"I'm Not In Love" as written by and David Byrne....
What is? Brand new? Well that's not the way I think of you.
You'll touch me, in a minute; but that's not what I want to do.
We are two strangers,
We might never have met.
We can talk forever, I understand what you said.
But I'm...no in love.
What does it take to fall in love?
Do people really fall in love?

Is there time for this? Is this responsibility?
Girl time, boy time, is that the difference between me and you?
I won't ask any questions,
Who needs to make a new start?
I choose to believe you,
I said before that I can't.
...'Cause I'm not in love.
What does it take to fall in love?
Why would I want to fall in love?

Take it easy baby...Don't let your feelings get in the way.
Some day, I believe, we can live in a world without love.
I can answer your questions,
If you won't twist what I say.
Please respect my opinions,
They will be respected some day.
Because we don't need love.
I believe that we don't need love.
There'll come a day when we won't need love.

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"I'm Not in Love" as written by David Byrne

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    General CommentThis had once been an extremely important idea for Byrne: his belief that "love" was an imaginary concept with little actual meaning. The song was performed in the band's earliest days, when they were still called alternately The Artistics or The Autistics.

    The record label--worried by Byrne's somewhat-freakish persona--deliberately chose a producer for their first LP who'd tone down the weirdness. Byrne was sufficiently attached to this song--and "Warning Sign" which, although quite different, shares the suspicious attitude toward emotional attachment--to hang on to them until their second LP, More Songs About Buildings and Food. By then TH had a more-sympathetic producer in Brian Eno, and enough critical acclaim (and successful performances) that their label allowed David's more-twitchy songs to be recorded and released.

    Three albums later (Speaking in Tongues), it's obvious from "Naive Melody (This Must Be the Place)" and "Girlfriend Is Better" that David--surprise, wonder of wonders--had fallen in love, and was beginning to discard some of his more-eccentric ideas and concepts. Still weird though. What's the first thing anyone says about the film Stop Making Sense? The word "geek", or something about David's awkward stage presence and gestures (and the "big suit" of course). I do like his repetitive-measuring-along-one's-arm gesture; it looks good. Actually I'll admit...in my college days I listened to the More Songs LP entirely too often; I was on the verge of adopting the anti-love stance and other "conceptual art"-ish notions, myself. Until a pair of more-warmly-human-minded friends (a boy-girl couple) helped show me how self-defeating it could be.
    foreverdroneon February 15, 2011   Link
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    General Commentmaybe a girl loves him but he doesnt love back, but that doesnt mean they cant be together. or maybe they dont love eachother at all. still.
    ike368on April 11, 2005   Link
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    General CommentI wasn't paying attention to the lyrics when I first heard it (maybe because the lyrics were pretty hard for me to hear in the first place). I thought "I'm not in love" really meant that he WAS in love, but he was denying it (maybe because he thought it embarrassing to be in love? It made sense at the time). Now, reading it, I think it has a different meaning. I think it's more about how you might find yourself liking a person, but you're not sure if you're really in love with them. It might seem kind of weird to some people who have never experienced a love relationship before, but given the right experiences, a person could understand that idea quite easily. David Byrne seems to write a lot about complicated and slightly odd experiences in human relationships and humanity in general.

    Incidentally, when I first heard More Songs About Buildings And Food (the first Talking Heads album I ever listened to), I didn't particularly care for any of the songs save this one. Now Talking Heads are one of my favorite bands.
    Pippin the Mercuryon October 03, 2009   Link
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    General Commenti'll explain these lyrics with substitute ones

    "i'm quite self aware. really quite self aware. so i can't pretend i know what love is. i can't convince myself i love"
    nonomdeplumeon March 07, 2010   Link
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    General Comment"I believe some day we'll live in a world without love" is a particularly strange assertion. After a casual listen, it's unlikely anyone would notice how this represents David's belief that a "world without love" would be desirable...his longed-for future in which his odd "opinions" are "respected".

    It might not match the lyric sheet, but it's what he sings. There'd been many such discrepancies. Presumably David submitted lyrics for songs when they were still works-in-progress, and--when it came time to record--didn't sing the same thing.

    Just today--in a different place on the Internet--I encountered someone having used the printed lyrics for "Air" as an example. He was irritated by lyric sheets not always reflecting what's sung on the recording.
    foreverdroneon February 15, 2011   Link
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    General CommentThis song for me has always made me think a lot. About love and our society and what it means to be human. I can never decide though if he is talking about love in a general sense or specifically boy and girl love i.e. relationships, marriage, etc. I find the latter of these two interpretations more comforting. A world without couples and marriage and relationships seems to me to be a transcendence of the human race beyond our natural tendencies. Most animals sole purpose is indeed only to make more animals. On the other hand the alternative interpretation, a world devoid of any love (familial fraternal or otherwise) seems to me a bleak concept. I can't see a world without this kind of love ever existing. Sure it would be egalitarian and everyone would be equal in each others' eyes but I think that devalues the individual. Consequently I've always seen it, for me, as an attack on the institute of monogamy, gender roles, and the culture of romance rather than an outright rejection of passion for another human being.

    Also, I think I read in an interview Tina said, in reference to the band splitting, that david was "incapable of love" so idk take that for what its worth. i wish i could go talk to david byrne.
    profhardcastleon March 21, 2012   Link

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