"Stop and Stare" as written by Andrew John Brown, Eddie Fisher, Zach Filkins, Timothy John Myers and Ryan B Tedder....
This town is colder now, I think it's sick of us
It's time to make our move, I'm shakin' off the rust
I've got my heart set on anywhere but here
I'm staring down myself, counting up the years

Steady hands just take the wheel
Every glance is killing me
Time to make one last appeal
For the life I live

Stop and stare
I think I'm moving but I go nowhere
Yeah, I know that everyone gets scared
But I've become what I can't be, oh

Stop and stare
You start to wonder why you're here not there
And you'd give anything to get what's fair
But fair ain't what you really need
Oh, can you see what I see'

They're tryin' to come back, all my senses push
Untie the weight bags, I never thought I could
Steady feet, don't fail me now
I'm gonna run till you can't walk
Something pulls my focus out
And I'm standing down

Stop and stare
I think I'm moving but I go nowhere
Yeah, I know that everyone gets scared
But I've become what I can't be, oh

Stop and stare
You start to wonder why you're here not there
And you'd give anything to get what's fair
But fair ain't what you really need
Oh, you don't need

Stop and stare
I think I'm moving but I go nowhere
Yeah, I know that everyone gets scared
I've become what I can't be
Oh, do you see what I see?


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"Stop and Stare" as written by Andrew John Brown, Eddie Fisher, Zach Filkins, Timothy John Myers, Ryan B Tedder

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  • +7
    General Commentalright so i think its about someone who has tried to please everyone around him for so long he doesnt know who he is anymore. he feels like he is watching himself from the outside and what he has become is trying to justify it to who he is supposed to be what is happening. "time to make one last appeal for the life i lead". (also explains the term "us")

    the 2nd verse is him trying to get away from it and stand up for himself. his feelings and thoughts r coming back and the weights and pressure from everyone else is falling away.

    "Steady feet, don't fail me now, Gonna run till you can't walk" he is determind to get away from it all, and what he is. but something or someone just drags him back to how he was, so he backs off and does as everyone else pleases again. "But something pulls my focus out, And I'm standing down..."

    "And you'd give anything to get what's fair
    But fair ain't what you really need" he is talkin to himself. fair to him is so everyone is happy, equally. but its not what he needs, or what is gonna make him happy. he needs to get out of this situation completely.

    "Oh, do you see what I see" who he is supposed to be is watching from the outside and trying to say this isnt right.

    ok i could b totally wrong. and it prob makes no sense. but thats just what i get. i suppose its cos im relating it to my situation. i feel exactly that. i do everything to make others happy that its making me miserable and question everything i do. its like i have 2 personalities, i watch myself and half the time im like wtf am i doing?? but i still do nothing to change it.

    great song tho. haha. :)
    chickygirl123on October 04, 2007   Link
  • +4
    General Commenti think this song is talking about trying to get out of where you are and going wherever you've always wanted to.. and doing what you've always wanted to.


    you thought you couldn't leave but you find out you can.. and that change is okay.
    "untie the weight bags
    I never thought I could"
    (possibly weight bags that were holding you down?)

    :) i tried. lol. i still love love love this song!
    yipeenikkion January 09, 2007   Link
  • +4
    General Commentthis song could be about wanting to move on in life but being unable to because of past experiences that have held him (someone) back, but I also think that it is about this couple that live in a town where things aren't fair & they are unable to see each other as much as they would like to. it says,"this town is cold and I" meaning they have to go somewhere else where their relationship is welcomed. then it says,"it's time to make a move"... "I've got my heart set". the couple is planning on leaving this town behind. eventually they get in their vehicle and leave.
    "Steady hands just take the wheel
    Every glance is killing me
    Time will make one last appeal
    For the life I leave"
    by saying "every glance is killing me", the guy means that he glances at his girlfriend and it kills him to see her like that cause she's probably in the passenger seat right next to him wondering if they're making the right choice & possibly freaking out. finally it says "time will make one last appeal" meaning either they still have time to change their mind and stay in this town in the first place or they are willing to give it time in another place and see how things work out. if it doesn't work out, then they can leave, because the time that they have been away from family and friends in their old town could seem appealing.

    just my opinion, though.
    let me know what you think.
    ashsugarz061on July 30, 2007   Link
  • +3
    General CommentI think this is a great song.

