"All My Friends" as written by and James Jeremiah Murphy....
That's how it starts
We go back to your house
We check the charts
And start to figure it out

And if it's crowded, all the better
Because we know we're gonna be up late
But if you're worried about the weather
Then you picked the wrong place to stay
That's how it starts

And so it starts
You switch the engine on
We set controls for the heart of the sun
One of the ways we show our age

And if the sun comes up, if the sun comes up, if the sun comes up
And I still don't wanna stagger home
Then it's the memory of our betters
That are keeping us on our feet

You spent the first five years trying to get with the plan
And the next five years trying to be with your friends again

You're talking 45 turns just as fast as you can
Teah, I know it gets tired, but it's better when we pretend

It comes apart
The way it does in bad films
Except in parts
When the moral kicks in

Though when we're running out of the drugs
And the conversation's winding away
I wouldn't trade one stupid decision
For another five years of life

You drop the first ten years just as fast as you can
And the next ten people who are trying to be polite
When you're blowing eighty-five days in the middle of France
Yeah, I know it gets tired only where are your friends tonight?

And to tell the truth
Oh, this could be the last time
So here we go
Like a sales force into the night

And if I made a fool, if I made a fool, if I made a fool
On the road, there's always this
And if I'm sewn into submission
I can still come home to this

And with a face like a dad and a laughable stand
You can sleep on the plane or review what you said
When you're drunk and the kids leave impossible tasks
You think over and over, "hey, I'm finally dead."

Oh, if the trip and the plan come apart in your hand
Tou look contorted on yourself your ridiculous prop
You forgot what you meant when you read what you said
And you always knew you were tired, but then
Where are your friends tonight?

Where are your friends tonight?
Where are your friends tonight?

If I could see all my friends tonight
If I could see all my friends tonight
If I could see all my friends tonight
If I could see all my friends tonight


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"All My Friends" as written by James Jeremiah Murphy

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  • +9
    General CommentThis song changed my life as well. I feel like it's everything I've said growing up in a musical version.

    I think the song emphasizes responsibility vs friendships. When it comes down to it, in life, we don't look back and reminsce on the A's we got on projects and that great work meeting. It's the crazy times with our friends that make up our life experience.

    "Though when we're running out of the drugs
    And the conversation's winding away
    I wouldn't trade one stupid decision
    For another five years of lies

    You drop the first ten years just as fast as you can
    And the next ten people who are trying to be polite
    When you're blowing eighty-five days in the middle of France
    Yeah, I know it gets tired only where are your friends tonight?"


    That's my favorite part. Right now, I don't even know what day it is, I spent my weekend working at a bar, partying with my friends, then driving them to the airport at 6am. And I'm fucking tired, but I have so many great memories from this weekend and that's all that matters.

    Fucking beautiful song.
    Cassilouon March 10, 2008   Link
  • +6
    General CommentYeah, a lot of the last half of the song I had to listen to over and over to get it that close. I'll go through those corrections and make edits in a bit. A fun project would be to swap out homophones all over the lyrics to see how absurd you could make them (like that weirdo that demolished the stupid Fallout Boy song in the youtube video with MS Paint).

    So it's fairly straightforward that the song is a retrospective on the rock 'n roll lifestyle and whether it was worth it and what was actually gained from it. What I liked most about it was the monotony of the keyboard and bass line mimicking a life that just goes on and on, regardless of how tired one gets of it, or how oblivious one is to time's passage. It's as if the melody represents the same repetitive tasks of life: sleep, breathe, do the damn thing, etc.

    But what the hell do I know? I drunkenly cried myself to sleep over this song the other night.
    tesla3396on March 24, 2007   Link
  • +6
    General CommentI wonder if all the people in there mid thirties and up who are still in a scene that mingles with the twenty somethings see this song anything like I do? I feel like it's about growing up, feeling old, wanting change, and having to deal with the fact that you make a living off of people much younger and energetic... The people you started the journey with have moved on and you have nothing in common with them anyways, but you are fading from common ground with the people you are with now too. Maybe the old Peter Pan story.?.
    weallshouldknowon January 09, 2012   Link
  • +4
    General CommentI think that this song is a postmodernist cry for significance and meaning, because most of us now live in a world of hyperrealism. I would invite the reader to look at what they are doing right now, for instance: I wrote a comment on a website that I had just became a member of, and it could be that, subjectively, this song meant a lot to me at that moment in time. But, really, the fact that I was in my room at that moment in time (I, or anyone who will be reading this is, at this or that moment in time, having hyperreal perceptions) does not take away from the fact that the majority of my (now, your) perception was (is) made up of what I believed to be real (words appearing as I press buttons; you, either reading because you're interested, or clicking on something else because you have lost interest). In fact, what is occuring before me objectively is just a series of lights, which are reacting to an interconnected series of electronic curcuits.

    The second and third stanzas are, I think, a critique of the internet, and how social networks produce both inactivity and a gradual subjective degration of objective experience. We have replaced objective interaction with hyperreal objective/subjective interaction, thus creating an artificial environment, where uncomfortable (thus beneficial) experience is nonexistent. At the end of stanza 3, "Yeah, I know it gets tired, but it's better when we pretend," implies that this hyperreality seems better than reality itself. Thus, we spend so much time immersed in hyperreality that we don't realize our own fatigue (that which is a result of a lack of actual objective experience) and gradually degrade.

