Overall about difficult moments of disappointment and vulnerability. Having hope and longing, while remaining optimistic for the future. Encourages the belief that with each new morning there is a chance for things to improve.
The chorus offers a glimmer of optimism and a chance at a resolution and redemption in the future.
Captures the rollercoaster of emotions of feeling lost while loving someone who is not there for you, feeling let down and abandoned while waiting for a lover. Lost with no direction, "Now I'm up in the air with the rain in my hair, Nowhere to go, I can go anywhere"
The bridge shows signs of longing and a plea for companionship. The Lyrics express a desire for authentic connection and the importance of Loving someone just as they are. "Just in passing, I'm not asking. That you be anyone but you”
Da da da da
The smell of your skin lingers on me now
You're probably on your flight back to your hometown
I need some shelter of my own protection, baby
Be with myself and center
Clarity, peace, serenity
I hope you know, I hope you know
That this has nothing to do with you
It's personal, myself and I
We've got some straightenin' out to do
And I'm gonna miss you like a child misses their blanket
But I've got to get a move on with my life
It's time to be a big girl now
And big girls don't cry
Don't cry
Don't cry
Don't cry
The path that I'm walking
I must go alone
I must take the baby steps 'til I'm full grown, full grown
Fairy tales don't always have a happy ending, do they?
And I foresee the dark ahead if I stay
I hope you know, I hope you know
That this has nothing to do with you
It's personal, myself and I
We've got some straightenin' out to do
And I'm gonna miss you like a child misses their blanket
But I've got to get a move on with my life
It's time to be a big girl now
And big girls don't cry
Like the little school mate in the school yard
We'll play jacks and Uno cards
I'll be your best friend, and you'll be mine
Valentine
Yes, you can hold my hand if you want to
'Cause I wanna hold yours too
We'll be playmates and lovers, and share our secret worlds
But it's time for me to go home
It's getting late and dark outside
I need to be with myself and center
Clarity, peace, serenity
I hope you know, I hope you know
That this has nothing to do with you
It's personal, myself and I
We've got some straightenin' out to do
And I'm gonna miss you like a child misses their blanket
But I've got to get a move on with my life
It's time to be a big girl now
And big girls don't cry
Don't cry
Don't cry
Don't cry
La da da da da da
The smell of your skin lingers on me now
You're probably on your flight back to your hometown
I need some shelter of my own protection, baby
Be with myself and center
Clarity, peace, serenity
I hope you know, I hope you know
That this has nothing to do with you
It's personal, myself and I
We've got some straightenin' out to do
And I'm gonna miss you like a child misses their blanket
But I've got to get a move on with my life
It's time to be a big girl now
And big girls don't cry
Don't cry
Don't cry
Don't cry
The path that I'm walking
I must go alone
I must take the baby steps 'til I'm full grown, full grown
Fairy tales don't always have a happy ending, do they?
And I foresee the dark ahead if I stay
I hope you know, I hope you know
That this has nothing to do with you
It's personal, myself and I
We've got some straightenin' out to do
And I'm gonna miss you like a child misses their blanket
But I've got to get a move on with my life
It's time to be a big girl now
And big girls don't cry
Like the little school mate in the school yard
We'll play jacks and Uno cards
I'll be your best friend, and you'll be mine
Valentine
Yes, you can hold my hand if you want to
'Cause I wanna hold yours too
We'll be playmates and lovers, and share our secret worlds
But it's time for me to go home
It's getting late and dark outside
I need to be with myself and center
Clarity, peace, serenity
I hope you know, I hope you know
That this has nothing to do with you
It's personal, myself and I
We've got some straightenin' out to do
And I'm gonna miss you like a child misses their blanket
But I've got to get a move on with my life
It's time to be a big girl now
And big girls don't cry
Don't cry
Don't cry
Don't cry
La da da da da da
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Big Girls Don't Cry (Personal) Lyrics as written by Stacy Ferguson Tobias Gad
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I think these are all really good interpretations but to me i think shes saying, i love you but i need my space. she says she needs to sort herself out and anyone who has been in a serious relationship would know that its hard to connect with a person and give them all of you if you feel out of tune with yourself.
she says it doesnt have anything to do with him, which to me means it doesnt mean there breaking up. i think shes just saying she needs a break from the relationship. the song goes on further to say that he can hold her hand because she wants to hold his to, meaning the relationship or bond is not over.
I think the true meaning of this song is needing some space, time out, because when you're not a whole you can't be someone else's compliment :D
In order to love someone, you must love you first.
Basically that's it, and the song reflects that the wise thing to do is perform this search on your own and not involving someone (that was already there) so saying goodbye is hard but fair for that other person.
Until you get together.
I'm just like that right now.