    The vision I get from the song is of him on the outskirts of a town, about to leave the life he's known. Who knows what has spurred this desire to leave, maybe a relationship gone bad, or maybe he is not where he thought he'd be in terms of his career. The line "I'm staring down myself, counting up the years" is a very reflective line which leads me to believe that he is not happy with where his life choices have taken him. The song title, "Stop and stare," is him pausing for one last look before leaving his life behind.

    The use of "us" in the beginning I find interesting. I think that the narrator is looking at himself with a mirror, and referring to "us" and him and his reflection.

    The line "Steady hands, just take the wheel" is another great line. The decision to leave is a hard one and he has thoughts of abandoning his plan. But, he knows that it's the right decision to move on and he is trusting that his hands will steer him in the right direction.

    A very reflective song, and one that anybody who has ever been at a major crossroads in their life can relate to.
    itsmelenon December 09, 2007   Link
  • +2
    General CommentHe is tired of society and wants everyone to just accept who he is.
    lpslipknoton August 14, 2011   Link
  • +2
    General CommentI'm a cross country runner, and this song goes along perfectly.

    I hear this, and I think, wow. "It's time to make our move, I'm shaking off the rust" means to me that it's time to move, time to meet your limits. "I've got my heart set on anywhere but here"... I see this and I think about how no matter how much time I cut off, my heart is set on getting a time anywhere but where I am. And that's wrong. What your heart should be set on is achievable goals until you get to the top. "I'm staring down myself, counting up the years"... I think of how I'm always thinking of the years I've been running, never being quite at the top where I want to be.

    "Time to make one last appeal for the life I lead", it's time to work, to show what I'm capable of doing, being what I can be.

    "Stop and stare, I think I'm moving but I go nowhere", and I think of how each season I think I'm getting better and moving but really I go nowhere, because I've lost it all by the next season. But that doesn't have to happen, with hard work each season can be more dropped from times, until they're all you ever wanted them to be.
    "But I've become what I can't be, oh". Recently I've been less competitive, letting people pass me and get better while I stay pretty much the same. This is what I can't be. I must compete in order to do the best I can.

    "Stop and stare, You start to wonder why you're here not there". Why do I hang in the middle instead of the top of the running, why can't I be as fast as the top people?
    "And you'd give anything to get what's fair", I often think I'd do anything to get what's fair, to have the natural talent I catch myself thinking it takes to be the best.
    "But fair ain't what you really need". You don't have to be the best on your team. The only person's time you should watch is your own. It doesn't have to be "fair", that's not what you need. The best runners accomplish what they do through their own hard work, not always just natural talent. You can be the best in your own mind.

    "Steady feet, don't fail me now": I think, I've pushed through everything I have. The steady feet I have kept, don't fail me now, push me farther so I can achieve the goals I've been working towards.
    "I'm gonna run till you can't walk", I'm going to work hard, so I become what nobody expected me to become.

    This was kind of a situation that maybe most people wouldn't think about when they hear "Stop and Stare", but this is what came to my mind. Hope it helps anybody looking for something inspirational.
    dllfce101on September 20, 2012   Link
  • +2
    My InterpretationFor me, this song is a suicide note.

    -This town is colder now, I think it's sick of us
    It's time to make our move, I'm shakin' off the rust

    *Everybody around me is sick of my depression and whining. They started off as very supportive, but grew colder as time wore on. It's time for me to make a change.

    -I've got my heart set on anywhere but here

    *I'm not necessarily wanting to die, but I want the pain to end. I want to be anywhere but where I am now. Even if that means death.

    -Steady hands just take the wheel
    Every glance is killing me
    Time to make one last appeal
    For the life I live

    *Everyone is noticing my decline but it's gotten to the point where nothing can help, and them reaching out only hurts more because the more they care, the more hurt they will be when I'm gone. But I have to do one thing right, and I know they'll be better off in the long run if I sacrifice myself.

