. i never noticed it till i saw the title.
    because my name's kristy.

    i was saving my first time for marriage.
    but i was raped 3 years ago by someone i trusted at that time more than my own mother.
    i read the lyrics before i ever heard the song, and it was my story in a song.. and the stories of a lot of other people too.

    "Oh, waves of time
    Seem to wash away the scenes of our crimes
    For you this never ends.."
    ".. clouds of time
    Seem to rain on innocence left behind
    It never goes away."
    --lots of people make mistakes, and get wronged, get over it, and move on.
    but when something like rape happens.. you never get over it..
    it really never ends.

    "Don't waste your whole life trying
    To get back what was taken away."
    --easier said than done.
    dysfuncktionalon September 05, 2008   Link
  • +9
    General CommentSeems to be about this girl, Kristy, being sexuall abused at a young age:

    "...when we were just kids..."

    "A rose that won't bloom
    Winter's kept you
    Don't waste your whole life trying
    To get back what was taken away"

    and especially:

    "Oh, clouds of time
    Seem to rain on innocence left behind"

    Yet she tried to keep it to herself, but the friend can see it in her eyes and behaviour.
    pTnon June 12, 2008   Link
  • +5
    Song Meaningfirst time i ever heard this song, i cried.
    one day my dad left, and never came back. my family never brought him up it was just an awkward thing to talk about. so i assumed he just up and left us, this was when i was 7 years old and up until i was 15 i HATED him for it.
    spent all those years hating him for no reason. he didnt leave me. he didnt leave us.
    my dad was murdered and my mom didnt want to believe it let alone even being to try and explain where daddy was to three young children.
    after i found out he was dead, i stopped hating him and started hating myself. nine years of my life were WASTED hating a man who if he had a choice, woulda been there. he was taken from me. he didnt deserve to be hated.

    guilt set in and depression was hidden behind my fake smile. everyday got harder and i couldnt find any reason to forgive myself. until i heard this song.


    i realized those 9 years werent coming back no matter how much i hated myself. nothing would bring my dad back, or the time hating myself was just adding years on to my wasted life.


    i got these lyrics tattooed on me so i could wake up and see them and remember that its okay. lifes okay. IM OKAY. :) just thought id put it out there that this song might be about a girl who was abused, but anyone can relate their problems to a song even if it isnt the same reason as the artists.

    heres a picture of my tattoo ..... "dont waste your whole life trying to get back what was taken away".

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    offspring saved my life. thank you.
    msnicoleblisson November 20, 2009   Link
  • +2
    General CommentI dont know if this songs about rape but definately some type of abuse. it makes me cry everytime i listen to it, my dad abused me when i was little its one of the few songs i can relate to and actually like it. the line Dont wast youw hole life trying to get back what was taken away could be about rape or about the innocence of childhood taken away.
    ray16on March 26, 2009   Link
  • +2
    General CommentI heard this song for the first time today on my way home from seeing my psychiatrist which I see for my PTSD...
    The Offspring has become my new favorite band for writing and producing this song (one of such innocence truth & purity)
    One that I sadly say happens to represent my life as well (like the so many others)
    The only difference for me being that the one who raped me was not only the love of my life but also the father of my child and how he could break in to our home and rape me over and over while our son was in the next room is beyond my comprehension...I gave him my all in in return he took everything from me including nearly my life, leaving me battered broken a & bruised, alone to go on every day raising our son alone while he would return to his home so he could sleep!!
    There are some ppl in this world that r just sicker than any one of us Normal ppl could ever imagine...and it really is just soooo sad!

    "Oh, waves of time
    Seem to wash away the scenes of our crimes
    For you this never ends.."
    ".. clouds of time
    Seem to rain on innocence left behind
    It never goes away."

    No matter how hard I try the evil and betrayl I've known and lived never ever go away!!
    this sond is so to the point true and ultimately empowering its inspiring!!

    THANK YOU!
    MissUndastoodon May 15, 2009   Link
  • +1
    General CommentpTn... youre exactly right, Dexter said so in an interview that it was about a girl he knew when he was young who was molested and raped.

    Its also clear in this verse.

    "Though the marks on your dress
    Have been neatly repressed
    I knew that something was wrong
    And I should have spoke out
    And I'm so sorry now
    I didn't know
    'Cuz we were so young"
    c goodson June 13, 2008   Link
  • +1
    General CommentReminds me of my best friend from 4th grade...
    I'm so sorry.
    I should have told someone, I really should have.
    I just couldn't believe my own brother would do such a thing.
    I can't even express how sorry I am.
    Now this will never end for you...
    shesavedmeon April 17, 2011   Link
  • +1
    General CommentMaybe I'm wrong but I thought this was about a girl Dexter knew who was being or was abused and he regrets not saying anything
    MetalheadGirl1on October 03, 2011   Link
  • 0
    General CommentThis is such a good song. I love it.
    onewayheroon June 25, 2008   Link
  • 0
    General Commentthis is a good song, yea. i don't understand why are everybody bashing it. it's not like it's their first slow song.

    and i agree with people above, though i actually never really thought about that myself, but now it seems pretty damn obvious.
    MissNeuroticon June 29, 2008   Link

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