"Lover I Don't Have To Love" as written by and Oberst....
I picked you out
Of a crowd and talked to you
Said I liked your shoes
You said "Thanks can I follow you?"
Now it's up the stairs
And out of view, no prying eyes
I poured some wine
When I asked your name,
You asked the time

Now it's 2 o'clock
The club is closed
We're up the block
Your hands on me,
Pressing hard against your jeans
Your tongue in my mouth
Tryin to keep the words from comin out
You didn't care to know
Who else may have been here before

I want a lover I don't have to love
I want a boy who's so drunk he doesn't talk
Where's the kid with the chemicals?
I thought I'd meet him here
But I'm not sure
I got the money if you got the time
You said it feels good
I said, "I'll give it a try"

Then my mind went dark
We both forgot where your car was parked
So let's take the train
I'll meet up with the band in the morning
Bad actors, with bad habits
Some sad singers
They just play tragic
And the phone's ringin'
And the band's leavin'
Let's just keep touching
Let's just, keep on singing

I want a lover I don't have to love
I want a boy who's so drunk he doesn't talk
Yea, where's the kid with the chemicals?
I got a hunger and I can't seem to get full
I need a meaning I can memorize
The kind I have always seems to slip my mind
But you

You write such pretty words
But life's no story book
Love's an excuse to get hurt
And to hurt
Do you like to hurt?
I do, I do
Then hurt me
Then hurt me

Didn't hurt me
It didn't hurt me
It didn't hurt me
It didn't hurt me
It didn't hurt me


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"Lover I Don't Have to Love" as written by Conor Oberst

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    General CommentI'm surprised no one has commented on this song!! Well anyway, I have always loved Bright Eyes' version of it, but then I heard the song on the OC and noticed it was sung by a woman...and I have to say that I really like this version. Anyway, I think the song meaning is pretty self-explanatory, it's about having sex or hooking up with someone without even the pretense of having feelings for each other. The different ending in this song (it didn't hurt me) vs. the bright eyes' ending (then hurt me) I think is really cool because the girl is saying that she just wanted a hookup too (whereas usually it's the boy who hurts the girl by only using her)!! Anyway GOOD SONG
    nicchikkon April 04, 2006   Link
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    General Commentyeh i heard this song on the OC and i thought it sounded great int he episode how it weaved throught it appearing three times in the ep splitting the song up. I firstly downloaded the bright eyes verison wen i found out wot the song was but then realised it was a males voice wen a female sung it on the OC and then i downloaded this version which i think is better in some aspects but i enjoy both and of course bright eyes write the orignial lyrcis so i do prefer the original
    purplekimmion May 01, 2006   Link
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    General CommentI heard this song on the OC too and I loved it. I loved the original and I love it sung by a female as well 'cause it just seems that the 'one night stand' seems to be coined by males yet this version of the song has a very femme fatale feel.
    wolf cubon June 02, 2006   Link
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    General CommentI heard this song on the OC also, I knew the tune from Bright Eyes, that I loved, and then heard it was a female voice, I like it. It suiuted the scene that it was played.
    chusxruthon June 18, 2006   Link
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    General CommentI think it's ok as a song, but nothing can top the original.

    Something I find rather amusing is that in the original chorus it goes "i want a girl who's too sad to give a fuck" and the second part is "i want a boy who's so drunk he doesn't talk." In this version, it's only "i want a boy...".
    louderthanyouon November 11, 2006   Link
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    General CommentI do like both versions, but there is just something about this one that makes me prefer it - I can't put my finger on it. Maybe it's beacuse the female voice makes it sound more powerful beacuse it isn't cliched, whereas for a guy to want to hook up for just sex is kinda stereotypical - anyway, amazing song, really fitted well within the OC episode that it was featured in.
    butterflykiss84on December 15, 2006   Link
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    General CommentGenerally I like this one more; I think there's more emotion behind the lyrics. It's something to do with the pauses I think. I don't really like Bright Eyes as I think their lyrics are great but the meaning and emotion seems to get lost a little when it's sung.

    One thing I really don't like though is the change from "You didn't care to know/ Who else may have been you before" to "You didn't care to know/ Who else may have been HERE before". I know it's a really minor change but I feel like it makes a lot of difference. It turns the line into a cliche whereas before it really emphasised the idea of meaningless sex with the image of repetition and all these girls blending into one.
    magical_miaon March 19, 2007   Link
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    General CommentI like both versions too. I agree with nicchikk about the "it didn't hurt me" part. Definitely makes the point that girls sometimes just want a no strings attached kind of encounter.
    strangersatelliteon April 06, 2007   Link
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    General Commentthis song is amazing, period.
    i heard it on the OC for the first time, and that one scene that it played in was orgasmic, zomg
    that guy is hawtttt!
    saraXkillson February 15, 2008   Link
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    General CommentI personally like it much more when its sung by Conor. I liked the Bright Eyes version much more, then again, I'm a hardcore Bright Eyes fan. And she doesn't sing the exact lryics and tune, witch annoyed me at first, it grew on me a bit. I like this version too, I like the female voice, it gives a different yet still kinda satisfying feel to it. But I'm still with loving Bright Eyes!
    DreamGeniuson June 27, 2008   Link

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