everyone says itll laugh like you
everyone says itll get your smile
well im the only one who knows you never loved me baby
not a single solitary time
not a single solitary time

everyone says itll have your temper
everyone says itll have your eyes
well im the only one who knows where you were sleeping baby
and i really wouldnt be surprised
i really wouldnt be surprised

everybody tells me that im crazy
saying im too young to have a baby
but maybe the jokes on you this time
maybe the jokes on you this time

and everyone will say that im a liar
everyday the swallowing gets tighter
keeping this a secret has been murder
and id like to get on with my life
id like to get on with my life

everyone says itll laugh like you
everyone says itll get your smile
well i dont even know if youre the father
but there isnt anyway its mine


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    General CommentIt makes me think if Amanda really did have an abortion. She mentions it in Oasis, and Sex Changes is sort of like a warning to teenage girls.

    Although this could simply be a metaphor. Sort of like Half Jack? Half Jack is not about a hermaphrodite (like most people think), but about having some genes from someone who was hardly there in your life and wanting it out of your system. Not Mine is sort of like this.

    To me it seems like Amanda is saying that because she's never really gotten to know her biological father; the qualities she possesses are not of her mother, but her real father whom she's never known and can't really relate. She sums it all up with "I don't know if you're the father, there isn't anyway it's mine." Simply: I don't know who you are, but what I am is not me.

    I dunno, it's kind of confusing to explain.
    addnamehereon March 11, 2008   Link
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    General CommentI read your thoughts, addnamehere, and then I went back to the video Amanda made for Not Mine in October and looked at the comments I'd posted... what I said was kinda similar to what you said, particularly this: "Simply: I don't know who you are, but what I am is not me." Here are the comments I left on the video:

    I wonder if this song is supposed to be about "the father" putting tainted thoughts into Amanda's mind ("the baby"), and Amanda isn't sure if those are his own beliefs or just what someone else brainwashed him to believe, but they definitely aren't her own, and yet she's thinking them...what do you guys think?

    I thought that because I don't think the song is literally about her having a baby, I think the baby represents something inside of her (her thoughts or feelings on certain things, perhaps?) that someone put there (the father...which could just be someone attempting to make her think things / brainwash her.

    And she's not sure if he's really the "father" or if someone else just brainwashed him and passed to her someone else's thoughts...but she's saying they're not hers, even though they're in her.

    Am I making sense? Heh...I think she's says, at one point, "Everybody tells me that I'm crazy, saying I'm too young to have a baby." Could this mean people think she's too young to have a valid view on an important world issue?
    megziebooxoxoon May 28, 2008   Link
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    General CommentI read your thoughts, addnamehere, and then I went back to the video Amanda made for Not Mine in October and looked at the comments I'd posted... what I said was kinda similar to what you said, particularly this: "Simply: I don't know who you are, but what I am is not me." Here are the comments I left on the video:

    I wonder if this song is supposed to be about "the father" putting tainted thoughts into Amanda's mind ("the baby"), and Amanda isn't sure if those are his own beliefs or just what someone else brainwashed him to believe, but they definitely aren't her own, and yet she's thinking them...what do you guys think?

    I thought that because I don't think the song is literally about her having a baby, I think the baby represents something inside of her (her thoughts or feelings on certain things, perhaps?) that someone put there (the father...which could just be someone attempting to make her think things / brainwash her.

    And she's not sure if he's really the "father" or if someone else just brainwashed him and passed to her someone else's thoughts...but she's saying they're not hers, even though they're in her.

    Am I making sense? Heh...I think she's says, at one point, "Everybody tells me that I'm crazy, saying I'm too young to have a baby." Could this mean people think she's too young to have a valid view on an important world issue?
    megziebooxoxoon May 28, 2008   Link
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    General CommentI agree with the other comments, but I think, on a more literal level, this song could be about having a baby and really just not feeling like it's yours. I think the last verse is really great because of the twist Amanda puts on the fact that sometimes people don't know who the father of a child is, but almost always know who its mother is because she gave birth to it. But Amanda is saying that it doesn't really matter who the father of it is, just that it was something inside her that someone put there (I agree with the above poster) and she knows that its not hers because she feels like it doesn't belong to her.
    OAMMon October 15, 2008   Link
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    My Interpretation
    The line that really signifies a literal abortion to me is
    "Keeping this a secret has been murder",
    She literally had to "murder" it to keep it a secret, and to get on with her life and it isn't hers because it doesn't exist anymore, or similar to the other comments, its more like an alien thing that was put there mysteriously so she doesn't really feel attatchment to it.

    Also, the song just sounds so creepy and sepulchral that I think it is about a literal death.
    sleepyfaerieon January 24, 2009   Link
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    General CommentAnother thing I thought of is maybe it really isn't hers, as in the guy impregnated someone else while he was involved with her. Maybe a little out there, but just a thought?

    Mainly because "I'm the only one who knows where you were sleeping" sounds like she's sleeping with him secretly, but then again everyone seems to know about 'it' (the baby).
    So, maybe he got his girlfriend or whoever pregnant, and everyone is happily saying to him "itll look like you, etc" while she(narrator) was secretly sleeping with him.
    The more I look at it, the more it fits...
    sleepyfaerieon March 19, 2009   Link
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    General CommentI'm sure that this is about being with someone who's got another girl pregnant, but being convinced that staying with them's the best option. It seems that this song's her justifying her realisation that she needs to end it with him.
    'I'm the only one who knows you never loved me baby,
    Not a single solitary time'
    She tells people she wishes she was the one pregnant with his child
    'Everybody tells me that I'm crazy
    Saying I'm too young to have a baby'

    To me this makes sense; there quite literally isn't any way it's hers.
    ellatrixon December 04, 2010   Link

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