This is no great illusion
When I'm with you, I'm looking for a ghost
Or invisible reasons
To fall out of love and run screaming from our home
Because we live in a house of mirrors
We see our fears in everything
Our songs, faces, and secondhand clothes
But more and more we're suffering
Not nobody, not a thousand beers
Can keep us from feeling so all alone

But you are what you love
And not what loves you back
That's why I'm here on your doorstep
Pleading for you to take me back

The phone is a fine invention
It allows me to talk endlessly to you
About nothing disguising my intentions
Which I'm afraid, my friend, are wildly untrue
It's a sleight of hand, a white soul band
The heart attacks I'm convinced I have
Every morning upon waking
To you I'm a symbol or a monument
Your rite of passage to fufillment
But I'm not yours for the taking

But you are what you love
And not what loves you back
I guess that's why you keep
Calling me back

I'm fraudulent, a thief at best
A coward who paints a bullshit canvas
Things that will never happen to me
But at arm's length, it's Tim who said
I'm good at it, I've mastered it
Avoiding, avoiding everything

But you are what you love, Tim
And not what loves you back
And I'm in love with illusions
So saw me in half
I'm in love with tricks
So pull another rabbit out of your hat


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  • +3
    General Commenti interpreted the "you are what you love and not what loves you back" kinda similarly to the idea that you have to define yourself based on your own standards, not as others see you/through someone else's eyes or by their standards. you are what YOU love, you are defined by your actions, your loves, your emotions and not those reciprocated by others (what loves you back).
    mrs-mojo-risinon October 13, 2008   Link
  • +1
    General Comment"And I'm in love with illusions
    So saw me in half" One of my favorite song lyrics.

    I love Jenny Lewis. She's incredible.
    mirandomon December 12, 2005   Link
  • +1
    My InterpretationYou can't help who you fall for, like, love, feel an instant connection with, it just IS. But sometimes they aren't the best people for you. People have their own problems, separate from your own problems. But it also say a lot about you depending on who you are WITH and what you are willing o put up with. Also just because that person is fucked up doesn't mean you are as fucked up as them. I guess we accept the love we deserve. BUT we should be with people who think we awesome for who we are instead of just settling
    QueenBiddyon September 15, 2014   Link
  • +1
    My InterpretationYou can't help who you fall for, like, love, feel an instant connection with, it just IS. But sometimes they aren't the best people for you. People have their own problems, separate from your own problems. But it also say a lot about you depending on who you are WITH and what you are willing o put up with. Also just because that person is fucked up doesn't mean you are as fucked up as them. I guess we accept the love we deserve. BUT we should be with people who think we awesome for who we are instead of just settling
    QueenBiddyon September 15, 2014   Link
  • +1
    My InterpretationYou can't help who you fall for, like, love, feel an instant connection with, it just IS. But sometimes they aren't the best people for you. People have their own problems, separate from your own problems. But it also say a lot about you depending on who you are WITH and what you are willing o put up with. Also just because that person is fucked up doesn't mean you are as fucked up as them. I guess we accept the love we deserve. BUT we should be with people who think we awesome for who we are instead of just settling
    QueenBiddyon September 15, 2014   Link
  • 0
    General CommentGod I love this song. Jenny Lewis is such a good song writer.
    just badnewson January 27, 2006   Link
  • 0
    General Commentbrilliant
    Ocean Soulon January 29, 2006   Link
  • 0
    General CommentThe song has a sort of upbeat rythm, and i like the message of it, it's simple, but it says a lot.
    "You are what you love
    And not what loves you back"
    cutie_carnivoreon February 16, 2006   Link
  • 0
    General Commentshe is really coming into her own, ain't she? rilo kiley is great but there's something more personal about this.
    imajaron February 22, 2006   Link
  • 0
    General CommentMy favorite song off the album. Kinda defines a previous relationship of mine completely.
    shawnzyon March 03, 2006   Link

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