"In The Car" as written by and Steven Page....
She fed me strawberries
And freezer-burned ice cream
I said "Goodbye, I guess"
She lifted up her dress
And so I must confess,
We made out one more
Time before I left for good
She thought I'd come back but I
Wouldn't want to seem like other guys

A book-and-record love,
We sat and read our books,
Between those longing looks,
Compounded by our fear,
My tongue inside her ear,
My tongue inside her
In the basement of her mother's
House where she once taped the
First three sides of Sandanista! for my car

We were looking for ourselves
And found each other
In the Car
It was rare to do much more
Than simply mess around
In the Car
It was mostly mutual masturbation
And though we spoke of penetration
I'd have to wait for someone else to try it out

Once I had this dream
Where I slept with her mom
Unless I've got this wrong, a secret all along
Unless she hears this song,
Unless she hears it
On a tape inside her car
With her new husband and she
Turns to him and says "I think that's me"

In the Car
We were looking for ourselves
But found each other
In the Car
We groped for excuses
Not to be alone anymore
In the Car
We were waiting for our lives
To start their endings
In the Car
We were never making love [Repeat: x3]

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"In the Car" as written by Steven Page

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  • +2
    General CommentWell Barenaked Ladies are exactly known for freaky songs and more for more humorous upbeat tunes along with a good mixture of serious-ness at the same time. I think this song is about two people who were having more of a first experience sort of thing, not taking anything really all that serious and the part that says "We were never making love" may rather refer to the actual meaning of love, basically saying it was never about emotions but lust.
    lordlemmingon January 09, 2006   Link
  • +1
    General CommentI agree with most of what was said. What impresses me about this song--even though it talks about intensely private, pretty embarrassing stuff (could you imagine singing this song in front of your mother), it has such an authentic feel to it. Like most of their love songs, you feel like you're spying on a real relationship instead of listening to a love song. Probably why it somehow comes across as darkly sexy.
    edguidryon December 30, 2006   Link
  • +1
    General Commenthaha i just love this song because it is so authentic!
    who hasn't had a ridiculously awkward relationship????
    two young inexerienced "lovers".
    "it was mostly mutual masterbation" about sums up this song.
    and i would bet my life this song is true, and i bet the girl in the song almost died when she heard this for the first time!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
    gringokidd2187on August 02, 2007   Link
  • +1
    General CommentNo, she didn't die. She just turned to her new husband and said, "I think that's me." :-P
    Archaia Sophiaon August 08, 2008   Link
  • +1
    General CommentJust thought i'd throw this in there...i love The Clash reference when he says he taped the first 3 sides of "Sandinista!" for his car...
    xjessicaax29on January 24, 2010   Link
  • 0
    General Commentthis song is about his first sexual experience. akward, bumbling, "mostly mutual masterbation." this girl sounds like a friend of his that he fooled around with and never talked to after that. he didnt love her, but he'll always remember her cause she was his first. bnl has a bunch of freaky songs like this.
    zaphodbeeblebrox42on June 19, 2002   Link
  • 0
    General Commenthey, this song was mentioned on radio free roscoe...i wanna hear it!
    emoBettyrocketon April 16, 2004   Link
  • 0
    General CommentThe first time? Nah, I don't think she was his, 'first.' It was someone he seriously messed around with, nothing more. I don't think they went all the way because:

    "Though we spoke of penatration, I'd have to wait for someone else to try it out"


    "We were never making love"

    Yeah, BNL is all about freaky songs, but that's what I like about 'em! And I had no idea it was mentioned on radio free roscoe?! I love that show
    jubjubgurlon August 18, 2005   Link
  • 0
    General Comment"We grouped excuses
    Not to be alone anymore"

    isnt it "we groped for excuses"

    i think its about him and a girl basically using each other 2 explore sex for the 1st time, not necessarily full sex but just being naively curious.

    "we were looking for ourselves
    but found each other"

    maybe the 'experimenting' led to a genuine interest as a person? but for some reason they couldnt do anything about it
    sl8ron January 31, 2006   Link
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    General Commentthis is one of those songs that's part of my soundtrack. you know those songs you hear and suddenly you feel transported back a few years to a time when you first had a song "speak" to you.

    well, this one's always reminded me of "friends with benefits" that turned into so much more...only to screw up in ways you never thought possible, and you end up feeling used[even though you were using, too], stupid, and you start to question your own values. this has always been darkly sexy to me.

    "a book and record love
    we sat and read our books
    between those longing looks,"

    i think these lines perfectly describe sexual tension. and when you're young, that kind of tension can be the worst form of torture imaginable. looking back on it, maybe breaking the tension was worse. :P
    delialon July 24, 2006   Link

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