"Slipping Husband" as written by and Bryan Devendorf Scott Devendorf....
Sit down dear we gotta talk
Your acting like a kid
We don't want to hear about
The things you never did

You coulda been a legend
But you became a father
That's what you are today
That's what you are today

Spending all your time
Somewhere inside your head
Haunted by the important
Life you coulda lead

But your kisses aren't enough
To keep your kids in line
So you better straighten out yourself
And give your baby time
Cause if you don't give her what she needs
She'll get it where she can
She's lonely man

Don't leave yourself alone for too many days
Sooner than you know your gonna start slipping

You'll end up talking to the ghost
Of your wife as if you knew her
Your eyes will put her everywhere

And spending all your time
Somewhere inside your head
Haunted by the important
Life you coulda lead

You'll fuck yourself to clear your head
You'll close your door and go to bed
You'll try to sleep without a dream
That's where she finds you
That's where she finds you

Don't leave yourself alone for too many days
Sooner than you know your gonna start slipping

Dear we better get a drink in you
Before you start to bore us
Dear we better get a drink in you
Before you start to bore us
Dear we better get a drink in you
Before you start to bore us

"Don't forget the alcohol oooh baby oooh baby"


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"Slipping Husband" as written by Bryan Devendorf Aaron Dessner

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  • +5
    General Commentpeople who do not know the difference between 'your' and 'you're' should be banned from submitting lyrics.
    HighOnSunday51on May 02, 2009   Link
  • +2
    General CommentMale regret - emasculated and pathetic.

    No-body father, drunk in the corner boring his friends.
    the_associateon December 20, 2005   Link
  • +1
    General CommentSo fucking good. Matt really needs to scream more often. The first time that I downloaded (yes, I know, I know, but I bought Alligator and I will buy Boxer as soon as I find it) this song, it cut off around 2:45, right before the screaming starts, and I only thought that this song was mediocre-okay. But, as soon as I heard the whole thing, I was entranced, and I was forced to listen through it again, and I thus gained a new appreciation for a bloody brilliant song.
    jessepenceon May 15, 2007   Link
  • +1
    General CommentMy favorite song by The National.
    IndeediKidon July 02, 2009   Link
  • +1
    General CommentThis song is about feeling trapped. There are tons of songs/books/movies/ladies room conversations about women being trapped by marriage/family. This is from a husband's perspective. That situation definitely goes both ways, men just tend not to discuss it as much - which is what makes song cool. Springsteen has some good songs about this topic too, specifically The River comes to mind.
    TheQuietManon February 11, 2011   Link
  • +1
    General CommentTheQuietMan and the_associate have left the most accurate comments on this song so far. Almost every other post seem to think that the narrator has no merit in his complaints and regret, and that's not necessarily true. Sure, the narrator isn't paying attention to his family and his wife, and his drinking buddies are just telling him "pay more attention to them or you'll lose them" as an excuse so that they'll go back to drinking. The men (possibly women too) don't want to commiserate through articulation and the narrator's left in a nightmare of regret.

    We certainly shouldn't define the narrator by his fatherhood/husbandry/etc. The narrator has a minimal amount of love for his family, but wants much more out of life. Who is he supposed to turn to when no one in his life understands?
    auguruson February 13, 2012   Link
  • 0
    General CommentThe subjects wife is dead and he's left with the kids but unwilling unready to be the father that they need. It sounds like an intervention.
    RepairmanJackon March 09, 2007   Link
  • 0
    General CommentThis husband is I think a definitive coward/bore/yuppie. typical
    lukewagoneeron June 03, 2007   Link
  • 0
    General Commentwish they played this on every one of their sets
    themoralbankon June 19, 2007   Link
  • 0
    General CommentWhen I hear this song, I picture a man who is avoiding his family because he resents having to give up his dreams to settle down. Now the situation has reached the breaking point, and this guys friend is trying to get through to him that he's going to lose everything if he doesn't stop being selfish and pay more attention to his family.

    In the second verse, we get the idea the friend is speaking from experience, as he describes what's going to happen if the man doesn't get his act together.

    Finally, I wonder if the friend gives up, and gets the guy a drink so he doesn't have to hear more about "the important life he coulda led."
    jtaniumon November 19, 2007   Link

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