"Chivalry" as written by and Thao Nguyen....
I could tell in the way
He did not kiss back
What's the use in painting faces
You're never gonna find a shade to match

Well yours is a common name
And I hear it all the time
Could belong to anyone
It could never be mine

I am tired
I am through
When I love I will love so hard
Harder than I could love with you

There's nothing in your eyes
But slightly amused
An offer of me you politely refused
Is it that my heart beat too loud
Is it that I did not bid it come down
Your round about etiquette
You hold the door but you won't let me in

I am tired
I am through
When I love I will love so hard
Harder than I could love with you
Harder than I could love with you

I won't make you flex emotion
I won't make you come a little closer
Do what you want
Don't do it for me
What's the use in chivalry

I am tired
I am through
When I love I will love so hard
Harder than I could love with you
Harder than I could love with you

I could tell in the way
He did not kiss back...

I could tell in the way


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    General Commenti love this song.

    she's loved him more than he loved her, and she could tell when she kissed him and when she spoke to him. he's amused, and he politely refused her love, and he's egging her on but he closes in on her when she takes a chance. she's tired of it and she's through with him, when the next one comes along she will love harder than she ever could have with him.

    beautiful and simple lyrics that say everything!
    backyon December 22, 2006   Link
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    General Commenti love this song.

    she's loved him more than he loved her, and she could tell when she kissed him and when she spoke to him. he's amused, and he politely refused her love, and he's egging her on but he closes in on her when she takes a chance. she's tired of it and she's through with him, when the next one comes along she will love harder than she ever could have with him.

    beautiful and simple lyrics that say everything!
    backyon December 22, 2006   Link
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    General Commenti completely agree.
    i saw her perform this last year right after a breakup and it became an anthem for me.. it's about regret but it's so full of hope. i love it

    thao is amazing!
    thepalacewallon January 10, 2007   Link
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    General CommentThis song is perfect.

    It came on my ipod and probably like the rest of you I had just gone through a break-up exactly like this. The song is so simple but gets at so much.

    There's nothing in your eyes but slightly amused = genius
    annyonghermanoon February 14, 2009   Link
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    General CommentYours is a common name
    and I hear it all the time
    Could belong to anyone
    it could never be mine...


    I love those lines, mainly because my ex's name is very common and it's so hard to get over and away from someone when you hear their name everywhere.


    Also, the lines "Is it that my heart beat too loud? Is it I did not bid it come down?" really hit me hard because I was recently in a relationship where I felt my heart was completely into it and the person knew how much I loved them, and when I thought they were on the same page they were actually so far off.

    Like all of you, this song has so much meaning to me because of my recent break-up, and it hits home, but as for the meaning I think the name explains it all...

    "Do what you want don't do it for me, what's the use in Chivalry?"--she's not actually condemning chivalry, just the act of doing something because you feel you "should" as opposed to actually WANTING to do it for the other person. Sort of like being in a relationship with someone and telling them you love them because you feel that's how you should be acting, when really you don't feel that way. Chivalry just perpetuates the confusion between men and women, and makes it easier for men to pretend. How many guys out there really are chivalrous because they want to be vs. how many do it because they think they have to? That's the difference between someone whose heart is really into it vs. someone who doesn't really know how to, or can't love as deeply.
    alovelyfadeouton April 10, 2009   Link
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    General CommentI could tell in the way
    He did not kiss back
    < I think this is about the end of a relationship, when she knows it's going to end because of the way he kisses her - without feeling or emotion. >
    What's the use in painting faces?
    You're never gonna find a shade to match
    < This is just commenting on the way people try to paint their faces or act certain ways to attract a person, when this is useless because it's not going to lead you to your true love. You're never gonna find a shade to match the real you. I think in this song, she feels like the person she was seeing was merely "painting his face" to attract her or please her, but it wasn't real and is now causing the end of their relationship.>

    Well, yours is a common name
    And I hear it all the time

    Could belong to anyone
    It could never be mine


    I am tired
    I'm through
    When I love I will love so hard
    Harder than I could love with you
    < She couldn't love as hard as she is able to with him because he was not real to her. She knows that when she finds the love of her life, she still has a lot of love to give. These lines show her hope for the future and the fact that he hasn't ruined her.)

    There's nothing in your eyes
    But slightly amused
    < When she looks in his eyes, she can't see love or longing. He's simply amused by her, she could be anyone.>
    An offer of me you politely refused
    < She tried to be real with him and give herself to him, but he wouldn't respond.>
    Is it that my heart beat too loud
    < She's questioning why they weren't able to be that way together, wondering whether she scared him off by loving him too openly.)
    Is it that i did not bid it come down
    < She is still questioning wondering whether she should have had more self control when it came to loving him with everything she had; she's wondering if she should have held back, despite wanting to let it show.>
    Your round-about etiquette
    < His etiquette seems to be an effort to hide how he really feels.>
    You hold the door but you won't let me in
    < He goes through the boyfriend motions, he holds the door, he does sweet things for her, but his heart isn't in it. He can't be real to her, he can't let her in, he can only do the things society has taught him are good to do.>

    I am tired
    I'm through
    When I love I will love so hard
    Harder than I could love with you
    Harder than I could love with you

    I won't make you flex emotion
    < She never wanted him to fake feelings for her.>
    I won't make you come a little closer
    < She's not going to force him to be more open with her.>
    Do what you want
    Don't do it for me
    < She wants any relationship she has to be naturally occurring, not staged and forced.>
    What's the use in chivalry
    < What's the use in acting in a way just for the hell of it, as opposed to doing it because you genuinely want to or genuinely love the person that much.>

    I am tired
    I am through
    When I love I will love so hard
    Harder than I could love with you
    Harder than I could love with you

    Well, I could tell in the way
    He did not kiss back
    What's the use in painting faces?
    You're never gonna find a shade to match
    Well, I could tell in the way
    He did not kiss back
    Well, I could tell in the way, yeah, yeah
    He did not kiss back
    kellifaceon January 19, 2010   Link
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    General CommentI kind of feel like it might be about a relationship that never was, more-so than a relationship that ended. She put her heart out there for someone, they were in that beginning phase, and he never really felt the same way. He spends time with her, they hook up, she wants more, there isn't more. And this is her realizing that he's not going to love her, that she is wasting her emotions on him, and that when she loves...
    lizwhizon February 25, 2010   Link

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