"Don't you want to share the guilt?" as written by and Kate Marie Nash....
BBQ food is good
You invite me out to eat it, I should
Go, but I'm feeling kind of nervous
And not quite myself
So I'm running late on purpose
And I know this won't help
How things have become between us
But if I go you'll give me hell
And that I don't know how to fix it
Is making me unwell, well
I arrive at your house
But you've just got up
And you are wearing a towel
And your eyes look dark
I help to dry your body
And I see your cut
So I give you a plaster
And we cover it up
I say "Have you been crying?"
And you say "Shut Up"
So we sit in the garden
And touch the grass
With our hands

The sun is going down now
And it's been okay
You tell me all these things you did
While I was away
And this worries me somewhat

You say you're fine
Listen
Can you hear it?
Does it speak?
Will I feel it?
Will it hurt?
Am I near it?
I don't know

I don't know how more people haven't got mental health problems
Thinking is one of those stressful things I've ever come across
And not being able to articulate what I want to say drives me crazy
I think I should try and read more books
And learn some new words
My sister used to read the dictionary
I'm going to start with that
I'd like to travel
I want to see India and the pyramids
A whale and that race with all the bicycles in France
I'm not sure about rivers, they scare me
But I love swimming, I'm good at it
And when I swim I think about numbers
And count the laps
When I was younger I saw a house burnt down
And I walked past it everyday for the next six years
Derelict, black, chalky and dangerous
I wondered if squatters lived there
I'm still not sure but I know there were never any parties cause it was shit
After a while the council got round to tidying out the town
Making it less offensive here and there
They said it was an eyesore so they let tore it down
Behind the house was a wall with a few bits of crappy graffiti
and the word 'Cunt' written on it in giant letters
And now I walk past that

I like sitting in the park
And I like walking through it
I like taking my dogs there
And friends, and I like being alone
I like flowers and simplicity
I like compassion and thoughtful gifts
I like being able to shout
But I wish I could be quiet
When I'm quiet people think I'm sad
And usually I am

Sometimes when I'm at a busy train station
Somewhere big with the noisy trains like King's Cross
I feel like putting down my bags and shouting things out
because I've got something to say
Don't you want to share the guilt?
Don't think, just try and sleep


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"Don't You Want to Share the Guilt?" as written by Kate Marie Nash

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    General CommentThe album lyrics are slightly different to these ones posted here:

    BBQ food is good
    You invite me out to eat it
    I should go, but I'm feeling kind of nervous and not quite myself
    So I'm running late on purpose
    And I know this won't help how things have become between us
    But if I go you'll give me hell
    And that I don't know how to fix it is making me unwell, well

    I arrive at your house, but you've just got up
    And you are wearing a towel and your eyes look dark
    I help to dry your body and I see your cut
    So I give you a plaster and we cover it up
    I say "Have you been crying?" and you say "Shut up"
    So we sit in the garden and touch the grass with our hands

    The sun is going down now and it's been ok
    You tell me all these things you did while I was away
    And this worries me somewhat
    But you say you're fine

    Listen, can you hear it?
    Does it speak?
    Will I feel it?
    Will it hurt?
    Am I near it?
    I don't know

    I don't know how more people haven't got mental health problems
    Thinking is one of the most stressful things I've ever come across
    And not being able to articulate what I want to say drives me crazy
    I think I should read some more books, learn some new words
    My sister used to read the dictionary, I'm going to start with that
    I'd like to travel, I want to see India and the pyramids
    A whale and that race with all the bicycles in France
    I'm not sure about rivers, they scare me
    But I love swimming, I'm good at it
    And when I swim I count the laps and this helps me relax
    When I was younger I saw a house burn down
    And I walked past it for the next six years
    Derelict, black, chalky and dangerous
    I wondered if squatters lived there
    I'm still not sure, but I know there were never any parties because it was a shithole
    After a while the council got round to tidying up the town
    They decided it was an eyesore so they tore it down
    Behind the house was a wall with a few bits of crappy graffiti and the word "Cunt" written in giant letters
    And now I walk past that

    I like going to the park and I like walking through it
    I like taking my dogs there and friends
    And I like being alone
    I like being able to shout, but I wish I could be quiet
    When I'm quiet people think I'm sad
    And usually I am
    Sometimes when I'm at a busy train station
    Somewhere big with the noisy trains like King's Cross
    I feel like putting down my bags and shouting things out because I've got something to say

