"Better" as written by and Regina Spektor....
If I kiss you where it's sore
If I kiss you where it's sore
Will you feel better, better, better?
Will you feel anything at all?
Will you feel better, better, better?
Will you feel anything at all?

Born like sisters to this world
In a town where blood ties are only blood
If you never say your name out loud to anyone
They can never ever call you by it

If I kiss you where it's sore
If I kiss you where it's sore
Will you feel better, better, better?
Will you feel anything at all?
Will you feel better, better, better?
Will you feel anything at all?

You're getting sadder, getting sadder, getting sadder, getting sadder
And I don't understand, and I don't understand
But if I kiss you where it's sore
If I kiss you where it's sore
Will you feel better, better, better?
Will you feel anything at all?
Will you feel better, better, better?
Will you feel anything at all
Will you feel anything at all
Anything at all?
Will you feel anything at all
Anything at all?
Will you feel anything at all
Anything at all?
Will you feel anything at all
Anything at all?
Will you feel anything at all


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"Better" as written by Regina Spektor

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  • +4
    General Comment
    I love how Regina's tunes rarely match the lyrics. By matching different vibes, it's like she's trying to say that life is just a big mushpot of emotions. You can find joy in every sad thing you feel, or you can discover heartbreak in many happy things, but no matter what, it's always okay to feel what you feel
    Love this song, it's brilliant!
    BrokenCarouselon June 19, 2009   Link
  • +4
    General CommentTo me, this song is about someone close to you going through a terrible time, but there's nothing you can do to help. My brother is gay, and I know there's people that treat him badly because of it. I wish I could help him, because I know he endures so much pain, but theres nothing I can do. Also, and this one fits the lyrics better, one of my best friends has a sister with anorexia that won't get treatment. My friend wants so badly to be able to do something, and I know this song describes exactly how she feels.
    This probably isn't what Regina wrote the song about, but what it means to me. I cry every time I hear it. Regina is amazing.
    Jjones12on January 27, 2011   Link
  • +2
    General CommentThat's an interesting idea about the adoptive relatives...

    I always (making it sound like I didn't only hear this late last year) thought that "Born like sisters to this world" was an indication of similar wavelengths and "And if you never say your name out loud to anyone,
    They never ever call you by it" is avoiding connection, or ever being close to anyone.

    To me this song (now called "better" on the new album Begin to Hope btw) is about trying to get close to someone and not knowing if it'll ever make a bit of difference to the other person (and clearly going to anyway).
    Having been close to (grown up with/raised by) *severely* depressed people and trying to help them through though it made absolutely no difference, I appreciate it this way. And sisters of this world kinda hinting at the effect it has on the kisser (maybe why they are doing it?).

    That Regina sings it in a way that she's still trying to help is really heartbreaking.

    It's hard to analyze a song when it gets you emotionally. :)
    Fuchsiaon March 05, 2006   Link
  • +2
    My Interpretationthis song is about her. its regina talking to her someone (friend, relative...etc) about her self doubts and not exactly knowing whats wrong or how to fix it, or if she even can. the blood ties being only blood is just a trust issue, the never saying your name out loud is being worried about failing and people know it was you (her) and being able to talk about it. and the last verse is obvious, shes getting sadder and doesnt know why... its clearly a song written about herself and her doubts and fears, its just written in a way so it seems like shes talking to someone else when in reality shes telling herself how she feels.
    georgeparron March 24, 2010   Link
  • +2
    General CommentWhat a fantastic song.

    I think it is about depression. She sounds like she's singing about someone she really cares about who is depressed and she can't tell whether her efforts to show love are having any effect on him/her. It's easy to miss the emotion in her voice when she sings 'better', because the song is superficially a happy one.
    duncanmosteston August 24, 2010   Link
  • +2
    General CommentIs it bad if the video to this song made me think of the show Friends? I guess it's the umbrellas and the big hair lol

    That aside, amazing song. I think it's about trying to revive someone who is emotionally detached or at least wants to be detached because of the pain they are in (thus the line "If you never say your name out loud to anyone
    They can never ever call you by it")

    Also "In a town where blood ties are only blood" is an understatement, basically implying relationships aren't what they used to be.
    Cantabileon June 24, 2012   Link
  • +1
    General CommentFor some reason I'm kinda getting a Coldplay vibe to this song...
    King of Some Islandon June 19, 2006   Link
  • +1
    General CommentIt seems like it's a testament to how if you live life just correcting the mistakes, instead of making a positive contribution, you risk nothing happening at all. In a pile of everything, if you don't stand out, you'll be picked over.
    bryceon September 22, 2006   Link
  • +1
    General Commentit fells to me like she's talking about a best friend, someone she was friends with since she was born, that from
    "Born like sisters to this world,
    In a town where blood ties are only blood," which says, blood ties means nothing, what matters is that they're sisters.
    Something happens to that friend of hers and that girl gets very depressed and apathic. that from "if I kiss you were it's sore will you fell better, will you fell anything at all?" like any small child, she was led to belive that kissing were it's sore made it feel better and she wants her friend to get better...
    Now, the reason why her friend is depressed to me sounds like child abuse. I feel like the "In a town where blood ties are only blood" has a double meaning there. Regina is saying how wrong it is for her friend's father to do that to her.
    "And if you never say your name out loud to anyone,
    They never ever call you by it." Would be on the same idea. A kind of "you don't have feel related to him" "it doesn't matter that you have the same name, just don't tell anyone your name is that"

    it feels like it's a bit too farfetch but another reading I have is the same idea but without the abuse part.. then the
    "And if you never say your name out loud to anyone,
    They never ever call you by it." would be "you'll stay alone if you don't talk to people" how will people call you by your name if you don' t tell them? In my experience with depression I always felt like I was alone and miserable and no one wanted to talk to me but it was I who was excluding myself. On the same page, if I never talked to anyone how would they get to know me?
    bernardofbbragaon May 08, 2007   Link
  • +1
    General CommentTo me, it's an almost love song. It's like when someone you love is hurt, and you love them so much you'd do anything to make it better 'cause it hurts you to see them sad.
    missmeon February 11, 2009   Link

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