    -Stop and stare
    I think I'm moving but I go nowhere
    Yeah, I know that everyone gets scared
    But I've become what I can't be, oh

    *I think I get better, I think I'm finally getting through, but then I realize I'm exactly where I started. Everyone has their rough days, but this pain has turned me into a monster. The person I promised I would never be. (drugs, alcohol, cutting, emotionally abusing those around me).

    -Stop and stare
    You start to wonder why you're here not there
    And you'd give anything to get what's fair
    But fair ain't what you really need
    Oh, can you see what I see'

    *I'm wondering why I'm not dead yet. As for the "fair" part, there's two sides: on one hand, it's not fair that I'm alive while innocent, beautiful, loved people are dead. I should die, not them. That is what is fair for them and their families. But on the other hand, what's fair for me is for things to get better. Either way I feel like I won't win because death isn't a solution, but an end; and getting better seems so impossible that I don't see it as a solution to my problem. Do you see my problem?


    -They're tryin' to come back, all my senses push
    Untie the weight bags, I never thought I could
    Steady feet, don't fail me now
    I'm gonna run till you can't walk
    *They realize I'm slipping and try to save me, but I'm pushing them away. I'm untying them from my life because they are the only burdens tying me to earth. If it weren't for them I wouldn't feel guilty about dying. I'm gonna keep pushing you away until you are too weak to keep trying.

    When I was going through my depression, rather than writing a note, I made a video of myself playing and singing this song on the guitar. I've since deleted the video and finally seen the light. If you look at this song the way I did, remember that things DO get better. The light does come eventually. Stay strong. :)
    Black96Sheepon August 08, 2013   Link
  • +1
    General CommentTrying to make a new life for himself despite being scared of what he might find
    last-dodoon December 18, 2006   Link
  • +1
    General CommentFor those who find comfort in lyric, this song is deffinitely a good one. It can be interpreted to suit many situations. Regardless if it's about a particular instance or not, the general meaning is about making a hard decision... Or perhaps an idea or plan that could pan out either good or bad, but being willing to take the chance that it will turn out for the better. Whether you're getting ready to ask someone out, or run away, very comforting song.
    barrysaxplayeron June 22, 2010   Link
  • +1
    My InterpretationThis town is colder now, I think it's sick of us
    It's time to make our move, I'm shakin' off the rust
    I've got my heart set on anywhere but here
    I'm staring down myself, counting up the years

    so the first verse is maybe he had a death of a friend or family member and he is coming to terms with how they spent there whole life in an ordinary way, so he looks over himself and sees how he hasnt done anything either, he wants to go places. otherwise he is thinking how he wanted to maybe move away from everyone but now he realizes he doesnt want to leave them.

    Steady hands just take the wheel
    Every glance is killing me
    Time to make one last appeal
    For the life I lead

    he talks to his hands, like he talks to his feet later, hes at the wake of the friend/ family member and thinks about taking "wheel" of his life. becoming the person he wants, a person who makes something of themselves. as he sits there at the stool of the casket "every glance kills him" and he needs to speak out and say something about them, because its the start of his new self.

    Stop and stare
    I think I'm moving but I go nowhere
    Yeah, I know that everyone gets scared
    But I've become what I can't be, oh
    Stop and stare
    You start to wonder why you're here not there
    And you'd give anything to get what's fair
    But fair ain't what you really need
    Oh, you don't need

    he felt like he was living life fine. he was enjoying himself and thought he was "moving" when really he was going "nowhere". people get scared of doing something with themselves. maybe they will be too afraid to go on stage and do something. or too afraid to go to paris and become a world known chef. and he became a person that he cant live with being. a normal citizen.

    hes wondering why he didnt do things within his life that would have changed the outcome, and why he's here doing nothing and not there making something out of himself. he wants it so bad that its not fair that he cant change it, that he didnt think of it sooner. but all he really needs is a motivation.


    this is what i think... at first i thought it was a love song.. like you know. "stop and stare" because they caught your eye. but here is what i thought, thank you :p
    toxxic171on July 22, 2012   Link

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