"Lose Control" as written by Amy Lee and Terry Balsamo....
You don't remember my name
I don't really care
Can we play the game your way?
Can I really lose control?

Just once in my life
I think it'd be nice
(Just to lose control, just once)
With all the pretty flowers in the dust

Mary had a lamb
His eyes black as coals
If we play very quiet, my lamb
Mary never has to know

Just once in my life
I think it'd be nice
(Just to lose control, just once)

If I cut you down to a thing I can use
I fear there will be nothing good left of you

Just to lose control, just once


Lyrics submitted by Liquid-Spear-Waltz

"Lose Control" as written by Amy Lee Terry Balsamo

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  • +6
    My InterpretationI'm surprised no one has mentioned that it could be about childhood abuse. At least that's my interpretation. My examples as follows:


    You don't remember my name
    I don't really care
    [( Could be talking to the abuser, showing strength and calling the abuser out for past misdeeds.)]

    Can we play the game your way?
    [( Remembering as a child that there was no power. So in a sense, giving in to someone you thought you could trust.)]

    Can I really lose control?
    [( Feeling like you are loosing it because of the past abuse, and don't know how to mend.)]


    Just once in my life
    I think it'd be nice
    (Just to lose control, just once)
    [( Wanting to get control of the situation, because you felt so powerless. You so desire that freedom from the pain.)]

    With all the pretty flowers in the dust
    [( Lost childhood and lost innocence, because of the suffering of child abuse.)]

    Mary had a lamb
    His eyes black as coals
    If we play very quiet, my lamb
    Mary never has to know

    [( Mary could be the mother that is naive towards what's happening. And the abuser's eyes are black as coals because he is just an evil person for causing the abuse as interpreted from a child's point of view. Also, the abuser doesn't want anyone to know and tells the child to not tell the mother.)]

    Just once in my life
    I think it'd be nice
    (Just to lose control, just once)
    [( Begging to be released from the painful abuse and the past.)]

    If I cut you down to a thing I can use
    I fear there will be nothing good left of you
    [( Realization that the child now adult doesn't have to make excuses for the abuse and the abuser has nothing good to give or nothing to help mend the past. Everything is rotten about the abuser and it's time to let go of that relationship.)]

    Just to lose control, just once
    [( The child now adult realizes that he/she is not going crazy and is finally at peace with what happened. And is not longer that child who has to hide.)]
    Angelfreakon July 25, 2012   Link
  • +2
    General CommentAmy desrcibed this in a kerrang interview as the sexiest song on the album (or that it might be the kind of song people would have sex to.) That's all I know about what the song means to Amy.

    To me I think it's about no strings attatched sex with a married man. "You don't remember my name, I don't really care" suggests to me that they are not in love, and in fact don't know each other that way. The pretty flowers in the dust are the kids from the man's marriage and Mary is the wife.

    I have no idea what the last two lines mean though.
    Liquid-Spear-Waltzon September 05, 2006   Link
  • +2
    General Commentwhat i love so much about amy is she can write stuff like this without being at all slutty. usually we all see her as a pure broken angel, here she tells us that she's human at times and can still be a broken angel. i really like this album because it's a lot freer than fallen and she's not afraid to sing about sex and death alike.
    screaming_angelon October 08, 2006   Link
  • +2
    General CommentI see this as a song about sex and submission. This person she is with is dominant, she is submissive. He doesn't remember her name because it'd not important. They're playing a game (maybe some sort of BDSM game) and she's asking if she can just lose control by playing to his rules.

    Maybe she's been held down all her life by society, by having to keep control all the time in and out of public, so she's saying it would be wonderful to just lose control and have someone else control her. All the pretty flowers in the dust may be her former self; the proper, delicate "flower"-like person she's leaving behind.

    But in the end, she's actually using him to get what she wants, but in the process, she's corrupting him by placing him with her in this act.

