You want him, you need him,
It's so hard to please him,
You just don't dare,
And inside you're burning, with some secret yearnings,
you must not care,

Still won't you help me,
I'm flawed, desperate, angry with God,
cause he just won't care,
oh, excuse me, you're morning,
how callous and boring,
I brush your hair,
see your face, empty smile
I touch that face,
all the while

you know it wont stop, so you make an excuse to confuse the issue,
what make you think that i'll care about you?
when you lay on the ground till he tells you he's through,
he'll do what he'll do, and he'll do it to you,
and all the while,
he's been using you,
yes all the while,
he's abusing you,

so it finally dawned on me, yesterday morning,
i just can't stare,
and swallow the words, that your hero's perverted on what we share,
i'll kill him, I'll beat him. The cycle's repeating.
I hold thin arrogance
still wont you hold him and trust him,
you love him, so much, and he still wont care,
to see your face, with an empty smile,
cause i touched my place on you, and all the while...

she says it's so good, when it's so good,
this is so good, when it's no good,
this is so good, everybody so good,
everybody so good, when you're no good,
all the while, he's been using you,
yes all the while, he's abusing you,

with your naked excuse you confuse your misuse,
what makes you think that I should care what he'll do,
you lay on the ground till he tells you he's through,
and he makes up your mind that that's what you should do

cause all the while you, you've been using you,
yes all the while, you've been abusing you,
he hurts you, miss treats you, your own mind misleads you,
you just won't care,
when holes in your face cant be covered with makeup you'll still stay there.


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Abuse of SID song meanings
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    General CommentI think this song is about a women that gets abused by her husband/boyfriend and she goes off and tries to escape the abuse and has an affair. The guy she is having the affair with knows that she will never leave him and won't leave even for him and it disgusts him that she will not fully let go of this abuse. Like it's some sorta comfort zone for her. I don't know just a thought.
    NutzyPixeon October 01, 2008   Link
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    Song MeaningThe acronym SID is important to the meaning of the song. I, like imdaman1991, once thought it may be a reference to Sudden Infant Death, but we were both swayed.

    What I believe it does stand for is Sensory Integration Disorder/Dysfunction, or the inability to interpret or process the information coming in from the five senses. I'm just trying to figure out who he's pointing at. From the perspective of the child in the song, he/she may have SID because he/she cannot recognize the pain of being hit as a bad touch, thus is constantly striving for acceptance by the father. The father in the song may be stricken with SID as evident by his inability to control his emotions.

    As I was typing this, I started to juggle another concept that is far distant from above. The child has a form of autism, which would include a severe form of SID known as Sensory Defensiveness. SD means the simplest loving touch may be processed by the child's brain as a full fledged punch. If you read the lyrics as 'you' being the mother, she is using the diagnoses as a justification for his closed off and sometimes awful behavior toward her. Think for a few minutes about the Dustin Hoffman character in Rain Man. There are a couple of lines that may not follow this interpretation, but this could explain the "if you knew what this song was about you would tar and feather me" comment. He's criticizing the mentally challenged child, which is not exactly a social norm.
    ElderEdgeon November 17, 2009   Link
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    General Commentmisspelled angry =) I see u are on the Hurt forums too.
    smellmyfingeron September 22, 2007   Link
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    General CommentTo me, this means get help... I'm sorry January
    EcoProon October 08, 2007   Link
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    General CommentI think this girl he loved left him and was abused
    "with your naked excuse you confuse your misuse"
    and even tho it hurts him to see her get abused he doesnt want to be part of anything concerning her.
    pandoreoon October 09, 2007   Link
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    General CommentI think this song is all about abuse in the home "if you lay on the ground til he tells you he's through". Its a topic that not very many musicians touch upon but this song is so full of emotion that it makes me think that there is definately some link between the writer and this topic.

    The whole issue of a repeated cycle is also reminiscent of this "ill kill him and beat him, the cycle's repeating", and most of the song focuses on tryin to ignore the abuse and making it normal.
    underpaid_vampireon November 26, 2007   Link
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    General Commenti think your on the right track, i believe the this song is also about a child who is brought up in a household where the father abuses the mother. I see it as the child is going through all this pain because of this and he walks in on his mother crying because she can't take it anymore. he realizes that she has been hit in the face (this is the part where he talks about "oh, excuse me, you're morning, how callous and boring, I brush your hair, see your face, empty smile I touch that face, all the while")
    The child then begins to hate his dad for what he has done to his mother,but at the same time he's also mad at his mother for not standing up for herself and leaving. He's stuck in the middle and about to lash out at someone
    njcollinson December 20, 2007   Link
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    General Commenti heard some 1 say that the lead singer said"if u knew what this song was about u would tar and feather me". let's do a backround on the lead, he was home schooled, and what we know about most home schooled indivuals is that they r usally done so b/c their parents are overtly religiouse.
    i believe the lead is writing lyrics to rebel against being force fed christianity.u can hear this in hurt's lyrics "rapture", "talk to god" and i believe this song.

    these lyrics are about a girl from a fanactical home, who won't stand up for herself, so she finds herself in a cycel of abusive relationships.


    i believe the lead blames god "i m flawed desparate angry at god, because he just won't care"

    it is easy to do when fed bullshit that god is one demenional, a judging god & not a forgiving and loving god.


    i think i dig hurt b/c of this. i had a simular back round & though they scare me shitless, -don't bring a railing accusation to god" something from my childhood- at the same time i m messmerized by them for expressing what i feeel inside.
    p.s. SID means day by day in latin so abuse of day by day, who controls day by day? god
    6teenstoneon December 28, 2007   Link
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    General CommentThe song differs from its original lyrics and meaning in the volume 2 version. The original applied that the narrator or singer was abusing the girl to prove god didn't care about her. Maybe thats what j loren meant by getting tar and feathered...
    Pentagrammatonon March 15, 2008   Link
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    General CommentThe song differs from its original lyrics and meaning in the volume 2 version. The original applied that the narrator or singer was abusing the girl to prove god didn't care about her. Maybe thats what j loren meant by getting tar and feathered...
    Pentagrammatonon March 15, 2008   Link

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