God, that was strange to see you again
Introduced by a friend of a friend
Smiled and said, "Yes, I think we've met before"
In that instant it started to pour

Captured a taxi despite all the rain
We drove in silence across Pont Champlain
And all of that time you thought I was sad
I was trying to remember your name

This scar is a fleck on my porcelain skin
You tried to reach deep but you couldn't get in
And now you're outside me, you see all the beauty
Repent all your sin

Nothing but time and a face that you'll lose
I chose to feel it and you couldn't choose
I'll write you a postcard, I'll send you the news
From the house down the road from real love

Live through this and you won't look back
Live through this and you won't look back
Live through this and you won't look back

There's one thing I have to say so I'll be brave
You were what I wanted
I gave what I gave
I'm not sorry I met you
I'm not sorry it's over
I'm not sorry there's nothing to save
I'm not sorry there's nothing to save



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  • +7
    General Comment:I'm not reading eight pages of comments, but from what I've read is, you guys are neglecting to realize that they're BOTH singing the last stanzaa. It's not just the female singing it.

    This isn't about a guy who can't remember what happened to them and a girl that was heartbroken but was okay with giving herself to him in the past...

    They BOTH gave themselves to each other, and they BOTH have nothing left to say/save, and they're BOTH not sorry. This is a mutual acknowledgment from both people that they had this thing in the past, and it didn't work out. Don't forget the title of the song. "your ex-lover is dead" means that they're not the same person that they were when they had something. Her scar is a fleck, but it's also a scar, and a thing of the past.

    I also want to point out that when I originally listened to this song, I didn't imagine it as two people singing to each other, but two different voices singing the same perspective. One single person couldn't remember the ex-lovers name, and has a scar, and will write a postcard. It could be one perspective, not two.
    heartjuiceon November 25, 2011   Link
  • +4
    General Comment:by the way, i would totally marry this song if it was a person. i'm in love more and more with it.
    thegirlmostlovelyon March 06, 2005   Link
  • +4
    General Comment:To me this song seems as if in a former relationship the two were involved but regardless of how much he cared about her, she was undecided and couldn't love him back in the same way. They meet again as if they were strangers, although they both remember their past together. I think the inability to remember the name part is moreso saying that he's over it, although he feels as if she thinks it still affects him. "This scar is a flec on my porcelaine skin" means that he'll always remember the way she hurt him, but he's saying he doesn't regret it, and the "house down the road with real love" seems to signify that he's found a person with whom he's fallen in love with and from whom he recieves what he needs.
    lintballon April 04, 2005   Link
  • +2
    General Comment:If you've ever had the experience of randomly running into someone with whom you once had a brief, maybe sexual, but nonetheless wonderful relationship, this song captures the feeling. There's some bitterness, nostalgia, happiness. You are happy to have had what you had, but are glad that it was what it was and nothing more.
    coldatlanticon July 13, 2005   Link
  • +1
    General Comment:I love the line "Live through this and you won't look back" It very much shows that these two young former lovers were on the verge of a relationship before it all came to a crashing halt. Now maybe years later they are reunited one more time, and are trying to make it through the evening without the old flame rekindling. I especially love how they come to grips at the end that the relationship is and forever will be dead.
    remotehomelifeon August 11, 2005   Link
  • +1
    General Comment:There comes a time in your early twenties when you're sort of stuck between holding onto the youthful abandon of your teenage years and bracing yourself for the accountability of the real world.The people you meet in this time tend to be people that you cling to for dear life, and when a relationship forged in that time falls apart, it hurts more than any other before it, but you move on. In this song, she is able to be accountable, while he is not, and even though I get the feeling that HeE broke ties with HER years ago, she is the one who tells him off now, while he remains stunted. And while she is able to make her own choices now, she still longs for the old youthful abandon.
    God what a true-to-life tune.
    Navelgazer33on September 02, 2005   Link
  • +1
    General Comment:Evan and Amy were briefly engaged/married during/after Heart, which is an album about love and it's much more optimistic. This album is really sad, bittersweet I'd say. This song sets the exact tone for the rest of the album. I have felt this. My next door neighboor has felt this. that feeling the capture is incredible. I agree, in the low level dynamics of the song, the story is sort of girl gets dumped, time passes, sees boy again but now the person she loved is dead, and this new person, this new skin and body that looks like that person, can't even remember your name. But that's fine, she found real love, someone who actually got inside, reached deep and loved her. He didn't and so, she stands there, majestically, thinking "you only saw beauty outside of me...you pig...Repent all your sin!" and "I'll send you a postcard from the house down the way...from REAL love!" but at the same time she's sad and still hurt. She'll never get over it. We never do; that's why we are humans. I think this album is alot like MountainGoat's "Tallahassee" in terms of the themes. It's an album about the eventual downfall and reconstruction of love in a couple. These are albums to live through the winter and emerge in the snow. Jesus, music is amazing.
    More importantly, these albums (and Arcade Fire, Radiohead, Clap Your Hands, Death Cab, Bloc Party, Broken Social Scene, Neutral Milk Hotel) feel like what our generation is. They say on the official website that "Stars went into a cabin and smoked and drank and set themselves on fire, and when they emerged"...our generation is the generation of spiritual immolation, of chemical inbalances, Prozac/Zoloft/Ritalin/Adderall/Alcohol, all of that medication we have ingested. these bands represent musically what we are. they are the music of our generation.
    kozmikon November 09, 2005   Link
  • +1
    General Comment:this is personally one of my favourite songs and my interpretation on the lyrics is thats its about two people who were really never in a real relationship to begin with although they had both knew they had something special, and were really close with one another, but someone was too afraid to make a daring move for whatever reason. and so now they havent seen eachother in a while, and things are awkward, so they want to catch up on things more but they left off on a strange note. so in the end of the song, the girl finally is bold enoguh to say what she wants to say about the two of them hence the whole line -There's one thing I have to say so I'll be brave
    You were what I wanted
    I gave what I gave
    I'm not sorry I met you
    I'm not sorry it's over
    I'm not sorry there's nothing to save
    - which bluntly meant what it says and that it was nice to know you, i did love you, i still do, but it was more of an experience , and nothing is left but the memories.
    roxy23xoon July 18, 2007   Link
  • +1
    General Comment:For my this song directly relates to a friends with benifits situation I was in, I liked my friend, but he was still obsessed with his ex for me he was my first so I'll never forget him "This scar is a fleck on my porcelain skin" but if we meet again in the future would he even know my name? for me this represents how the guy could barely remember her but she remembers him well.

    I chose to feel it and you couldn't choose
    For me represents how I felt for him and though he said he had feelings he couldn't commit to a relationship with me.

    I'll write you a postcard, I'll send you the news
    From the house down the road from real love. Represents how im not ready to talk to him yet, but i will one day when i find real love I think i'll be strong enough to face him

    You were what I wanted
    I gave what I gave
    I'm not sorry I met you
    I'm not sorry it's over
    I'm not sorry there's nothing to say
    I'm not sorry there's nothing to say
    (i have always thought it was say..)
    this represents how I gave him my virginity and im not sorry or regret it but theres nothing left to say leaving him means im moving on
    ironyison January 28, 2008   Link
  • +1
    General Comment:This song is so amazing. The lyrics perfectly capture that weird, poignant mixture of regret, awkwardness, and surprise when you see that person who left you long ago - that warm and shocking realization that time really does heal all wounds, giving you the courage to let them know that even though something went wrong (you were hurt, or he just fell out of love), you really are fine in a way you never thought you would be. It's that feeling of looking inside yourself to see where the pain was and finding it empty.
    anemptyroomon March 29, 2008   Link

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