last night I told a stranger all about you
they smiled patienty with disbelief
I always knew you would succeed
no matter what you tried
and I know you did it all
in spite of me

still I'm proud to have known you
for the short time that I did
proud to have been a step up on your way
proud to be a part of your illustrious career
and I know you did it all
in spite of me
in spite of me

late last night
I saw you in my living room
you seemed so close but yet so cool
for a long time I thought that you'd be coming back to me
those kind of thoughts can be so cruel
so cruel

and I know you did it all
in spite of me
in spite of me


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    Song MeaningAnyone else think that he's referring to someone who became a TV or movie star?

    "Late last night, I saw you in my living room" - where TV's normally are
    "You seemed so close but yet so cold" - On the TV but not actually there?

    Just something I'd thought about.
    JAStewarton August 06, 2011   Link
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    General Commentyeah i think "in spite of me" is cynical, as if he's always been nothing but an obstacle to her.
    rubioon December 17, 2007   Link
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    General Comment"In spite of me" is ambiguous. It could mean "despite me" or "to spite me". Likewise, he could be genuine in saying that he is lucky to have known and helped this person, with greater talents than his, on their way to better things; or he could be sarcastic, like, yknow, "I'm SO proud to you used me as a step up in your ILLUSTRIOUS career".

    F knows which meaning was intended. But I'd like to think he was subtle enough to intend both.
    qh9h6j97won October 18, 2010   Link
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    General CommentIs this song meant to be cynical? What I mean is, do you think the narrator is bitter when he say "in spite of me"? Obviously, thats what it seems like, but the music is so wistful and melancholy... when I first heard it I didn't pick up on the bitterness because the song is so beautiful. In any case, I guess its about an ex that he wants back, but hes bitter because shes moved on and he can't yet.
    OtisDriftwoodon July 03, 2007   Link
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    General CommentIs this song meant to be cynical? What I mean is, do you think the narrator is bitter when he say "in spite of me"? Obviously, thats what it seems like, but the music is so wistful and melancholy... when I first heard it I didn't pick up on the bitterness because the song is so beautiful. In any case, I guess its about an ex that he wants back, but hes bitter because shes moved on and he can't yet.
    OtisDriftwoodon July 03, 2007   Link
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    General CommentNot so much an obstacle but more like she's done well and he did help her on her way but she doesn't think he did and he's like "yeah, you DID it all in spite of ME" but the rest of the explanation i go with.
    morphinejunkieon January 22, 2009   Link
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    My OpinionIf he's being cynical then why is the hope of this person returning a cruel thought? No, it isn't spite as in hatred, its "You became a success despite being involved with a deadbeat like me." From the first verse it sounds like a son or daughter, and he's drunk at a bar telling a stranger how proud he is.
    shoeshineron August 12, 2010   Link
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    General CommentI think that he left that girl, and she handled it badly. And she used all the pain, and anger to make it. So in a way, he thinks that those bad feelings, helped her achieve her life goals.

    He probably thought she would take him back if he wanted it, but realized at some point that she has moved on.
    CandySon January 13, 2014   Link
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    General CommentI think they loved each other and he was supportive but she left him because she wasn’t strong enough to juggle her focused successful-career-oriented discipline with his drugs-depression-insomnia-fueled lifestyle, felt herself allowing herself to slip into his shadow (as all that childhood programming demands), and wasn’t willing to let her career become roadkill..

    I think he’s moved on too… but sometimes, late at night, still thinks about how it could have been, and feels the layers of anger, guilt, resentment… it feels like shes doing it deliberately to hurt him (and its easier to forget, that way), but perhaps he ultimately knows shes not, and his final thought is to mock his own cynicism.
    j107672538on May 26, 2017   Link

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