"Selfless, Cold, and Composed" as written by and Ben Folds....
I said what you wanted to hear
And what I wanted to say
So I will take it back
Are all the dishes intact?
Let them be broken, broken

It's easy to be
Easy and free
When it doesn't mean anything
You remain selfless, cold and

You've done me no favor
To call and be nice
Telling me I
Can take anything I like
You don't owe me to be so
You've done no wrong
You've done no wrong
Get out of my sight


Come on baby now throw me
A right to the chin
Don't just stare like
You never cared
I know you did
But you just smile
Like a bank teller
Blankly telling me
Have a nice life
Come on baby now
Throw me a right
To the chin
Just one sign that could
Show me that you give a
But you just smile politely
And I grow weaker and I
Said what you wanted to hear
And what I wanted to say
So I will take it back


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"Selfless, Cold and Composed" as written by Ben Folds

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  • +3
    General CommentAmazing.

    This song does exactly what lyrics should do. The soulfull expression of a single emotion.

    What kind of pain would you feel if someone you loved replaced their love with nothing? How do you handle apathy?

    It would hurt.

    I can feel it. Reading these lyrics makes me feel like Ben is still out there singing this song, trying to fight or laugh or cry with this girl.
    Greyshoeson August 02, 2005   Link
  • +1
    General Commentive always noticed that the line "are all the dishes intact?" matches up with the line in fair "she shattered her last china plate". its always seemed to me that fair is the breakup when emotions are running high, and this song is a while later after theyve stopped speaking to each other.
    PJ10on May 22, 2002   Link
  • +1
    General CommentFolds is a musical master, need more be said? Really? Honestly?
    OpinionHeadon July 19, 2010   Link
  • 0
    General Commentthis song...full of emotion, full of meaning...just like every other ben folds song...ben folds is just too cool.
    your_name_hereon June 06, 2002   Link
  • 0
    General Commentwhere are the rest of the lyrics? i think in the last few lines of what is posted...it should read " like a bank teller blankly telling me have a nice life...."
    LilacWineon July 13, 2002   Link
  • 0
    General Commentcome on kevster, get these lyrics right, go to even-deeper.com/benfoldsfive/… for them...anyway about this song, Ben Folds himself said, "It's kind of about your average middle-class white guy — the kind of guy that can't express his emotions and has a hard time caring about others. He's the antidote to the guy in 'Dumped.'" i love how the high violin notes counter the bass line and the pizz. of the violin, and the piano melody with the irregular beat is really neat, the percussion is nice, especially the short drum rolls with one at 4:10 that i like...beautiful song, it is "cool" indeed
    geeweyon September 10, 2002   Link
  • 0
    General CommentThis is the song about a girl who has dumped her boyfriend and while he is still emotionally attached to her, she is cool, probably playing the "Let's Be Friends" card. So the person who is saying these words is telling her that the way she has detached herself from all of the things that their relationship used to mean disgusts him. He's still worked up about it and she's calm.
    This is a beautiful song, one of the best Ben Folds Five songs on this album.
    Imani110on September 27, 2002   Link
  • 0
    General Commentthis is THE BEST song. i think it applies perfectly to a lot of relationships. sometimes you just want someone to "throw me a right to the chin
    just one sign that could show me
    that you give a shit"
    xxpianorockerxxon June 23, 2003   Link
  • 0
    General Commentits such a slap in the face when somebody who loved you acts like they never gave a shit.
    i can still feel the bruise from today. i hadnt seen my xboyfriend for months
    dutch_angel_moion January 04, 2005   Link
  • 0
    General CommentGeeway, I think that quote might have been a description of "Battle of Who Could Care Less" or some other Ben Folds song - I don't think this song is about an apathetic middle-class guy, I think it's about a girl who hurt him. Anyways, I have nothing constructive to add, this is a well-written, soulful breakup song, rock on!
    stoolhardyon January 25, 2005   Link

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