"Unlovable" as written by and Darren Stanley/conley Hayes....
Are my lips unkissable?
Are my eyes unlookable?
Is my skin untouchable?
Am I unlovable?

Cynical, jaded, faithless, disappointed, disillusioned, used
If I could take back all my sweat, my tears, my sex, my joy I would
My time, my love, my effort, passion, dedication
In case of mistaken identity I gave these things to you
If I sound angry, bitter, sad, infatuated, it's the truth
Denial, anger, bargaining, depression, just a few
Stages of acceptance that it's really over
It's just so complicated and I'm stupid for believing in you

You make me feel like my father never loved me
You make me feel like the act of love is empty
Am I so unlovable?
Is my skin untouchable?
Do I remind you of a part of you that you don't like?

I had your back, I held you up, I told you you were good enough
It was not reciprocated, you kept affection and yourself apart
You fed your love to me like crumbs to pigeons in the park
Sometimes I think you're satisfied to see me begging like a dog
I wasn't armored, you were king, I gave my everything
Because sometimes you showed me just a hint of you and then
For just a moment I romanticized the notion
I can take away the torment, I can love you like they never did

You make me feel like my father never loved me (you never loved me)
You make me feel like the act of love is empty (I felt so empty)
Am I so unlovable?
Is my skin untouchable?
Do I remind you of a part of you that you don't like?

You make me feel like my mother, she abandoned me (you abandoned me)
You make me feel like the act of love is empty (I felt so empty)
Am I so unlovable?
Is my heart unbreakable?
Do I remind you of a part of you that you despise?

Are my lips unkissable?
Are my eyes unlookable?
Is my sex undoable?
Am I unlovable?
Are my words unlistenable?
Are my hands untouchable?
Am I undesirable?
Am I unlovable?

You make me feel like my father never loved me
You make me feel like the act of love is empty
Am I so unlovable?
Is my skin untouchable?
Do I remind you of a part of you that you don't like?

You make me feel like my father never loved me (you never loved me)
You make me feel like the act of love is empty (I felt so empty)
Am I so unlovable?
Is my skin untouchable?
Do I remind you of a part of you that you don't like?

You make me feel like my mother, she abandoned me (you abandoned me)
You make me feel like the act of love is empty (I felt so empty)
Am I so unlovable?
Is my heart unbreakable?
Do I remind you of a part of you that you despise?

You make me feel like my father never loved me (you never loved me)
You make me feel like my mother, she abandoned me (you abandoned me)
You make me feel like my father never loved me (you never loved me)
You make me feel like my mother, she abandoned me (you abandoned me)


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    General CommentIt struck me, initially that the stilted sound of the verses are like words that mark passage through time this is supported by the line 'just a few stages of acceptance that it's really over' bitterness is evident coupled with the idea of being completely alone, 'my father never loved me' 'my mother she abandoned me' whilst the backing voice sings 'you never loved me' showing this is only an impression of the loneliness the 'you' makes him feel. The 'do I remind you of a part of you that you despise' and other variations show some evidence of self-loathing coupled with bitterness, possibly by being manipulated through a relationship gone sour.
    LocalFreakon September 25, 2004   Link
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    General CommentUnloveable is a masterpiece...it is so raw and goes straight to your heart...It was about the end of a relationship and the anguish and pain that it inflected within...
    This song is so beautiful and SO heavy that sometime it's even to much for me to take...since I blame myself for the state I'm in...I do feel unloveable, like there was something wrong with me, a reason why I can't be loved. It describes beautifully how you go from anguish to finally acceptance of the situation...
    The lines that strike me the most:
    "You fed your love to me like crumbs to pigeons in the park, Sometimes I think you're satisfied to see me begging like a dog.." Your partner knows how you manipulate you, knows where your weakness are...so he/she only gives you bits to keep you coming back for more...and that's all they give.
    I heard him singing it live on the Radio...and it's eaven heavier, you can't believe how gifted this man is, lyrically, vocally, and emotionally.
    Gabigson August 10, 2005   Link
  • 0
    General CommentI think this song explains it all.
    Ronnie889on September 24, 2004   Link
  • 0
    General CommentThis is what Darren said:
    "It's essentially an unsent letter that became a song. At the end of a relationship I was feeling all of the things you feel when love is denied. I felt abandoned I guess.
    I wrote a poem where essentially I said 'My Father never loved me. I know it's not true. But that's how you made me feel. You made me feel like my father never loved me'."
    Ladyburston October 06, 2004   Link
  • 0
    General CommentThis is song is very bitter. I know it's obvious from the lyrics, but i strikes you even more so when you hear the song.
    hazirahMon June 25, 2005   Link
  • 0
    General CommentGabigs again, nailed it right on the head for me. That is exactly my take on this amazing song. I connected with this strong straight off when I first heard it and still continues to be definately one of my favorites not only on TATS, but of all time by Darren.
    It's a very intense song where you may be so wrapped up in somebody and thought that there was so much love between you, but when it's over, you can't accept it. And you go through all the stages and the rejection and denial of love makes you feel so inferior. It even touches on other aspects of your life, making you feel as though your whole life was a lie and finally the covers have come free from your eyes and everything you've ever known is terrible.
    It's such a deep song... Darren truly wears his heart on his sleeve in this song, and it really works. Just amazingly writte.
    Gabigs, you are so lucky that you got to hear that live. Wow! You must live in Australia?
    Misseveruson March 04, 2006   Link
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    General CommentMiss: thank you, I love your interpretation as well. I wish I lived in Australia, haha, I live in Argentina (South America) where Darren is basically an unknown person, and I got to listen to those files through the internet. I'll give you the link, I hope they still work after all this time, if you don't get to download them pay attention to that page because it's the one that keeps me posted about everything that Darren does. It's where it says "Signal One Performance", going down the page:
    darrenhayesfans.com/…

    And I'll give you my ids to msn (again, I did it in some other song lol) , in case you want to chat or share stuff : it's ggomezstruzka@yahoo.com.ar or gdcgs@hotmail.com.
    Gabigson March 07, 2006   Link
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    General CommentWow, thank-you soooooo much for sharing that link with me! I am forever grateful. I am listening to it now, and it's blowing me away. Listening to him live is not only astounding (because of his unreal vocal talent) but it's just stunning because it feels so much more real.... I love it.
    Thanks again! I need to listen to the other live songs! We'll chat about them later, forsure.
    Misseveruson March 08, 2006   Link
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    General CommentYou're welcome, I'm glad you are enjoying them :) I got those performances at the same time I got the album and I used to listen to both of them equally, because they are so different. This version (without the electronic effects on the background) is beautiful because it's only him...and is so so real. We'll chat soon, just talk to me when you see me on line !! :)
    Gabigson March 11, 2006   Link
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    General Commentawww i love darren! hehe i live in australia and darren was just on rovelive!!! ahaha he was awesome! god i love this boiy and his music! he always makes me cry!!!!!!!!!!!!! he was awesome in savage garden too i seen him when i was like 7 in bendigo!!! just brilliant!!
    ellisha89on June 27, 2006   Link

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