"It's Not About You" as written by and Roy Neville Francis Stride....
She said its not about you
It's not about you, it's me
She said it's not about you
It's not about you, it's me

And sometimes its good
Sometimes its bad
But living with you, well it's driving me mad
And sometimes its good
Sometimes its bad
But living with you is, well it's becoming a drag

She's a beautiful smile, she's a gleam in your eye
Dresses like a princess, playing games in your mind
Falling out of her top, runs a hand through her hair
Playing so hard to get, cause she knows that you care

I don't know how to love you more, how to love you more
How to love you more, my friend
I don't know how to love you more, how to love you more
How to love you more, my

I guess we got, I guess we got
I guess we got nothing to say
I guess we got, I guess we got
I guess we got

It's not about you (don't you go)
I guess we got
It's not about you (don't you go)
I guess we got

And sometimes its good
Sometimes its bad
But living with you, well it's driving me mad
And sometimes its good
Sometimes its bad
But living with you is, well it's making me sad

So is this how it ends? Well nobody knows
She'll be gone for a year and we'll see how it goes
Moving out of your flat, slipping right through your hands
She's a difficult girl and your a sillier man

I don't know how to love you more, how to love you more
How to love you more, my friend
I don't know how to love you more, how to love you more
How to love you more, my

I don't know how to love you more, how to love you more
How to love you more, my friend
I don't know how to love you more, how to love you more
How to love you more, my

I guess we got, I guess we got
I guess we got nothing to say
I guess we got, I guess we got
I guess we got

It's not about you (don't you go)
I guess we got
It's not about you (don't you go)
I guess we got

It's not about about you
(don't you go home, don't you go home, don't you leave me here alone)
(don't you go home, don't you go home, don't you leave me here alone)
(don't you go home, don't you go home, don't you leave me here alone)
(And sometimes its good
Sometimes its bad
But living with you, well it's driving me mad
And sometimes its good
Sometimes its bad
But living with you is, well your driving me)

I don't know, I don't know, I don't know
How to love you, but I love you so
I don't know, I don't know, I don't know
Why I love you, but I love you so

I don't know, I don't know, I don't know
Why I love you, but I love you so
I don't know, I don't know, I don't know

I guess we got, I guess we got
I guess we got nothing to say
I guess we got, I guess we got
I guess we got (nothing to say)
I guess we got (nothing to say)
I guess we got (nothing to say)

It's not about about you
(don't you go home, don't you go home, don't you leave me here alone)
(don't you go home, don't you go home, don't you leave me here alone)
(don't you go home, don't you go home, don't you leave me here alone)
(And sometimes its good
Sometimes its bad
But living with you, well it's driving me mad
And sometimes its good
Sometimes its bad
But living with you is, well your driving me)


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"It's Not About You" as written by Roy Neville Stride

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    General CommentI guess it's about someone who really likes his friend, and he can't take it any longer to have her flirting with him though she doesn't want him and she knows that he has feelings for her
    and now he told her how he felt, and that he wants her to stop playing him, they've got nothing left to say
    Oelieon July 03, 2007   Link
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    General CommentYeah I think that's it. I love this song. The rhythm and the backing vocals, etc.

    Although it sounds like it's his girlfriend sometimes 'living with you' could mean literally. Like he loves her, but she's playing him hot and cold basically. But Oelie's version makes more sense.

    :)

    Love this song.
    srxcefon July 12, 2007   Link
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    General Commenti think the line 'moving out of your flat' sugests that its his girlfriend who feels she needs some time and space.

    she's saying to him;
    'She said it's not about you
    it's not about you, it's me
    (2x)

    And sometimes it's good
    and sometimes it's bad
    but living with you
    well it's driving me mad
    and sometimes it's good
    and sometimes it's bad
    but living with you
    well it's becoming a drag'

    He tries to make her stay saying;
    'I don't know how to love you more
    how to love you more
    how to love you more my friend'

    Then finaly admits defeat saying;
    'I guess we got
    I guess we got
    I guess we got
    nothing to say'
    He then goes back to trying to change her mind;
    'I don't know how to love you more
    how to love you more
    how to love you more my friend'
    but she doesn't change her mind and leaves him.

    good song, very sincere
    selfishisgorgeouson August 18, 2007   Link
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    General Commenti really like this song, they always played it when i was at work and i never knew what it was. It bugged me because it's so good :)
    georgieon August 26, 2007   Link
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    General CommentI absolutley love this song. It's sort of a sad but meaningful song but at the same time it has a sort of upbeat tune if you know what I mean.

    I agree that the song is about unrequited love. It's about a girl who knows that this man loves her but she strings him along knowing deep down that she doesn't have any feelings for him at all. So when she tries to break up with him she uses the typical excuse 'it's not about you, it's not about you, it's me'.

    He tries to make himself feel better throughout the song by trying to convince himself that she was a difficult person to love, hence, 'I guess we've got nothing to say'/'I don't know how to love you more' but realises at the end that he cannot live with out her 'oh don't you leave me here alone'.
    lanesraon November 24, 2007   Link
  • 0
    General CommentFrom my own experience, i can really relate to this song. I think its about a guy who is so in love with this girl and she knows it, but shes just playing with him.

    Then, when he comes to ask her if she'll go out with him, she rejects him telling him no, and when he asks why, she says (as girls have told me on more than one occasion) "its not about you, its me" so as not to hurt him, yet thos just frustrates him more.
    AliMac22on January 14, 2008   Link
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    General Commentthen as he says "dont you go home, dont you leave me on my own" he is just so upset and distraught and he knows its never goin to happen.
    AliMac22on January 14, 2008   Link
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    General CommentThis Song relates to a situation I am in so well it's kindda scarey... Especially when you consider these lines:

    She's a beautiful smile
    she's a gleam in your eye
    dresses like a princess
    playing games in your mind
    ...
    runs a hand through her hair
    playing so hard to get
    'cause she knows that you care

    I don't know how to love you more
    how to love you more
    how to love you more my friend

    Over 6 years her and I have danced around eachother and when never ever seem to fall into eachother arms. The only difference between my situation and this song is that she does actually have feelings. Curse circumstances.

    On the song front/ Very good song. Never heard anything else by them though. Ironicly I saw this song play on a music channel while I was at her place.
    MaverickXon August 11, 2008   Link
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    Song MeaningMy friends sister-in-law dated Roy, the singer, when she was younger and said to my friend she could of sworn she said 'It's not about you, it's me' when she broke up with him due to her friends disagreeing with her choice of boyfriend when she was young.
    hazeeeelon April 16, 2010   Link

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