    Moral principles have no place in this subjective/objective hyperrealism, because there are no consequences for mannerisms/thoughts/words that would be considered unacceptable in actual objective conversations or observation or analyzation or whatever. We may proceed to be as pompous and asshole-ish as we please, with no reprecussions.

    All of our "friends" are mostly seen on a digital format. When actual interaction occurs, we come to the painful and unwitting realization that we haven't had any "real" interaction with them... only hyperreal interaction. So, it necessarily follows that a feeling of abandonment ensues in modern existence, because most of us are now at the whim of the screen.
    Zavcaptainon April 27, 2011   Link
  • +3
    General CommentI agree with some of the points already made so far, but I think there's a little more to it than has been mentioned so far.

    This song, at the surface level, is about a group for friends who are a little older than they used to be, getting together for a big party at one of their houses. They're determined to make it an all-nighter, just like they always used to do. And that's how it starts.

    However, as the party goes on it's just not the same as it used to be. The drugs run out, the party starts to lose momentum. The party-goers are trying their best to pretend that it's not happening, because it would be like admitting defeat, but the party just never really gets off the ground like it used to. Sometimes it happens at parties. It's a weird phenomenon.

    Interspersed with this story of a bad party is the idea of getting older and reaching the end of a stage in your life. The song talks about the idea that when you're young you spend years trying to reach adulthood, then you spend years trying to fit into it, and in that process you lose some of your wild youth and spend years trying to recapture it. It's like the start of a mid-life crisis.

    The party is a point where the narrator (Murphy) is realising that no matter how hard he tries, life has moved on and carried him with it. You grow up, have kids, holiday in France and all of a sudden you're like "hey, where did my youth go? Where are my friends tonight?" He's realising with a hint of sadness that this could be the last time they're all together like they used to be. However, he's looking back and thinking that it was all worth it for the memories and the great times they all had.

    It's a beautiful and sad song. It sucks to grow up and it's easy to feel like something has been lost as you do, but everyone has to do it, no matter how hard you try to deny or ignore it. The failed party is an allegory of this. And like the narrator in the party, you just no when it's time to move on to the next stage of your life. In the words of Ron Burgundy "We've been coming to the same party for 12 years now, and in no way is that depressing."
    Bambinion May 24, 2008   Link
  • +2
    General CommentI was going to add this in early February, got half of the lyrics written, then had to stop and never got back to it.

    Also, this line:
    "Then it's the memory of our betters
    that are keeping us on our feet."
    is grammatically incorrect, but that's how he sings it.

    I think there are some errors though:
    "Oh when we're running out of the drugs
    and the conversation's winding away.
    I wouldn't trade one stupid decision
    for another five years of lies."
    I'm pretty sure it's Though, not Oh and that it's life, not lies.

    "
    You drop the first ten years just as fast as you can,
    and the next ten people who are trying to be belied.
    When you're blowing eighty-five days in the middle of this,
    Yeah, I know it gets tired only wearing on friends tonight."
    Should be:

    "Oh, you drop the first ten years just as fast as you can,
    and the next ten people who are trying to be polite.
    When you're blowing eighty-five days in the middle of France"

    The last part of that verse is wrong too I think, but I can't quite make it out.

    So tell the truth. should be And to tell the truth.
    So when we go, should be So here we go,

    "And with a face like a dad and a laughable stand,
    you leave conceit on the plane or review what you said.
    When you're drunk and the kids leave impossible tasks
    you think over and over, hey, I finally did."
    should be
    "And with a face like a dad and a laughable stand,
    you can sleep on the plane or review what you said.
    When you're drunk and the kids look impossibly tan
    you think over and over, 'hey, I'm finally dead.'"

    you look concerted on yourself your ridiculous prop.
    should be
    you look contorted on yourself your ridiculous prop.
    colincslon March 13, 2007   Link
  • +2
    General CommentI think it's about life from age 20 to 30. However i did enjoy Garden State so take what i say with a grain of salt.
    bsmith24424on January 27, 2010   Link
  • +2
    General Commenteveryone looks way too much into this song. The concept is simple. James Murphy has obviously written this song whilst on tour and it follows a night he spends with all his friends and he talks about how much he misses it. Throughout the entire song it is described that James and his friends have a bender (an all-nighter on drugs). read the lyrics, its very simple.
    esbon1on September 12, 2012   Link
  • +1
    General Commentits about the uncertainty of life, and the certainty of friends.
    bobby the dolton March 18, 2007   Link
  • +1
    General CommentI agree and disagree with some of the other things posted.

    I think this is not about someone reaching adulthood, but rather someone looking back upon when they were emerging adults.

    This song is reflecting about what it was like to reach adulthood, "get with the plan", and then realize that you might not want the plan. You might not want to spend every minute with your partner. And you might want to spend time with your friends.

    That's not to say that you don't like the life you have. The lines- "Then it's the memory of our betters / that are keeping us on our feet" suggests that you are still motivated by the life you have with your partner.

    But at the same time, you miss the energy, stupidness, and freedom of your younger days. And although you are "showing your age", you still want to have those late nights.
    FeelSoTongueTiedon August 13, 2007   Link

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