"The Tower" as written by and Vienna Teng....
the one who survives by making the lives
of others worthwhile
she's coming apart
right before my eyes
the one who depends on the services she renders
to those who come knocking
she's seeing too clearly what she can't be
what understanding defies

she says I need not to need
or else a love with intuition
someone who reaches out to my weakness and won't let go
I need not to need
I've always been the tower
but now I feel like I'm the flower trying to bloom in snow

she turns out the light anticipating night falling
tenderly around her
and watches the dusk
the words won't come
she carries the act so convincingly the fact is
sometimes she believes it
that she can be happy the way things are
be happy with the things she's done

reach out
but hold back
where is safety
reach out
and hold back
where is the one who can change me
where is the one
the one
the one

reach out
but hold back
where is safety
reach out
and hold back
where is the one who can save me
where is the one
the one
the one


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"The Tower" as written by Vienna Teng

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    General Comment"I need not to need." The person in this song has made life of giving to others. Perhaps she's a teacher, a doctor, a mother, a wife. Heck, perhaps she's a hooker. She feels something we've all felt. You give and feel you get nothing in return. Where does it end?

    Not sure the song gives any answers...probably because the person this woman is looking for is thinking the same thoughts. The friend and the foe is that guy/gal reaching out and holding back.
    Arbiteron January 16, 2006   Link
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    General CommentI think this song tells of a person who is usualy the one that listens, gives advice and comforts others ("I've always been the tower"). Now that she's in need of some of that herself she either can't articulate it or just has nobody to talk to about herself, feeling alone ("But now I feel like I'm the flower, trying to bloom in snow").
    Creaton February 25, 2007   Link
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    General CommentThis is definately one of the major Vienna Teng songs that I connect with. Its mainly about the type of people who merely are always there for others, and really never burden others with their problems. But as times grow difficult, they try to keep their sturdy composure of being the one there for everyone, but it's getting hard, as Teng puts it "A flower trying to bloom in the snow"
    I love this song because I'm the one who usually deals with my friends problems, and even though I currently don't have to deal with anything, if anything dramatic does ever happen to me, I have a feeling this song describes it perfectly. Beautifully written and performed.
    kyoxme4everon December 19, 2007   Link
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    General CommentThis is definately one of the major Vienna Teng songs that I connect with. Its mainly about the type of people who merely are always there for others, and really never burden others with their problems. But as times grow difficult, they try to keep their sturdy composure of being the one there for everyone, but it's getting hard, as Teng puts it "A flower trying to bloom in the snow"
    I love this song because I'm the one who usually deals with my friends problems, and even though I currently don't have to deal with anything, if anything dramatic does ever happen to me, I have a feeling this song describes it perfectly. Beautifully written and performed.
    kyoxme4everon December 19, 2007   Link
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    General CommentAlong the lines of what's been said, a person that's a friend to everybody but still feels alone at the end of the day.

    A person that puts on an act, pretending to be perfectly happy with being alone but in solitude wishes for another to connect with.

    "I need not to need, I've always been the towrer"
    Saying that she shouldn't want this, she needs to be stronger, but she can't stop wanting it.
    magicmanx9on February 24, 2008   Link
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    General CommentShe is so full of helping others (the tower) that she doesn't help herself (flower trying to bloom...) so she needs someone to come and bring up her problems and try to fix them.
    bluepandaon March 15, 2008   Link
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    General CommentIt looks to me like a song about a mistress. She's in love with the man, but she can't be his wife and make her love him, even though he goes to her for sex.

    She tries to act happy around him, and the"act" is so convincingly that she can sometimes believe it, that she's happy the way it is.
    frizzylizzy3on May 09, 2008   Link
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    General CommentI'm not going to talk about what this song is supposed to mean, rather what it means to me. When I first heard this song I was going through a very difficult time in my life. The walls I had built up around myself were crumbling; the lies I had told myself and the people I was close to were falling apart around me as well. I had a difficult decision to make, one that would cause me heartache and problems throughout the rest of my life no matter which way I chose. I really identified with the woman in the song, and with the song itself, and I think it really helped me through that time.
    Divalson February 02, 2011   Link

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