Maybe different, but remember
Winters warm there you and I,
Kissing whiskey by the fire
With the snow outside
And the summer comes
The river swims at midnight
Shiver cold
Touch the bottom, you and I
With muddy toes

Stay or leave
I want you not to go
But you should
It was good, as good goes
Stay or leave
I want you not to go
But you did

Wake up naked drinking coffee,
Making plans to change the world
While the world is changing us...
It was good good love.
You used to laugh under the covers
Maybe not so often now
But the way I used to laugh with you
Was loud and hard

Stay or leave
I want you not to go
But you should
It was good as good goes
Stay or leave
I want you not to go
But you did

So what to do
With the rest of today's afternoon, hey
Isn't it strange how we change
Everything we did
Did I do all that i should

That I could'a done

Remember we used to dance
And everyone wanted to be
You and me
I want to be too
What day is this
Besides the day you left me?
What day is this
Besides the day you went?

So what to do
With the rest of the day's afternoon, hey
Well isn't it strange how we change
Everything we did
Did I do all that I could

Remember we used to dance
And everyone wanted to be you and me
I want to be too
What day is this
Besides the day you went babe
What day is this


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  • +3
    MemoryI don't know exactly what this song means. Like kbkaitemarie5 said, it could mean any of a dozen things.

    I know what it means to me though. This one is about a man looking back at his relationship. Not from the table, weeping over a dear john letter. But from the distance of time. Remembering the good times. The freedom and passion that comes in love. And remembering the end, the distance and pain. But muted, and with the sense of realism that comes with stepping outside of something.
    He can see the reality of things. The growing distance. What he should and shouldn't have done to stop what seems now to have been so obvious. He loved her, and he hated her. He blamed her for leaving, but sees now that there really was no other choice. He misses the simpler times, when they were happy for no other reason than being together. When life was something that would change itself to their desires.
    Instead, it was them that changed. Routines slipping in and replacing passion with the 9-5 grind and credit card bills. Real life replaced the honeymoon disconnect from reality. The fires burned low until maybe, one day, it was another spark that blossomed in her bosom. Maybe someone else stepped in and breathed life into her ashes. Maybe she just grew tired of the cold.
    Either way he looks back with a sad reminiscence on a time filled with joy, and sorrow. With life.
    LughVanthon February 03, 2013   Link
  • +2
    General CommentA more reminiscent lost love tale then the average Dave written song; The song uses a day as an allusion to life. The opening line tells that the song is sung in a positive light, i.e., some of the memories, ‘maybe different’, but ‘remember’ the positive times. The singer is aware that the lost love is better off without him, but the pain is still present. ‘Wake up naked…’ represents birth, with the coffee reference as an awaking to the world. ‘The rest of the days afternoon…’ represents midlife, pondering how the singer will continue now that the love is gone. Time becomes insignificant, because every day remains ‘…the day you went away’.
    SolSedanoon February 22, 2010   Link
  • +2
    General CommentThe raw honesty of the picture that these lyrics paint tears my heart to shreds....
    duds11on October 24, 2011   Link
  • +1
    General CommentThis song to me could mean 15 different things. But what i prefer to think is that its about a man who knows that he loves this woman. He knows she loved him with everything she has. but he also knows that she deserves better. He misses the times where it was carefree and there were no problems. and He hates the fact that he couldnt be there for everything.

    lol I'm a little biased. but this is what i believe.
    kbkatiemarie5on May 07, 2010   Link
  • 0
    General CommentThis song is absolutely perfect. the lyrics, the melody, his voice. just everything. I can't even pick out a favorite because it's all just incredibly beautiful.
    radiobreakdownon April 14, 2004   Link
  • 0
    General Commentthis song procures this sweet nostagic feeling mixed with a tone of inner saddness...very bitter sweet
    DMBprincess18on April 16, 2004   Link
  • 0
    General CommentIt tells a story of rememberance from start to finish the favorite parts of a relationship, up until the break up.
    DagoBoyon April 20, 2004   Link
  • 0
    General CommentAlthough I've become rather burned out with Dave Matthews, I still have great appreciation for his amazing musical talents. He comes up with the best guitar licks and he seems to be able to capture a moment perfectly in his lyrics. This song is a good example of that. Dave will go down as one of the greatest singer/songwriters ever. He needs to be given more props for his guitar playing because he brings a style like no other and is one of the best guitarists ever in my opinion. No band on earth can give a show like DMB.
    MJWhit518on May 02, 2004   Link
  • 0
    General CommentYet another brilliant song...
    Amsieon May 06, 2004   Link
  • 0
    General Commentamazing

    'remember we used to dance
    and everyone wanted to be you and me'
    UrSoLastSummeron May 06, 2004   Link

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