"Scar" as written by Gavin Richard Harrison and Ricardo A. Byer....
He left a card, a bar of soap and a scrubbing brush next to a note
That said "use these down to your bones"
And before I knew I had shiny skin and it felt easy being clean like him
I thought "this one knows better than I do"

A triangle trying to squeeze through a circle
He tried to cut me so I'd fit

And doesn't that sound familiar? Doesn't that hit too close to home?
Doesn't that make you shiver; the way things could've gone?
And doesn't it feel peculiar when everyone wants a little more?
And so that I do remember to never go that far,
Could you leave me with a scar?

So the next one came with a bag of treats, she smelled like sugar and
spoke like the sea
And she told me don't trust them, trust me
Then she pulled at my stitches one by one, looked at my insides clicking
her tongue and said
"This will all have to come undone"

A triangle trying to squeeze through a circle
She tried to cut me so I'd fit

And doesn't that sound familiar? Doesn't that hit too close to home?
Doesn't that make you shiver; the way things could have gone?
And doesn't it feel peculiar when everyone wants a little more?
And so that I do remember to never go that far,
Could you leave me with a scar?

And I realized just in time, although my old self was hard to find
You can bathe me in your finest wine but I'll never give you mine
'cause I'm a little bit tired of fearing that I'll be the bad fruit nobody buys
Tell me, did you think we'd all dream the same?

And doesn't that sound familiar? Doesn't that hit too close to home?
Doesn't that make you shiver; the way things could have gone?
And doesn't it feel peculiar when everyone wants a little more?
And so that I do remember to never go that far,
Could you leave me with a scar?
Could you leave me with a scar?


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"Scar" as written by Karl/blatt Gordon

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    General CommentYes, maybe there is some reference to sexuality in it, but i believe it is more about her reactions to relationships, trying to fit into the mould of what her partner wants her to be, while forgetting who she really is. In the first stanza she speaks of a relationship with a man. The card suggests a goodbye note, and cleaning with the scrubbing brush implies thathe wants her to clean herself of him i.e. have nothing more to do with him and get over it, which she seems to take as good advice by the line "this one knows better than I do"
    "a triangle trying to squeeze through a circle" i see as meaning that theyre two separate people and don't fit together, and the triangle, presumably her, is trying to fit, and the only way to do that is change, or "cut" away at who she really is.
    "could you leave me with a scar" implies an emotional scar so she wont forget the mistakes shes made in that relationship.
    This next verse speaks of a woman. reference to sugar and sweets gives me the impression that she is enticing, but could be bad for her. I think of the sea as a powerful, soothing sounding thing, so speaking like it i belive would be a comforting, confident voice. "she told be don't trust them trust me"- i would see "them" as being men.
    "..Pulled at my stitches one by one" i think suggests an emotional wound which was still trying to heal opened up revealing her vulnerabilities, impliled by when she "looked at her insides"
    Again it mentions the triangle trying to fit into the circle and the female also trying to make her fit into what they want of her in the relationship
    "i think i realised just in time" suggests that she figured out how she was changing herself for the relationships before it had gone too far, like marriage. " You can bathe me in your finest wine, but ill never give you mine"- shes now become more aware and has decided that just because she is being spoiled, it doesnt mean she will consent to give all of her old self away to fit into the relationship. It could also be seen as keeping assets separate.
    "tell me did you think we'd all dream the same" is a rhetorical question trying to point out that everyone has different ideals, interests and dreams.

    A little complicated , yes but it works out. Basically the song follows through her learning experience of different relationships, both trying to change her, or her changing herself, but getting dumped anyway- making it pointless.
    ali_g2288on October 05, 2004   Link
  • +1
    General CommentDefinitely defining her sexuality, and the others that tried to twist her, shape her into something she ain't.

    Go Missy!
    shockdelicaon January 05, 2009   Link
  • +1
    General CommentIve researched this one and ive found out missy higggins says it about or acceptence in to the music industry and all the paople shes metioning in it like "this one knows better then i do" is talking about like seeing if she wanted that director (i dont what so call them) and that one is just a complete dick.
    "So the next one came with a bag of treats, she smelled like sugar and spoke like the sea,
    And she told me don't trust them, trust me,
    this ones trying to get her trust and stuff
    and i do understand how you could think this was abouit her sexuality but if you read it carfully it doesnt make sense
    "So the next one came with a bag of treats, she smelled like sugar and spoke like the sea,
    And she told me don't trust them, trust me, ( WHY WOULD YOU SAY THAT WHEN YOU MET THEM) so im fairly confident when i say this is about her acceptence into the music industry and not her sexuality
    kizaon April 09, 2009   Link
  • +1
    My OpinionThis is one of my favourite songs by Missy Higgins, or by anyone, really.

    I think it's pretty clear that this isn't a song so much about her sexuality, but rather about relationships and how people try to change you rather than just loving you for how you are.

    A triangle trying to squeeze through a circle.
    He tried to cut me so I'd fit.

    Two people who are obviously not compatible, and one trying to change the other person so that they are.

    Given background information, we already know that Missy Higgins is bi, so this song isn't meant to reveal any sort of secret or anything.
    MatchBearon April 19, 2010   Link
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    My OpinionI don't think it is mainly about her sexuality. Though, she mentioned either a relation with a man and a relationship with a women.
    It is more about her fitting into these relationships. How she is forced into changing and becoming someone else because "everyone wants a little more". It all repeats over and over again with every person cause no one accepts her the way she is. At the end she finds it hard to find her "old self".
    dinision December 10, 2011   Link
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    General CommentI believe, as it makes sense, and I have also heard this, that Scar is about Missy's sexuality (either bi or lesbian).
    "A triangle, trying to squeeze through a circle" - she can not fit into the mould of being straight
    "And she told me don't trust them, trust me" - her acceptance of females in a relationship as opposed to the male gender
    Overall, if not clearly written in the lyrics, the general vibe of this song is her emotions/journey/whatever about being gay.
    !!**!!on September 25, 2004   Link
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    General CommentI had not thought about it from that angle but looking over it again i'd have to agree. it does seem to fit that theme quite well.
    chibinezuon September 28, 2004   Link
  • 0
    General CommentI found this on sing365.com:
    "It's basically a song about people's need to pigeonhole things in order to process them", explains Missy. "It's about rebelling from the easy path of just going along with everybody else and trying not to stand out. It's also about realising you've trusted the wrong people and finding a way to benefit from the scars they've left behind."

    a great uptempo song to feel better to
    AgathaKavkaon October 14, 2004   Link
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    General CommentI think this song is definitely about Missy's coming to terms with her sexuality. It is clear when she talks about the issues surrounding trust and not fitting in. I totally agree with !!**!!
    Scarlett3565on November 16, 2004   Link
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    General Commentgreat song good lyrics awesome person but geez rove did the BEST!!!!!impression of her on rove live HAHAHAH! come on ne1 else c it??????????
    c.s loveron July 21, 2005   Link

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