Am I faithful? Am I strong? Am I good enough to belong?
In your reverie, a perfect girl
Your vision of romance is cruel
All along I played the fool
All your expectations bury me

Don't worry, you will find the answer if you let it go
Give yourself some time to falter
And don't forgo, knowing that's your love no matter what
And everything will come around in time

I own my insecurities, I try to own my destiny
That I can make or break it if I choose
But you take my words and twist them 'round
'Til I'm the one who brings you down
You make me feel like I'm the one to blame for all this

You will find the answer if you let it go
Give yourself some time to falter
Don't forgo, knowing that's your love no matter what
And everything will come around in time

'Cause you need everybody with you on your side
Know that I am here for you but I hope in time
Find yourself alright alone
Find yourself with open arms
Find yourself, find yourself in time

The riot in my heart decides to keep me open and alive
I have to take myself away from you
'Cause I can't compete, I can't deny
There's nothing that I didn't try
How did I go so wrong in loving you?

Don't worry, you will find the answer if you let it go
Give yourself some time to falter
Don't forgo, knowing that's your love no matter what
And everything will come around in time


Lyrics submitted by WinterOnyx, edited by altamber8

Perfect Girl Lyrics as written by Sarah Mclachlan Pierre Marchand

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    This will someday be a Sarah Mclachlan classic. I think this is about a woman struggling to live up to her lover's expectations, which seem to lofty for her to reach. "Your vision of romance is cruel All along I played the fool." She rebukes her partner's unreasonable expectations, but what makes this song so wonderful for me is that, at the same time, she loves him anyway; she just wants him to "come around." At the beginning of the song, she stresses what should be important in a relationship: faith and strength. Definately a song to live by.

    RapturesAnomalyon March 02, 2005   Link
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    She is with someone who is not good for her. She leaves because she's knows its bad. He has to be right no matter what. She lets him win. She leaves him to his own demons who he thinks is her, in reality his demons are him. She is better without him. She wants him to remain in her life, but she knows he's should just be with himself. It's better for her and him in the end, so he can find himself.

    sk8ter78on August 01, 2007   Link
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    today, this is my song. relationships take work, but there's only so much you can do when the person you're in a relationship with is not secure with themself. this isn't just true with romantic relationships. the insecure person doesn't hear your words for what you're saying - like sarah says, they twist your words until YOU are the one - you are the person to blame, because it is easier to blame you than to blame themself, come to terms with it, and move on.

    ah, but actually telling that person this... and actually doing what you say... that's another story altogether.

    getlostbeccaon January 09, 2007   Link
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    I've heard Sarah explain this song before... It's someone singing to a friend who's going through a rough breakup. Letting her know that she's still ok, that she's loved, has friends that support her, and hopefully she'll be ok on her own one day. She wrote it for a friend.

    bastion01on July 01, 2008   Link
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    this is one of my fave sarah songs, love it.

    Hummingbirdon October 26, 2004   Link
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    This song makes me think that the singer(lets just say female) is obsessed with her lover. He ( the lover) is not sure about his feelings towards her. She tells him she will always be there for him, and that he has to let her go to realize how much he loves her. this is a beautiful song. One of my favourites, and easy to play on the piano too.

    sunchick42on November 20, 2004   Link
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    one of my fave songs.

    this song, everytime i listen to it, seems to tell of someone who is taking a step back from the relationship with someone who has a lot of issues to deal with, and it is with this distance the partner should work himself/herself out (a task that the girl feels should be done alone). Perfect girl hopes that in time, her partner would fix him/herself up (realize that Perfect girl should be loved as who she is-- free from all his expectations. I love how in the chorus, she tells her partner just how to do that-- to let go (of the expectations), to let yourself falter, and that to know that whoever you are whatever you do... you are loved.

    really good, this song.

    gabe_phon February 25, 2005   Link
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    I absolutely love this song. One of my favorites from Sarah McLachLan!

    UnknownGirlon June 25, 2005   Link
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    Love this song. These are my favourite lines: "I own my insecurities, I try to own my destiny, that I can make or break it if I choose..."

    cay15on July 17, 2005   Link
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    i've never really thought about this song as having to do with being in a relationship, maybe partially because i've never been in one myself, but looking over the lyrics again i can see how that would work. to me anyways i think it's about someone who feels kind of inferior to everyone around her no matter how hard she keeps trying to do things right. then the chorus and the bridge ('you need everybody with you on your side...") is someone coming along and telling her that things will turn out ok in the end.

    halfaliveon January 14, 2006   Link

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