"For all the joy Thy child shall bring, The risk of grief we'll run.

To all Parents"

You're born, raised and then torn down,
to look a little more like, everyone you meet,
And everyday that goes by,
you look a little less like who you used to be.

I don't mind the people staring,
'cause I know they never see me anyway,
In these days, all the worlds the stage,
and everyone just wants to be the star.

"we'll love him while we may"

This is all too heavy,
If you believe in your self,
But no one can hurt you without your consent,
and I am not giving in.
I'm not giving in
and I'm not giving in

I don't mind the people staring,
'cause I know they never see me anyway,
And everyday that goes by,
you look a little less like who you used to be.

I don't mind the people staring,
'cause I know they never see me anyway,
In these days, all the worlds the stage,
and everyone one just wants to be the star.

This is all too heavy,
If you believe in your self,
But no one can hurt you without your consent,
And I am not giving in.

This is all too heavy,
If you believe in your self,
But no one can hurt you without your consent,
And I am not giving in.
I'm not giving in
and I'm not giving in

"I'll lend you for a little time a child of mine
For you to love - while he lives

And mourn for when he's dead.
And from the throngs that crowd
Life's lanes, I have selected you.

Now will you give her all your love,
Nor think the labor vain,
Nor hate Me when I come to call to
Take him back again?"

Speaking sections From poem "I'll Lend You A Child" by Edgar Guest


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    General CommentTo me this song is about inner strength, and knowing you have control over your emotions and feelings, and if you believe that no one can hurt you unless you let them, it's one of the greatest feelings of strength and control out there. It's also about knowing who you are, and having a strong sense of self: you don't mind people staring, and you know they don't understand you, but that's ok, you don't need to be an attention-whore/star in your world, you don't need their approval, it's ok to be yourself, whatever that is. It's about trying to preserve your individuality in a world that encourages anything but. I almost get the sense that a specific person may be referred to when she sings, "and everyday that goes by, you look a little less like who you used to be" and "this is all too heavy" make me think she's referring to a specific person and situation, but really it could be referring to everyone in this world, and the situation of this world in general is what's "too heavy."

    The excerpts from the poem are really haunting, but I think the gist goes along with the rest of the lyrics, that the risk of loving something such as a child also risks the grief that goes along with the potential of losing them, but the important thing is to love as much as you can, while you can.
    waiting to listenon November 12, 2007   Link
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    General CommentI believe you got it right. Not everyone needs a star on the stage, people behind the curtain make a different too.

    Amazing track from an amazing album
    trex6662k5on December 20, 2007   Link
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    General CommentGood song. Fairly well explained already. The song mentions one of my all-time favorite quotes (sort of): "No one can hurt you without your concent." (Actually, it's ;no one can make you feel inferior w/o your consent;, but it's close enough). The other is from my N.O.W. days..."A woman w/o a man is like a fish w/o a bicycle." Sadly though, I learned I liked to ride so I left the organization ;) ...just a bad joke:)
    ASweetPeaon September 27, 2011   Link
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    My InterpretationI believe 'waiting to listen' got most of it right.

    The quotes from "I'll lend you a child" are very striking and I believe there could be various explanations for them.

    One, the speaker of the song could have a strained or possibly even an abusive relationship with her parents. She's born, raised, and all the while torn down. Her strength, however, comes from herself. She identifies with the fact that just because people stare at her differences (or perhaps bruises upon her skin), she does not care because they will never see the true her, they will never know her or her troubles. She acknowledges that know one can help her because they are too busy clamoring for their spot in the world, to be the center of attention, as she does not. But she will never give in, no matter how horribly her parents have treated her or knock her down. She's almost broken, but she knows that she will never really be hurt, without letting herself be hurt. The excerpts from the poem do not particularly hold love (there is the line "we'll love him while we may" which could be a lie from abusive or otherwise callous parents who have need, but not want, of a child).

    They say, "To all parents..." and then at the end,

    "Now will you give her all your love,
    Nor think the labor vain,
    Nor hate Me when I come to call to
    Take him back again?"

    and the answer could've been the song from the child's POV. If so, this is an amazing song to point out the particular difficulties one might face in an abusive childhood and a jeer at those who abuse their right as parents.

    The other explanation would be what 'waiting to listen' was touching base upon. Parents must raise their children and it grieves them to watch their children try to grow up in a world where people are so selfish. But the speaker knows and has been taught correctly that they cannot be hurt unless they let themselves be, so, as their parents taught them, they will never give in. And the end is just a reiteration of the fact that as a parent you must teach your children love and acceptance and strength, even though it's a grievous expenditure.

    Either way, the song is powerful and teaches one to be strong and to never give up. Saltillo is amazing.
    gravitydefyeron October 13, 2011   Link
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    My Interpretation'I don't mind the people staring/ 'Cause I know they never see me anyway'

    I really identified with that line. It means that the person could be ashamed of their true selves, afraid of ridicule if they really did know him/her--and it could also be a bluff: they DO mind when people stare, and lament the fact that no one truly knows them.

    The end of the song is what really brought me to tears. In this context, the poem is basically stating that every person is here for a short time, and 'to love them while they live' and 'mourn for when their dead'. We are all unique, and no one in the entire universe will ever be like us. You, me--we will never occur again--so it's addressing the tragedy that some people aren't appreciated until it's too late--or never appreciated at all. It's an anthem to be yourself, even in the face of ridicule, and to reach the state of singularity that this atmosphere of conformity works to hard to suppress.

    So for everyone that's had the pleasure of hearing this song--this is powerful and quite a treat! Read the poem too; it's tear-jerking.
    cmm6016on February 03, 2012   Link

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