Da da da da
The smell of your skin lingers on me now
You're probably on your flight back to your home town
I need some shelter of my own protection, baby
To be with myself and center
Clarity, peace, serenity

I hope you know, I hope you know
That this has nothing to do with you
It's personal, myself and I
We've got some straightenin' out to do
And I'm gonna miss you like a child misses their blanket
But I've got to get a move on with my life
It's time to be a big girl now
And big girls don't cry

Don't cry
Don't cry
Don't cry

The path that I'm walking
I must go alone
I must take the baby steps till I'm full grown, full grown
Fairy tales don't always have a happy ending, do they?
And I foresee the dark ahead if I stay

I hope you know, I hope you know
That this has nothing to do with you
It's personal, myself and I
We've got some straightenin' out to do
And I'm gonna miss you like a child misses their blanket
But I've got to get a move on with my life
It's time to be a big girl now
And big girls don't cry

Like the little school mate in the school yard
We'll play jacks and Uno cards
I'll be your best friend, and you'll be mine
Valentine
Yes, you can hold my hand if you want to
'Cause I want to hold yours too
We'll be playmates and lovers, and share our secret worlds
But it's time for me to go home
It's getting late and dark outside
I need to be with myself and center
Clarity, peace, serenity

I hope you know, I hope you know
That this has nothing to do with you
It's personal, myself and I
We've got some straightenin' out to do
And I'm gonna miss you like a child misses their blanket
But I've got to get a move on with my life
It's time to be a big girl now
And big girls don't cry

Don't cry
Don't cry
Don't cry

La da da da da da



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"Big Girls Don't Cry" as written by Ferguson/gad

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  • +1
    General Comment:I think these are all really good interpretations but to me i think shes saying, i love you but i need my space. she says she needs to sort herself out and anyone who has been in a serious relationship would know that its hard to connect with a person and give them all of you if you feel out of tune with yourself.

    she says it doesnt have anything to do with him, which to me means it doesnt mean there breaking up. i think shes just saying she needs a break from the relationship. the song goes on further to say that he can hold her hand because she wants to hold his to, meaning the relationship or bond is not over.
    concreteskieson May 24, 2007   Link
  • +1
    General Comment:I think the true meaning of this song is needing some space, time out, because when you're not a whole you can't be someone else's compliment :D

    In order to love someone, you must love you first.

    Basically that's it, and the song reflects that the wise thing to do is perform this search on your own and not involving someone (that was already there) so saying goodbye is hard but fair for that other person.

    Until you get together.

    I'm just like that right now.

    Good song
    dag_102on May 26, 2007   Link
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    General Comment:There's only one line that I listen to before I change the radio to something else.

    I'm guessing this is what my ex was trying to warn me about - "And I foresee the dark ahead if I stay."

    She was right. We ended up going out again but honestly it would've been better if I actually really listened to what she had said. The point was for her not to regret me the first time we broke up; she thought at that time that if we got back together she would regret it forever.

    She was right.

    The second break-up came and I being an arrogant asshole did things my way.
    I took her for granted.
    I regret losing her forever.
    Guillon October 17, 2007   Link
  • +1
    General Comment:This song is about her journey to rid her self of her addiction and doing it by herself. If you didn't already know, Fergie was a HUGE heroin addict. So, I think it's about her getting clean by herself. :)
    GagaBlackeyedPeasBeyonceAllthewaon March 29, 2010   Link
  • +1
    My Interpretation:the song big girls don't cry it reminds me of when you your about too cry just remember that be strong when you are about do something just remember that it is okay
    kitkat95on July 31, 2012   Link
  • 0
    General Comment:i think that shes in love but knows she has to get over that person...and no matter how hard it is she is just going to have to grow up and move and...and make it through withouth crying hence"big girls don't cry"...this song is pretty deep especially for fergie..i am so amazed by her new personality and absolutely love this song
    dbishon January 09, 2007   Link
  • 0
    General Comment:i agree with the above comment, and also think its about her on a personal journy to find herself hence the 'its personal, myself and i have got some straightening out to do'...i can relate to her song but it kinda IS about the guy cuz hes an asshole and ruined me...
    JanineProLoveon January 20, 2007   Link
  • 0
    General Comment:i also wanna say that i had no idea fergie could sing like this. i thought her voice was more scruffy. in a SLIGHT way she sounds a lil christina aguilara-ish like in that finally song in the chorus
    JanineProLoveon January 20, 2007   Link
  • 0
    General Comment:I need to be with myself "instead of calamity". its actually supposed to be "i need to be with myself and centre, clarity...". i absolutely love this song, jordan mccoy also sang the exact same song but with a more younger version as she is 14. i prefer fergies version because it feels like shes singing it with more emotion.
    brighterdayzon January 30, 2007   Link
  • 0
    General Comment:I like this. I wish she'd sing like this more often.
    ArsenicMassacreon March 04, 2007   Link

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