Good song
The song has a hidden meaning going back to her obsession with mexican bangers in EAST LA ( see Glamorous) The guy in the video is tattooed with the style of mexican gang related tatts seen in Los Angelos ( the caligraphy chain--the clowns --virgen mary)he even has EAST SIDE tattooed on his arm. She is seeing that love from anyother way --since she became famous --she writes it in her journal --she is looking from the outside looking in ( henc her looking outside while he commits a crime drug dealing...of which he was selling to another mexican banger with an aztec tattoo and the guy on teh impala has also got the mexican gang tatts....she speaks on him in Glamorous a little about going to parties in EAST LA. She somehow finds dude again...and flys him up to see her now that she is famous...and writes all that shit down as she smells him on her skin ...reminsicing on love lost and an impossible love.The song is her realizing the sitaution and the dude after seeing him again---(she obviously reconnected with this cholo) so she sings teh song again this time after he leaves ..........on your flight back to your hometown( your hometown :mexican gang slang for neighborhood)....this has nothing to do with you --I miss you like a child misses her blanket......( a child misses her blanket when she is a little kid but when she grows up that blanket means zero) she mustve really loved this cholo ...because she says their love was a fairytale but they dont always end happily....in her other song CLUMSY.....the video has her spinning outta control after seeing a tattooed bandana wearing mexican looking dude in front of a TACO shop with BIRRIA on the sign( BIRRIA IS A MEXICAN TYPE OF SOUP).....just pay attention and youll see what I am saying
There's only one line that I listen to before I change the radio to something else.
I'm guessing this is what my ex was trying to warn me about - "And I foresee the dark ahead if I stay."
She was right. We ended up going out again but honestly it would've been better if I actually really listened to what she had said. The point was for her not to regret me the first time we broke up; she thought at that time that if we got back together she would regret it forever.
She was right.
The second break-up came and I being an arrogant asshole did things my way. I took her for granted. I regret losing her forever.
This song is about her journey to rid her self of her addiction and doing it by herself. If you didn't already know, Fergie was a HUGE heroin addict. So, I think it's about her getting clean by herself. :)
To Me:
Its like you've just broken up with someone and your remembering what they were like. Then Fergie sings about shelter and clarity - so she needs some time to figure out what it is she wants and needs.
Big Girls Dont Cry - Mature and grown up she still feels like a child especially alone and scared but its something that she needs to do and reminding herself that "the path I am walking I must go alone, I must take Baby steps until Im full grown"- She will start slowly but surely, its something she needs to do .
The person that left, she will miss but its not just for her its for him. Maybe she knew this person for a long time and she states that they are like school mates, which obviously states that things are so much harder than when you meet a young boy in the playground things are so much simpler when your a child.
A song about the forces that comes to bear on young love (sounds like a first love), the decision to break up to develop into a big girl (that doesn't cry) of the world, to take that personal journey; "I must go alone, I must take the baby steps till I'm full grown, full grown". She explains to her love that he is not to blame, it's not his fault; "I hope you know, I hope you know, That this has nothing to do with you". "And I'm gonna miss you like a child misses their blanket" because the love remains, it's about outside forces which can't be ignored. The journey is necessary to avoid the hurt of a sweet love becoming destroyed; "Fairy tales don't always have a happy ending do they, And I forsee the dark ahead if I stay". PS. (for Shirley) But if you are really lucky, the prize is that you get to find that person again after resolution, and feel the value of the rarest thing... perfect love.
La Da Da Da Da The smell of your skin lingers on me now You're probably on your flight back to your home town I need some shelter of my own protection baby (she needs to get over him without heartbreak) To be with myself instead of calamity Peace, Serenity
I hope you know, I hope you know That this has nothing to do with you It's personal, myself and I (She wants to get over him, and she doesn't want to stress him out) We've got some straightenin' out to do And I'm gonna miss you like a child misses their blanket But Ive got to get a move on with my life Its time to be a big girl now And big girls don't cry (She has to get over him, but she's going to miss him. She doesn't want to cry, because it'd be useless.) Don't cry Don't cry Don't cry
The path that I'm walking I must go alone I must take the baby steps until I'm full grown Fairytales don't always have a happy ending, do they And I foresee the dark ahead if I stay (If she stays stuck on him, she'll end up heartbroken)
I hope you know, I hope you know That this has nothing to with you It's personal, myself and I We've got some straightenin' out to do And I'm gonna miss you like a child misses their blanket But I've got to get a move on with my life Its time to be a big girl now And big girls don't cry
Like the little school mate in the school yard We'll play jacks and uno cards Ill be your best friend and you'll be my Valentine (He wants to be best friends with her, but she'll regard it as something more) Yes you can hold my hand if you want to Cause I want to hold yours too (if he decides to like her, she likes him, too) Well be playmates and lovers and share our secret worlds But its time for me to go home Its getting late, dark outside I need to be with myself instead of calamity Peace, Serenity (She needs to let go) I hope you know, I hope you know That this has nothing to do with you It's personal, myself and I We've got some straightenin' out to do And I'm gonna miss you like a child misses their blanket But I've got to get a move on with my life Its time to be a big girl now And big girls don't cry Don't cry Don't cry Don't cry
La Da Da Da Da Da
the song big girls don't cry it reminds me of when you your about too cry just remember that be strong when you are about do something just remember that it is okay
Here too. Sometimes you want to cry but dont want to drag everyone in on it because its personal and you are going to be strong and work it out. Its about being strong even when you don't really feel it.
i think that shes in love but knows she has to get over that person...and no matter how hard it is she is just going to have to grow up and move and...and make it through withouth crying hence"big girls don't cry"...this song is pretty deep especially for fergie..i am so amazed by her new personality and absolutely love this song
i agree with the above comment, and also think its about her on a personal journy to find herself hence the 'its personal, myself and i have got some straightening out to do'...i can relate to her song but it kinda IS about the guy cuz hes an asshole and ruined me...