    "Mary and the Lamb" is the part where I'm convinced she's with a man who is married or with someone. So perhaps the man she is losing control with is taken.
    breatheyouin4on March 24, 2007   Link
  • +2
    My OpinionOk people I seriously doubt that a person such as Amy Lee would ever write about sex, much less cheating, since she is married. Although the line "if we play very quiet my lamb, mary never has to know" implies cheating, why do so many people jump to that conclusion? It's about betrayal of someone. Or doing something you know is wrong...why else would they "play very quiet". For all you know it's about stealing something and being quiet and sneaky. Or just letting go and having fun for once, not being so wary of everything. The betrayal aspect DOESN'T have to mean cheating, and cheating doesn't have to be the only explanation for this song okay? Seriously that's getting old.
    amber22on February 05, 2010   Link
  • +2
    My InterpretationYou don't remember my name
    I don't really care
    Can we play the game your way?
    Can I really lose control? - Meaning her & the man shes having an affair with doesn't know each other on a personal level other then the relationship based on pleasure & sex. & she wants to play the game his way because he seems to know what he's doing. Possibly a older married man who does this very often.

    Just once in my life
    I think it'd be nice
    (Just to lose control, just once)
    With all the pretty flowers in the dust - She's tired of always being a "good girl" & believes that by losing control she will find some comfort in being bad. To her its all a rush to be doing something she normally doesn't do.

    Mary had a lamb
    His eyes black as coals
    If we play very quiet, my lamb
    Mary never has to know - & here again we see that the man shes having this Affair with is Married & that possibly when she says "his eyes are black as coals" that he has no shame in what he's doing, a cold hearted man.

    Just once in my life
    I think it'd be nice
    (Just to lose control, just once) & again she says the same thing.

    If I cut you down to a thing I can use
    I fear there will be nothing good left of you - Meaning that if she cuts him down to a play toy, than there's really nothing good left of him. To me she finally relizes that he's no good.

    Just to lose control, just once
    xXrockchick93Xxon April 18, 2012   Link
  • +1
    General CommentI always thought this song was simply what the title suggests- losing control. But now i can definately see where your coming from with the married man. It fits perfectly. Except i could never see Amy being that type. To me it definately seems to be about a loveless relationship though. No romance, just sex.

    This song is so sexy. It's awesome. I love that Evanescence can take this route on board and yet still be themselves. Only worry is the piano through the whole song- if Amy is playing the piano during the song she won't be able to get into it as much which is a nessessity (sp?) with this one.
    midnightfairy25on September 12, 2006   Link
  • +1
    General CommentIt's not about cheating - and if it is then it's about Mary cheating herself.

    Scenario:

    Mary converses with something devilish, yeah - maybe a demon.

    She then says that she wants to lose control and "make it" with someone since she has been chaste, I guess.

    Then a narrator says that Mary had a little lamb - i.e. boyfriend. And this boyfriend was evil because he had a black soul... black eyes...

    The demonic thing approaches the little lamb and tells him lets trick Mary. "Let's me and you play." She, Mary, first approached the devilish thing and had many questions, no? Sure, that is exactly how it played out.

    She didn't bite so now the demon moved onto her little lamb to persuade her and trick her (He, the lamb will even wait for her at school .... he is a wolf in sheeps clothing).

    Mary once again contemplated whether to wreck her life.

    Then she tells herself "if I cut you down to a thing I can use I fear there will be nothing good left of you"

    So she doesn't defile, debase or deflower herself - she doesn't want to be left sullied.

    Way to go Mary.

    It's the typical struggle that young people have to maintain their self respect.

    You all know those stories of the guy or gal that goes to that party... Stay away from those parties...

    The common and predicitable result is that you'll get PWNED!

    If you do decide to go then Sit!

    You been owned and taken advantage of....
    curiousgeorgeon October 20, 2006   Link
  • 0
    General CommentOh yes. This is the writing style I missed.
    I love this song. I think it's overtaking Lithium as a favorite.

    I'm going with Liquid-Spear-Waltz on this one. Great interpretation. The bit about the lamb is just an analogy for cheating. Mary had a lamb (the husband). His eyes were black -- dark, hidden, he cheated. If they play quiet, she'll never find out... It's fitting. Very devious.

    I suppose the last two lines would be the regrets? If I do this to you, destroy your relationship, lead you astray, will there be anything good left in you? In a way, it could mean he's faceless, a worthless companion... Like maybe his loyalty is all he has to offer, and since she's breaking that for him, he loses all credibility... I don't know =/.
    LaDiabloon September 07, 2006   Link
  • 0
    General CommentI don't like the music in this song but I do love the lyrics.!
    heavenly_creatureon September 09, 2006   Link

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