"Not My Slave" as written by and Danny Elfman....
With sadness in my heart and joy in my mind
I thought about the ghost that we left behind.
With everyone around telling us what to do
With deafening sound whisper "I love you."
The fire in your eyes-- may it never go out.
The sweetness of your tears make it feel like night.
I see no escape from the roles we always play
What do we have to prove on this judgement day

You're missing the whole point-- you're not my little pet
Don't throw away your life-- The games not over yet
I do not own your soul--don't want you in a cage
I only want your heart to find a special place

You're mine now But you're not my sister
You're mine now But you're not my slave
You're mine But you're not my child
You're mine now But you're not my slave
You're mine now But you're not my slave

With sadness in my heart and clounds in my head
I thought about us both and the lives we led.
The pages on a book and pictures on a screen
We shape ourselves like clay from someone else's dream.
One second you are cast just like stones at my feet
But I am not a king please don't worship me.
With everyone around telling us what to do
With deafening sound whisper "I love you."

You're missing the whole point-- you're not my little pet
Don't throw away your life-- The games not over yet
I do not own your soul--don't want you in a cage
I only want your heart to find a special place

You're mine now But you're not my sister
You're mine now But you're not my slave
You're mine But you're not my child
You're mine now But you're not my slave
You're mine But you're not my sister
You're mine now But you're not my slave
You're mine But you're not my child
You're mine now But you're not my slave
You're mine now But you're not my slave
You're mine now But you're not my slave
You're mine now But you're not my slave





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"Not My Slave" as written by Danny Elfman

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    General Commenti think its about two people in love.

    he's saying you belong to me as a life partner but you'r not my slave. i wont ask you to worship me, i wont keep you in a cage. you are your own person and i belong to you too, as a life partner. we belong to each other but give each other the air and freedom humans need to be happy.

    he's basically saying "i dont follow those rediculous sexist beliefs that you have to succumb to me and crap". he's saying you're a human being and i love you and want you to be free.
    Geekellaon March 23, 2009   Link
  • +1
    General CommentAbout traditional roles and marriage?
    mister_zeroon September 29, 2006   Link
  • +1
    General CommentI think it's about marriage but something deeper as well but I can't quite put my finger on it, but for me the lyric "With deafening sound whisper I love you" is so powerful...
    loungenon October 27, 2007   Link
  • 0
    General CommentBut of course, it makes just as much sense if its about traditional roles and marraige.
    MrsO426on January 25, 2007   Link
  • 0
    General CommentWell maybe I am just reading too much into the song , but could it be about Jesus and Mary?.
    ' One second you are cast just like stones at my feet
    but I am not a king please don't worship me."
    Crazynutjobon March 26, 2007   Link
  • 0
    General CommentActually, after listening to this song about 20 times in the course of 2 days, it doesn't really sound like a dom talking to a subby. It sounds like someone is talking to a victim of rape and possibley domestic abuse. I've talked with rape victims and relationships are especially difficult for them, particularly physical relationships. It could also be someone who isn't into the BDSM scene talking to an experienced subby, telling her he just wants her love and does not want her as a sex slave.
    MrsO426on April 16, 2007   Link
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    General CommentThis song has a deep meaning for me. I'm not saying it is what elfman intended, but maybe. To me it is the love song that God or the universe is singing to all people. In that context it is super-empowering.
    quorpencettaon June 04, 2008   Link
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    General CommentAt first blush, this seems like a (kinda) typical love song promoting a healthy separation of individuals in a relationship. However, after listening to this many, many times I think Danny Elfman is singing about his fans. "You're missing the whole point, you're not my little pet" and "I am not a king, please don't worship me" sound like someone who is throwing out a plea to not place him on a pedestal. Other lines like "the fire in your eyes, may it never go out" indicate that he wants adoration from his fans, but don't go overboard slavishly worshipping him. Personally I find that hard to do, because I think the man is a genius. :) This is my current favorite Oingo Boingo song.
    greedyskunkon June 19, 2008   Link
  • 0
    Song MeaningIt's a love song. I'm not sure how some of you are getting break-up stories or BDSM out of it.

    Where does the story that leads to him explaining that the woman he loves isn't his slave? It comes from the fact that people still have to ask questions about the implications of him saying that.

    The song is about being in love with someone as an equal, in complete defiance of the socially and culturally inherited traditional ideas and roles that skew that concept. He's taking not just a sympathetic stance on this principle, but a personal, passionate one. He has deep grievances with the tensions that go along with gender roles in love; he doesn't want to be viewed that way, he doesn't want to treat her that way, and he doesn't want her to view herself that way or treat him that way. It doesn't matter what other people expect, think, do, or say. They're breaking the mold as individuals. Their relationship isn't going to be a cog in the big machine of the inherited, thoroughly disturbed culture.

    Put simply: "Fuck everyone else--we'll do this our way."
    bwenneron May 24, 2012   Link
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    General CommentRather than being merely about marriage and traditional values, I view this as being more subtle -- There's certainly a degree of societal values and expectations included here; however, I view this as more generally discussing the idea that people in a relationship should not be defined entirely through their new "couple" dynamic, but remain entities in their own right. The fire in her eyes that he never wants to go out is individualism -- after all, you fall in love with an individual, not "your other half". I think it's fairly strongly implied that in informing his partner of his views on how things should be he is implicitly stating that this should cut both ways -- the narratives society wants to create for us are subordinate who what we write on the own pages of our personal books.
    mike105163on March 14, 2014   Link

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