    Don't you want to share the guilt?
    Don't think, just try and sleep
    MayaMooon April 22, 2010   Link
  • +1
    General CommentI love this song.
    I completely understand it apart from
    "Listen
    Can you hear it?
    Does it speak?
    Will I feel it?
    Will it hurt?
    Am I near it?
    I dont know"
    Is she talking about love?
    Sorry if it's a stupid question..
    Laurawr-xon October 04, 2008   Link
  • +1
    General CommentI think it's about elephants in the room. Things no-one really wants to talk about, like in the 2nd verse with the cut, it might be a reference to self-harm or something. And the bit at the end with all the talking about random stuff, and then the bit about Kings Cross is basically saying that all of us have so much to say, and we never say it, because we don't think we should, and we all feel slightly guilty about it because we just wish we could express ourselves.
    suspectnargleson April 13, 2010   Link
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    General Comment"maybe theres some broken relationship there and i dunno whether it's like a partner or a parent figure or someone whos quite important and theres like some kind of broken relationship and so it feels kind of sad but then the end turns into this monologue which is a bit of a rant and a ramble and steers away from the subject and it doesnt really make any sense but its almost kind of trying to find yourself and like what you liek and trying to figure out who you are and where you stand in the world"

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    almostforeverxon May 28, 2010   Link
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    General CommentI think this has got to be one of her best songs, there's so much in it. In my opinion the other person in the song could potentially be anyone who she is close to (perhaps a boyfriend but not necessarily). She knows that something is wrong with this 'friend', which is why she is hesitant to go over ("I'm feeling kinda nervous"),and also that she won't be able to give them the support that they need (to the point that she feels sick "unwell" with worry) despite her having a responsibility of care ("I should go"), that comes with any close friendship.

    When she gets there she sees that her friend is in a bad state: he/she doesn't care about their appearance ("wearing a towl"), has been having trouble sleeping ("eyes look dark") and is cut (self-harming). As a result, inviting her over, makes me think that the friend, acknowledging himself/herself that he/she has reached a real low, wants her (kate nash) to be different to everyone else and be the one person who can say the right thing.

    But she asks him/her a question she already knows the answer to ("I say 'have you been crying?'), and confirms herself as one of those friends that (through no real fault of her own) will only be able to spout empty words. Her friend "still worries" her, but she is completely detached from him/her and the person knows this as they go through the motions of saying their "fine" and giving accounts of activities undertaken (probably lies).

    The next verse 'Listen', is more complicated, but I think it's her thinking it's her pondering the questions, linked to suicidal thoughts, that the friend might be asking themself. At the end of the day she doesn't know ("I don't know").

    But she can question how her friend got to this stage ("thinking is one of the most stressful things I've ever come across") and her inability to say the right thing to her friend is evidence for "not been able to articulate" whta she wants to say.

    She goes on to talk about her own experiences- what helps her find peace ("I count the laps")- and the rhythm of the words is almost therapeutic. But as it gets quicker, the heavy use of "I" ("I think I should", "I'm going to", "I'd like to", '"I love", "I walked", "I'm still not sure") is noticable, and I think she demonstrates how isolated each one of us is. Cut off in our own little worlds and inherently self-absorbed... no matter how hard we try not to be. It's hard to relate to things you don't understand, if we're not the centre of our own universe then our experiences still are, and they restrict us. She's isolated in her pain too("When I'm quiet people think I'm sad"), and all those people at train stations are individuals that feel too.

    This might seem a bit deep, but I think this quote by Albert Einstein is relevant:
    '"A human being is a part of a whole, called by us 'universe', a part limited in time and space. He experiences himself, his thoughts and feelings as something separated from the rest... a kind of optical delusion of his consciousness. This delusion is a kind of prison for us, restricting us to our personal desires and to affection for a few persons nearest to us. Our task must be to free ourselves from this prison by widening our circle of compassion to embrace all living creatures and the whole of nature in its beauty."

    For me, 'Don't you want to share the guilt?' is not just about the guilt of not being able to be there for a person you care about, it's about man's inability to ever truely empathise.
    bohogalon August 07, 2011   Link
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    General Commenti love this song so much.

    i think the first bit is about relationship problems, but the problem can't really be worked out - it's unclear what exactly the problem is. and also, of insecure feelings within a person. hhhmm.
    lifemusicloveon April 19, 2008   Link
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    General Commentoo and i think the line is a little different: "i don't know how more people haven't got mental health problems, thinking is one of the most stressful things i've ever come across"
    lifemusicloveon April 19, 2008   Link
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    General Commentannnd, 'this worries me somewhat' instead of 'so much'
    lifemusicloveon April 19, 2008   Link
  • 0
    General CommentThis song is lovely, I think it's about complicated relationships between people because of insecurities and underlying issues.
    I think the second half of the song is there to demonstrate the simplicity of life which contrasts with the issues in the first half.
    lisax7878on June 09, 2008   Link
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    General Commenti think the first half is about relationships & emotions.
    the second is purely what she has on her mind, how simple life is but it reflects on the first half as its the more confussing side of life
    Lucyy1993on August 27, 2008   Link

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