"Change Is Hard" as written by and Zooey Deschanel....
I'm all out of luck
But what else could I be?
I know he's yours
And he'll never belong to me again
I did him wrong
So don't brag
Keep it to yourself
I did him wrong
I was never no, never no, never enough
But I can try, I can try to toughen up
I listened when they told me
"If he burns you, let him go"
Change is hard, I should know
I should know
I should know

So I'll keep my head down
If you keep it quiet from now on
In the halls I'd rather hear silence
Than the bell of new love
So don't brag
Keep it to yourself
I did him wrong
I was never no, never no, never enough
But I can try, I can try to toughen up
I listened when they told me
"If he burns you, let him go"
Change is hard, I should know
I should know
I should know
I should know


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  • +3
    General Commentso essentially, theres a couple, and the girl does something small and pisses the guy off or something, and he leaves her for someone else. And shes really bummed out about it, and everyone is trying to console her with encouragements like "oh, if he left you, hes not good enough for you anyways" but she feels like she let him down. And every time she sees him and his new girl she gets really sad. And she tries to stay positive, but she liked her old life and now shes just trying to stay quiet and not fall apart.


    thats what i get out of it anyways.
    its beautiful whatever the meaning is.
    IDontKnowAnythingon July 08, 2008   Link
  • +2
    General Commentthis song is beautiful
    blueeyedon April 29, 2008   Link
  • +1
    General CommentI like this song, but I just wished that it was sung in a boy's perspective (Not that I have anything against female artists). It's just easier for me to connect with.

    Anyways, great song. :) I think the meaning's been pretty flushed out as is. :]
    brianisboredon January 19, 2009   Link
  • +1
    General Commentwhen i listen to this song, i get i completely different perspective from IDontKnowAnything. not that i think yours is wrong, i just feel it differently.

    in my perspective, and i guess this is my answer to baby83, it's not that she ACTUALLY messed something or anything up, it's more that she's trying to use that as a way to get over the relationship. in my head it feels like something along the lines of guy and girl are in love or just a relationship or whatever. guy breaks up with girl, goes out with someone else. original girl is heartbroken, thinks she must have just never been good enough for guy and just tries to adjust to the changes. it makes her upset to see him with the other girl, but she was listening when everyone said to let him go and she's trying to be tough.

    that's at least what it would mean if i was singing this.
    a simple wishon August 16, 2009   Link
  • +1
    My InterpretationI think "I did him wrong" followed with "I was never no, never no, never enough" means she felt like no matter what she did she could never satisfy him completely, and she feels guilty and is wondering if it's her fault. I also think that the storyline is that she sees him now engaged to a new girl ("bell of new love") and this girl might have bragged to her trying to say why she is so much better for him, but the narrator is saying she knows it's her own fault and that the other girl shouldn't harp on about it.
    jojoinpink54on May 12, 2012   Link
  • 0
    General CommentMy friend started dating my ex-boyfriend three weeks after we had broken up (we were together for a year and a half). This song describes it perfectly. :[
    UHmericanKitschon March 22, 2008   Link
  • 0
    General CommentThis has to be like my favorite song from them.
    ah. can't get enough=)
    blahblah55on February 19, 2009   Link
  • 0
    General CommentTo be honest, I see the "did him wrong" as her reacting too harshly to what he did and breaking up with him. The "listened when they told me, if he burns you let him go" means he did something that she didn't like and she broke up with him, but she realizes that she was a fool and still cares but he is with a new girl now. I can relate soo much to this, granted I am male, but I broke up with a girl for something small, (I blame my youth at the time) and I never made it up to her because she found a new man. She&Him are glorious.
    BruceFan2on December 31, 2009   Link
  • 0
    Memorythis song totally relates to me right now. I fell for my best friend, but he's with some girl that hes hooked on..he loves her to pieces.and she knew how i felt about him, everytime i saw her in the hallway with him, she had this little smirk on her face...*sigh* change is hard...
    XXdiehardXXon June 23, 2011   Link
  • 0
    My InterpretationIt's all about getting over someone. Someone that you loved, but didn't love you back (or didn't feel the same way). The guy was in love with someone else all along (maybe an ex-girlfriend), or fell in love with someone new.
    The singer feels like she's nothing compared to the girl he loves.
    "I did him wrong
    I was never no, never no, never enough"
    For me it's kind of her 'wondering', if she have done things differently, the guy could love her. But The next line, she realizes she never could be enough. Now she wants to toughen up, to be stronger, because it's a miserable situation when you are with someone that doesn't appreciates you. So she decides to change, toughen up, and stop seeing the guy. Following the advices of her friends (people who are outside the situation and can see things more rationally).

    Well, as I listen to this song, I relate myself very much to it. I have been with someone that was clearly still in love with his ex. So I knew he wasn't mine and could never be. And people told me to let go and stop seeing him. I didn't wanted to, but after a while I did it. Getting over is hard. We are not talking. Things changed and it's very hard. I knew, but I should've known better.
    nikpontson June 09, 2013   Link

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