"Spineless" as written by and Alanis Morissette....
I won't see my dear friends as much
Male friends especially, I'll no longer be in touch
I'll change my hobbies to match yours

I'll stop reading my favorite books
I won't spend all this selfish time alone
I'll cater to you and hang on your every word

[Chorus]
I'll be subservient and spineless
I'll lick your boots as empty shells
I'll be opinionless and silent
I'll be the prettiest appendage to ever lose herself

I'll re-define self-sacrifice
Live my life as apologetic compromise
I'll know you need if I rock the boat

[Chorus]

I feel this, truly proclaimed will help the curbing of this tendency
I know this sharing of shame will ensure that I won't forget myself so easily

I'll be low-maintenance and agreeable
I will not talk about my dreams so much
I'll listen to you for hours, won't need anything

[Chorus: x2]

I feel this, truly proclaimed will help the curbing of this tendency
I know this sharing of shame will ensure that I won't forget myself so easily


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"Spineless" as written by Alanis Morissette

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  • +5
    General CommentI think this song is saying how so many people become "spineless" when trying to impress someone, for example a boyfriend. It's trying to say "I'll become who you want me to be, I'll change all my opinions and beliefs, and I'll be no trouble for you".
    I like this song, because I've seen this kind of thing happen to so many girls when trying to impress a guy. They pretend they're something they're not.
    fragile.whoreon September 25, 2004   Link
  • +3
    General CommentI always thought this song was a sarcastic response to a boyfriend. Maybe someone very jealous who didn\'t like her having other friends. So this song shows him what he\'s really asking for an \"appendage\".
    Hisoeon April 22, 2005   Link
  • +3
    General CommentThe part where she sings:

    I feel this, truly proclaimed, will help the curbing of this tendency
    I know this sharing of shame will ensure that I won't forget myself so easily

    Is very confessional. She saying that by laying out her tendency to submit in a relationship and suppress her personality to avoid rocking the boat, that it will help her to not do it. She doesn't want to lose herself and give up who she is or what she wants just to make the other person in the relationship happy, but it seems she's done it in the past.
    Savioloon April 19, 2009   Link
  • +2
    General CommentYeah, I agree with all of you - spot on. It's very very sarcastic - like making a general comment on how girls behave but also one to a boyfriend - she doesn't mean she'll do all these things for him - she's in fact saying like hell I'm gonna sacrifice what being me means to suit you! She's mocking the fact that some boys seriously expect this of girls
    CakeAndSodomy69on August 19, 2005   Link
  • +1
    General CommentHas anyone considered this song as a master vs. slave theme? I think it looks like that pretty much...
    TaylorZoyaon January 31, 2011   Link
  • 0
    General CommentEXACTLY it.
    Buddha of Suburbiaon April 04, 2005   Link
  • 0
    General CommentYup I agree. She's being sarcastic and facetious.
    emlem25on October 05, 2008   Link
  • 0
    General CommentTHIS is the most direct lyrical address of co-dependence (look up Pia Mellody, Ann Wilson Schaef, Melody Beattie and James Rapson, as well as Timmen Cermak) in a romantic framework in her library. (Did she read Mellody's =Facing Love Addiction= or Schaef's =Escape from Initimacy?= Maybe.)

    Al's been down this road before ("Not the Doctor," "Precious Illusions"), but never so bluntly. Perhaps she's, err, frustrated with her own (or others) apathy?
    naughtmoseson September 10, 2009   Link

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