Will you wear white, Will you wear white
On your wedding Day, Will you wear white
Will you tell them what you did to me, Will you tell them everything

Will you wear white, Will you wear white
On your wedding day, Will you wear white
The guilt shows through everything

I won't cry at your wedding
I don't cry at weddings

Don't think you can start again
You've got my insides all over your hands
Don't think you can ever hide
You stain everything you touch with your hands
Don't think I will let you forget
Because I will never be able to forget
I know who you are
You think you can pretend with me, I still remember everything

I won't cry at your wedding
I don't cry at weddings

Tomorrow, tomorrow, I'll get you tomorrow, You're only a day away
Tomorrow, tomorrow, I wait for tomorrow to wash all this dirt away

I now pronounce you, I now pronounce you, I now pronounce you dead

Die, Die, Die, Die, Die, Die, Die (at your wedding)
I won't cry (for you)
You can't do this to me (again)
The guilt will show through


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    General CommentI originally thought this song was about a guy who rapes a girl and doesn't get in any trouble, and her anger that he goes on to live a normal life while she is still damaged by what happened. But yesterday I was listening to it and I was like "hey wait, guys don't wear white at weddings, girls do." So I was thinking maybe it's about how two girls were in a relationship, and one broke up with the other and decided to pretend/try to be straight. The speaker is upset not just that her girlfriend broke up with her, but that her girlfriend now acts as if their relationship didn't matter or didn't even happen.

    "Will you wear white, Will you wear white"
    White is worn by brides because it represents virginity. The girl in the song might consider herself to be a virgin because lesbian sex doesn't count or because she has renounced homosexuality and is starting her life anew. To the speaker, the girl wearing white is adding insult to injury, acting like she never loved anyone before her husband.

    "I won't cry at your wedding
    I don't cry at weddings"
    The speaker tries not to care about any of it, since the girl has managed to completely stop caring about her.

    "Don't think you can start again
    ...Don't think you can ever hide"
    The girl wants to "start again"--live the easier, more accepted life of being straight--and "hide" her homosexual past.

    "You've got my insides all over your hands"
    The speaker uses such a violent metaphor to demonstrate how their relationship was real to her and she is still upset about it, even though the girl now sees it as nothing.

    "The guilt shows through everything
    ...You stain everything you touch with your hands"
    This is just what the speaker wishes; it's not really true. The girl IS going to be able to hide her real self and start a new life, and that infuriates the speaker.

    "Don't think I will let you forgot
    Because I will never be able to forget"
    Even though the girl did, the speaker can't or won't renounce her homosexuality. She still has to deal with it, and can't just push it away like the girl has done.

    "I know who you are
    You think you can pretend with me"
    The girl is trying to pretend that the two of them are just female friends and always have been, but the speaker won't let her.

    "I wait for tomorrow to wash all this dirt away"
    The girl thinks that getting married and generally being straight will get rid of all her problems (which she thinks are caused by the "dirt" of being sinful, being gay).

    "I'll get you tomorrow, You're only a day away
    I now pronounce you, I now pronounce you, I now pronounce you dead
    Die, Die, Die, Die, Die, Die, Die (at your wedding)"
    The speaker has fantasies of violence because she's so upset about being erased from the girl's life and treated as if nothing happened.

    "You can't do this to me (again)"
    Referencing how the girl has done two things to the speaker: not just abandoning her, but pretending their relationship didn't happen.
    mockingsmileon March 03, 2007   Link
  • +1
    General Commentor could be a little of both i think. possibly it is about rape but from a girl. doesnt have to be a guy its talking about
    rhiannon0339on April 18, 2007   Link
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    General Commentor could be a little of both i think. possibly it is about rape but from a girl. doesnt have to be a guy its talking about
    rhiannon0339on April 18, 2007   Link
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    General CommentThis song is so powerful and chilling, especially the screams of "I won't cry" throughout the song. I totally agree with mockingsmile's interpretation too.
    denaligrlon June 06, 2011   Link

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