This is a hauntingly beautiful song about introspection, specifically about looking back at a relationship that started bad and ended so poorly, that the narrator wants to go back to the very beginning and tell himself to not even travel down that road. I believe that the relationship started poorly because of the lines:
"Take me back to the night we met:When the night was full of terrors: And your eyes were filled with tears: When you had not touched me yet"
So, the first night was not a great start, but the narrator pursued the relationship and eventually both overcame the rough start to fall in love with each other:
"I had all and then most of you"
Like many relationships that turn sour, it was not a quick decline, but a gradual one where the narrator and their partner fall out of love and gradually grow apart
"Some and now none of you"
Losing someone who was once everything in your world, who you could confide in, tell your secrets to, share all the most intimate parts of your life, to being strangers with that person is probably one of the most painful experiences a person can go through. So Painful, the narrator wants to go back in time and tell himself to not even pursue the relationship.
This was the perfect song for "13 Reasons Why"
Understand once he was a family man
So surely I would never, ever go through it first hand
Emulate all the shit my mother hated
I can't help but demostrate my Freudian fate
My alibi for taking your guy
History repeats itself, it fails to die
And animal agression is my downfall
I don't care 'bout what you got I want it all
It's bricked up in my head, it's shoved under my bed
And I question myself again: what is it 'bout men?
My destructive side has grown a mile wide
And I question myself again: what is it 'bout men?
It's bricked up in my head, it's shoved under my bed
And I question myself again: what is it 'bout men?
My destructive side has grown a mile wide
And I question myself again: what is it 'bout men?
So surely I would never, ever go through it first hand
Emulate all the shit my mother hated
I can't help but demostrate my Freudian fate
My alibi for taking your guy
History repeats itself, it fails to die
And animal agression is my downfall
I don't care 'bout what you got I want it all
It's bricked up in my head, it's shoved under my bed
And I question myself again: what is it 'bout men?
My destructive side has grown a mile wide
And I question myself again: what is it 'bout men?
It's bricked up in my head, it's shoved under my bed
And I question myself again: what is it 'bout men?
My destructive side has grown a mile wide
And I question myself again: what is it 'bout men?
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"I can't help but demostrate my Freudian fate My alibi for taking your guy history repeats itself, it fails to die"
she's saying even though she tried her "all the shit my mother hated" and not have to go through it, she ended up going through exactly what her mother did, by going for a man like her father...
Yup exactly right missme. It's about her dad having an affair. Then it happened to Amy. Sad, but good song.
I think this song is about her, as much as it is about a cheating guy. She's sleeping with a bloke who's married, and she hates that he's doing this to his wife, while at the same time realising that she's just as bad; she's doing to this woman what her father and his lover did to her mother.
The Freudian fate thing, I think, is brilliant; she's just doing the same thing her father did because she's screwed up...
It's like the guy said in the intro to the deluxe edition of Frank, she could just as easily be singing "What it is about me" rather than "What it is about men", she'd just rather not blame herself; she'd have to hate herself then.
Love this one. Think its meaning is pretty clear; she grew up with a crappy father who I'm interpreting cheated on her mother or something equally shitty. She talks about her you'd think this would deter her from bad men, and bad relationship behaviour but her "Freudian fate" means she finds herself pursuing equally unhealthy and immoral relationships in the form of sleeping with a taken guy - this is her "destructive side" which has "grown a mile wide" and become a really dysfunctional routine form of behaviour for her - she can't stay away from the lure of the immorality of it all; "animal aggression is my downfall"