"Missing The War" as written by and Ben Folds....
All is quiet his tired eyes
see figures jotted down
And clothes all strewn around
the bedroom flood
Now nothing's adding up
And nothing's making sense
She's sleeping like a baby
She doesn't like a baby
She doesn't know he wasn't meant for this
I'm missing the war
I'm missing the war all night
Missing the war

He drove home again
Pissed and beaten
Its really no big deal
It happens all the time
Its no big deal
I'm missing the war
I'm missing the war all night
Missing the war
I'm missing the war

'Till beads of sunlight hit me in the morning
So much time so little to say
Time may fly
And dreams may die
The shaking voice that tells him go
Still thinks he might
He knows he won't
I'm missing the war
Missing the war all night
Missing the war

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"Missing the War" as written by Ben Folds

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    General CommentThis is one of Ben's most beautiful works. I'm not really convinced by any of the previous interpretations.

    I believe "war" is a metaphor for dating or being single. Ben is missing the war by being in this marriage (or extended relationship). I think married life is too quiet for him. He craves being "free" again. This marriage possibly prevents him from pursuing some dream of his ("dreams may die"). He is not happy with being cooped up, yet he is too loyal and caring to give up on his marriage ("The shaking voice that tells him go/Still thinks he might/He knows he won't"). His loved one doesn't even know he is unhappy ("She doesn't know he wasn't meant for this"). The guy thinks about the "world outside" every night until "beads of sunlight hit me in the morning."

    This song is so great because it is about conflicting emotions, which is very typical of Ben's music, but which is also what makes his songs so brilliant: we all as humans constantly feel conflicting emotions, and life is about dealing with those feelings. In this song, though Ben yearns to be out in the world again, he doesn't have the courage to break away from the stability of his current marital life.
    amateurboyon September 24, 2002   Link
  • +1
    General CommentHHealy is right, there is never a line in the song that says she doesn't like a baby.

    Ben Folds is a fucking genius
    Foo Ruleson September 26, 2004   Link
  • 0
    General CommentWhat's this about, people? AIM:emann333, email: emilio_333@hotmail.com...... or feel free to Private Message me! Thanks! :)
    emann333on June 21, 2002   Link
  • 0
    General CommentI think that this song, which is a great song, is about either a man getting drunk, and in fights all the time, or a man getting drunk, coming home, and beating his wife. That was just my first impression upon reading the actual lyrics.
    toaston June 22, 2002   Link
  • 0
    General Commentthe fucking girl treats him like shit.
    KissOfFalseHopeon July 03, 2002   Link
  • 0
    General CommentI think that this is about "missing the war" at home. Perhaps a teenager coming home in the morning and seeing the after-effects of his drunken father who gets into fights (pissed and beaten) and beating his mother. This domestic violence happens a lot (happens all the time, it's no big deal), and the teenager tries to avoid "the war" and by not being home, he is "missing the war all night", and facing it in the morning. I don't know either... it's just my 2 cents...
    Jackion July 05, 2002   Link
  • 0
    General CommentATTENTION: TAKE OUT THE LINE AFTER "SHE'S SLEEPIN LIKE A BABY" please. the line after it is "She doesn't know he wasnt' meant for this" I promise! :)
    HHealy84on September 23, 2002   Link
  • 0
    General CommentAmateurboy, I know your post was written almost two years ago, but it's bang-on to what I was going to write just now. Heh...good job.
    facedownowlson May 21, 2004   Link
  • 0
    General CommentThe song is about a guy who is stuck in what appears to be a purely physical relationship ("clothes all strewn around the bedroom floor") that has long since become suffocating for him.

    He can't sleep and he's full of self-disgust for his inability to end the relationship like he wants to ("He drove home again pissed and beaten") out of fear of hurting her. ("She's sleepin' like a baby, she doesn't know he wasn't meant for this.")

    "I'm missing the war, all my life" and "So much time, so little to say...time may fly, dreams may die" are all further proof that he's stagnating in a relationship and a lifestyle that makes him restless, regretful about the things he could have/should have done, and miserable that he doesn't have the strength to end it now ("The shaking voice that tells him go still thinks he might, but he knows he wont...").
    Bullzeyeon April 13, 2005   Link
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    General CommentWhile he "war" could be about a girl, I think it was the period in his life when he was more alive and fought for everything.

    Now he's got no fight left in him.

    I think that the jotted figures could be taxes or bills to pay. He drive home pissed and beaten because he doesn't like his job. And though his partner is perfectly content with the life that they're living, he wonders when it was that he surrendered to this lifestyle.
    drosson February 15, 2006   Link

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